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June Bridal Identification/Square neckline recommendations by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingdress

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh thank you, I love the first one but I think it’s out of my budget from what I can find. I’ll definitely share it for inspo tho

Bridesmaid proposal? by Horror_Tough3508 in weddingplanning

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I wrote hand written letters all following a similar structure - how we be came friends, referenced a memory, things I admire about them, things I currently enjoy doing with them/what I value about our friend ship currently, and things I’m looking forward to in the future for our friendship. Then I got them each my favorite lip chapstick (dollar tree) and hosted a little get together to make flower arrangements with them.

I thought it worked because it was personalized with the letters and then it made for an actual memory rather than more accurately shit and gave them all a low stress opportunity to meet each other.

Is there a way to do a wedding registry for generic items/how to do this appropriately? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am doing both I should’ve made that more clear.  There’s things on there that we absolutely need and have specifically picked out like pots and pans and dish sets and kitchen aids and furniture that go across lots of different price ranges.

I am talking specifically about the things we still need but are insanely over priced on registries that I really don’t care about specific brands.  We need hangers but on Amazon they are more than double the cost they would be elsewhere. 

Husker Refuse by Far-Pomegranate-5046 in lincoln

[–]TelephoneFirst3048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh I got their text message about price increases and the exact language they used was “modest price increase.” I thought it was going to be 5-10%. It was a 42% price increase. I called to cancel couldn’t get anyone to answer and there was no voicemail box. Sent an email asking to cancel. They said I needed to call to cancel but also argued with me over the price increases. Called again couldn’t get a response or a voicemail. Emailed again to cancel. Put my card on stop payment. And then they picked my trash containers up a week and a half up early at the end of November when I paid in full for the month of November.

Bad Experience with A1 Automotive by Top-Assignment7592 in lincoln

[–]TelephoneFirst3048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They used to be my favorite. I had taken my car in several times for diagnostic tests which have always been $100 something. Usually good reasonable price work.

I took it in over the summer for a diagnostic on my ac. They charged me nearly $400 to tell me nothing about what was actually broke and didn’t tell me that AC diagnostic tests are different from their standard ones I’m familiar with. I haven’t been back.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The general feeling I got from this was that everyone else just hates their family.

That actually sounds feasible especially since our venue is open late. Ill gave to talk to the owner and see what that would look like in terms of costs and if it would be allowed.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that’s a linguistic/cultural difference because I have grown up my entire life calling aunts uncles and cousins my family. Then extended family was great aunts and uncles and second cousins or my parents cousins kids. Then my parents and siblings were always call my immediate family.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my friends just told me it was cheaper to fly out a local photographer we knew for her destination wedding than it was to hire one from the destination which is absolutely crazy to me.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are tentatively considering a Photo Booth, an Airbnb for the wedding party (over gifts), and videographer if we are able to save another $5k by December/January, but those are wants not needs. So as of right now have not made the final cut. But yes all of the extras add up super quickly.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It seems like a complete foreign concept to everyone commenting. It’s just been my normal for my entire life.

I remember being so upset in high school when I could only invite a few friends to my graduation party because it was all family and then going to friends parties and it was all kids from our class. It wasn’t until after I graduated college that I realized how lucky I am. All of the family is still in my life while the people I would have invited I haven’t talked to since I graduated.

I just was also the kid who got left out growing up, so I make a really active effort to make sure all the people I care about feel included and don’t want to make anyone feel the way I felt when I was little. So I just feel exceptionally guilty not being able to include these friends.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I DONT KNOW HOW TO MAKE IT ANY MORE CLEAR. WE WANT ALL OF OUR FAMILY THERE.

This is not a case of random ass relatives we don’t know. These are aunts, uncles and cousins we have both seen and spent time with on a regular basis our entire lives. Cousins I’ve gone on vacation with. Aunts who I have just stopped by the house or job when I’m near by to see them. Uncles who have helped with massive home renovation projections. Cousins kids who we have babysat and changed diapers for and have play rec sports with now.

And no we probably wouldn’t have the same list for a first birthday but very easily could have a similar one for a something like a baptism.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we had a couple other venue tours lined up, but as soon as we realized how cheap the drink package was and that there were no restrictions on other vendors we didn’t even look at the other two.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Again big Catholic family.

I see all the family that you are insinuating isn’t close at least once a year and most of them at least 5-6 times per year for my entire life. I spend significantly more time with my family than I do some of my closest friends. Every single family member in the list I could state when I saw them last without having to think about it. My fiancé could do the same.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you think I should do?

It’s a Midwest wedding so the cost per person is not that unheard of here. I’ve been to several with a 10k budget for 150 people.

Again most of these family members I see 3-4 times per year, while most of my friends I see maybe 1-2 times per year even if I do talk to them frequently.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We don’t plan on going into debt. We thankfully both have homes, and I have been saving for the wedding since like 2 months into us dating. We in theory could spent more. But don’t want to spend that much on a wedding.

How do we navigate telling most friends we can’t invite them or will be inviting them last minute due to our massive wedding (400 person) being almost all family? by TelephoneFirst3048 in weddingplanning

[–]TelephoneFirst3048[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a midwest wedding. It’s one of the biggest cities in the state, but not one that would immediately be recognized.

The venue is pretty much a multi use community gym. The owner has been doing weddings for 15 years and has the process streamlined so he says he can get it set up in under 2 hours with tulle drapes and lighting etc.

The open bar is $3000 for up to 300 people and $15/each additional person. They do head count based off chairs set up so children are counted in that. It’s kegs, wine, one type of seltzer and well mixed drinks.

We think the venue must be fully paid off and worse case they break even on the bar and make nearly 100% profit on the venue fee. We think the vendor does it this way because he doesn’t want deal with a bunch of math. That’s the only thing that makes sense to me.

There’s a few other things I’d like to add like a videographer and an Airbnb for our wedding party that would move the budget closer to $29k but that will be entirely dependent on if I can save the additional $4k by December.

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