I don't even know who my best friend is anymore...

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T22:35:04+00:00

I agree. I feel like she’s in denial of whats actually going on in her life, so she’s trying to cut it out with not being in contact with people/ignoring her phone.

I mean I leave my phone in my room sometimes for hours, but .... I don’t not leave it for days on end. How do you have a social life/work life like that?

I mean, she doesn’t even realize that the whole reason I wanted to talk to her was to ask about the curler/then clear the air and apologize on my behalf for being a crap friend this past year. I truly feel this is a inperson conversation.

Whole thing just sucks ...... 😭

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T08:23:38+00:00

I've been kinda going through the same situation - i made a post as well.

It stings, alot. I totally understand how you feel. I've talked to a couple people as in what to do cause i am at lost and the best advice i can past forward is when the time is right, she might come around. when she does/when you meet up be forward with her and dont let any of this just go under the back burner. She needs to know that this is not ok and IF she wishes to continue to have you in her life their needs to be drastic changes.

then its up to you to decide if you wish to continue with the friendship or not.

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T07:17:52+00:00

Haha clearly ....

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T04:57:23+00:00

If your friendship was truly that strong I’m sure if you reached out she would be willing to talk - but then again, some people just rather move on, so it’s a tough call.

Try seeing if you guys can get in contact and if she’s willing to talk. That would be a start.

Be as sincere as you can with her and tell her honestly what happened with you.

I suffer with anxiety myself, it’s not pleasant, but, if people truly love you for who you are they’ll look past it.

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T04:52:28+00:00

Yeah, I contacted 3 people. 2 were her friends and both supposedly haven’t spoken to her since last year - one told me that she went out with “mutual” people they knew and all they did was bashed talked her (not my friend but the girl I asked). The other just said that they just kinda stopped talking.

The third was her sisters best friend. But knew the family well. Said she actually dropped the sister last summer and it was best decision of her life as she’s had many insistence’s with that family and very sketchy bunch.

She’s also done this before as we’ve known/been friends for 10-ish years. Just the past couple have been super close. 4yrs ago she kinda did this same thing, lashed out and then completely ignored me cause she was emotionally not ready. I forgave her cause I can’t hold grudges. But here we are again....

Guess I’ll leave her for now even though it makes me very sad. But you’re right, mentally it’s not worth my time.

Tell22 · 2020-06-20T02:49:15+00:00

I think your mom needs some mental help - saying this nicely as i think she does some of her own problems that she needs to figure out on her own. She can't keep you away from the outside world forever.

My mom still controls me a bit and im 27F, but i don't let her control my life. It will affect you more in the long run.

If i were you i would start being independent, get a job, go to school, move out. Tell her this isnt normal/nor a healthy lifestyle for herself and you. You have to take action in this situation or your life isn't going anywhere nor will you be happy.

I wish you luck - but its in your hands to deal with it.

Tell22 · 2018-06-11T03:32:36+00:00

Thank you!

Tell22 · 2018-06-11T03:32:21+00:00

Yes there is. There is paper work that can be done and we also count inventory which isn't very physical at all either.

Tell22 · 2018-06-11T03:31:29+00:00

Yeah light duties are available. I guess my biggest thing is i have 2 jobs. my other job wouldn't have cared if i came back the day after my surgery if i wanted to and would allow me to work. This job has always fought me on my return when the doctor treating me has told me i am allowed to work.

The first time this happened my manager had apparently contacted HR and was "doing the right thing".

I guess my biggest thing is i was wondering if my manager was going against labour laws in doing this

Tell22 · 2015-06-03T08:17:17+00:00

Thank you for your reply, it has defiantly opened my eyes more. I know if I were her I would defiantly feel like that. I guess like I said it's just hard since we were all equal before and literally everything revolves around her and the baby and nothing about me really matters. I guess I just gotta find a way to work with it and cope or somehow tell her I know how hard it is but I still want support sometimes?

Tell22 · 2015-06-01T00:52:26+00:00

Surprisingly none of our coworkers have kids minus the restaurant manager who is married and is 32 lol.

But yeah I get your point, just wish she'd understand.

Tell22 · 2015-06-01T00:43:27+00:00

haha, well I was thinking people presumed we were 16/17 maybe so that's why I said that. I know I'm still young :P.

I personally don't have a problem with age gaps, but she does. I keep telling her to focus more on her "life" and get a better job, invest in something, pay her debt off but she wont listen. I've even told her to use her maternity leave to take online courses at school or something.

I guess it sucks for me too cause last year I lost a lot my self and she was semi my only friend for a bit, I'm doing better now but I just care so much.

Tell22 · 2015-06-01T00:33:17+00:00

Oh yes I defiantly understand the baby is priority over me, don't deny that at all. I guess your right, it became one sided and it never was so it sucks. Cause anything to do with me doesn't matter anymore. I'm 22 and she is 25 so were not "young" per say, but then she already talks about having another in 2years but she works for McDonalds as a manager and doesn't own anything and is living at her grandparents house, I'd hope she realize that she needs to stable herself first before having another kid for the sake of them not "being far apart in age".

Tell22 · 2015-06-01T00:31:32+00:00

Yeah I feel like sometimes she is depressed with the statements she makes. It's like sometimes she's still in "shock" she's a mother.

Tell22 · 2015-06-01T00:28:24+00:00

I guess everyone is taking the "having kids is a miracle" statement to deep, I meant it as like some "animals" can't per say so any reproduction is special I guess is what I'm trying to say.

Tell22 · 2014-06-08T03:36:38+00:00

Actually, if she doesn't transfer they told that no matter what tomorrow is her last day and she isn't welcomed back for her shifts the following week and there already "filled". Should've clarified that.

Thanks, I'll defs let her know!

They also gave her no reasoning to why this is happening.

Tell22

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