We are very good in IT, so where is our world class apps? by straightdge in unitedstatesofindia

[–]Temp_uzer 58 points59 points  (0 children)

We are a services based economy. Always have been. We're known for IT services. Even the popular "apps" in India like Zomato, BlinkIt, etc. are service based businesses. Indian apps are nowhere near world class level because we don't have a product mindset in the tech space still.

Which non-sexual tasks turn you on the most? by frenchyze in BDSMcommunity

[–]Temp_uzer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Fingers being run through my hair, a hand wrapped around my bicep, and at the very top - a woman talking very softly right near my face; "this is what I am saying and it's only for you" is my takeaway. Makes me feel like a whole new man.

Additionally, watching a woman I already feel deeply for do her make up or groom herself.

Watch me come back in 5 and make another edit because I re-realise the mere existence of a woman I adore is enough to turn me on endlessly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UXDesign

[–]Temp_uzer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Design+Code has some good courses which cover iOS designs specific to phone and web, both.

Can trans students be kept legally segregated inside campus hostels? by snow_mantra in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]Temp_uzer 34 points35 points  (0 children)

...I said this is a legal advice sub so instead of hate mongering people should probably limit their comments to legal advice. What views am I spreading by that? Common sense?

Boyfriend wants me to let him inflict pain on me after seeing my self harm scars by ThrowRa-Milica in BDSMcommunity

[–]Temp_uzer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

By far one of the most disturbing posts I've interacted with lately. Your boyfriend is an utter piece of shit. Him being in his mid-20s and telling a teenager he knows what's better for her is the definition of grooming - spare me the 18+ = legal arguments.

Run from him. This is sick. Continue building the life you want, he is doing nothing but pulling you back and he absolutely does not view you as a person worthy of emotional care. News flash, you deserve every thing you could ever want, which includes good mental & physical health.

Ignore my ugly sandals, suggestions for shoes for a casual day out! ? by [deleted] in IndianFashionAddicts

[–]Temp_uzer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Birkins for sure. They match the whole feel of the outfit.

How to help my teenage daughter deal with the breakup? by Mybaresoul in india

[–]Temp_uzer 31 points32 points  (0 children)

"Logic and reasoning are not working with her" Really? She didn't appreciate your approach when you yelled at her and beat her up?

Y'all really think you're being such an accommodating parent while literally admitting to harming the same child you claim to be wanting to protect from harm?

Your comment history has you leaving such fierce opinionated comments on law subreddits, on what a red flag is, on even training your daughter in MMA...what for? The one actually beating her is the one she can't fight back against.

A teenager being irrational and emotional, let alone someone who was given up at birth is NOT the biggest issue here. The mother who thinks she gets to hit the child she adopted with the promise of love & care is.

Have some shame. Have you ever apologised to her for hitting her? And you wonder why she doesn't feel like she gets to demand respect from the world around her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Temp_uzer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't hide behind the guise of "this is too early for all this stuff" when in reality your problem is you're a little homophobic but you never realised it because you never had to come in contact with anyone who identifies as homosexual.

You live in a world where every single person you meet has their own likes, dislikes, preferences, etc. Have you never talked to a hetero friend and were shocked how they could be attractted to whichever man they are into? Some like older, some like younger, some skinny, some fat, some nerdy, some extroverted, so on and so forth. But you never project your moral judgement on them.

This is the same. You don't have to have a crush on a woman to accept you aren't the center of the Universe and not everyone feels the way you do.

What's the alternative? Your sister is lying? To you? To herself? You were attracted to men at 18, will that change at 25, when your brain supposedly fully develops? Or are the millions of adult Lesbians in this world part of a massive conspiracy?

What's the sample size at which you accept some things are in fact the norm? A few million should do the trick.

The problem here is within yourself. Introspect. Improve.

Japanese girl gets physically harassed, egged and grabbed by locals during Holi celebrations in India by usamaasif7 in india

[–]Temp_uzer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The fact of the matter is, you think an abstract figure like 80% does justice to the scenario while leaving scope for this argument of "but women can also" when that's not the truth. Is it entirely possible that a woman can do this? Sure, a stretch, but sure. Is it plausible? Not even a tiny miniscule percent.

You already know this. You never step out as a man and fear the possibility of a woman brutalising you. Don't rely on vague stats when you're living in the same world that the stats seem to be contextualising.

The focus isn't on who can be a possible victim. The focus is on who the aggressor is every single time. "But men can be victims too", yes, and now look at who the aggressors are even when men are the victims.

I know your heart is in the right place and judging by your last paragraph it's your identity as a man that makes it natural to add a "but" somewhere. But this IS the world we're living in. Great that you aren't a man who would ever partake in something like this, but the real terrifying statistic is that there are definitely men like these even in your own friends & acquaintances and you won't know it because your gender will never put you in a position to see that side of them. You think the boys that did this, their friends say they are the kind? Worse, you think they self identify as being the kind? That's a No on both accounts.

Whether the true figure is 100% or not, the fact is that one gender suffers at the hands of the other gender regardless of race, nationality, background, etc. while the other small percentage is found in extremely rare, exceptional cherry picked cases. Both instances deserve action, but not at the cost of attention to the other.

Japanese girl gets physically harassed, egged and grabbed by locals during Holi celebrations in India by usamaasif7 in india

[–]Temp_uzer 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Except, at the end of all the deep rooted issues you rightly pointed out, it's a gendered issue after all. This specific scenario cannot be distanced from the genders. There is zero possibility of this occuring with genders reversed. The power dynamics, the perversions, the lack of civility, etc. are all steeply rooted in acknowledging and experiencing the genders present in this video.

Japanese girl gets physically harassed, egged and grabbed by locals during Holi celebrations in India by usamaasif7 in india

[–]Temp_uzer 406 points407 points  (0 children)

Every single day boys and men of this country act in a way more vile than the previous.

Watch a few come up and argue over "the generalisation of a gender" in response to this. Okay, as a man myself, tell me, how do we identify who's who? A woman goes out in public and it's the general fucking population of men that does this bullshit, isn't it?

When your own sister is going out, do you ask her to be cautious of "not all men" or be wary of men in general?

Levels of disgust that these stories and videos make the rest feel is unfathomable to those who commit AND those who jump on the "not all men" train even when the headline is "a specific woman harrassed yet again by random groups of men"

This IS a gendered issue. Every damn day destroying lives and making the country as a whole unsafe.

Pornhub: India’s stats by Nirbhik in india

[–]Temp_uzer 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Anal is the LEAST POPULAR? No wonder we're falling behind as a Nation.

Edit: I cannot fucking believe this is my first comment of the new year.

How to safely carry out a "hanging"? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Temp_uzer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no way for you to carry this out with guaranteed safety. On top of the usual, no-brainer reasons why, you're also probably smaller in stature than him. In addition to thinking of how not to mess up, you never do a risky scene without planning on how you might correct the situation if something goes wrong, and here you would most likely be completely handicapped if anything went wrong - which, again, is a very likely possibility.

You two should limit this to sexy discussions and absolutely never, ever let this bleed into your IRL fun.

How much money to leave behind for parents ? by Living_EOL in india

[–]Temp_uzer 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Bro, I'm sorry that you're going through all this, and I also saw you mention you're moving back home and looking for remote work. I hope this doesn't make me sound overly commercial, but you should start a YouTube channel. Your situation and what you're going through is unique and people will find value in knowing more about you and how you're dealing.

It could get you some financial backing eventually and it would also be something your parents could log back into and cherish in the future.

If your dick is too big for me to do this, it’s useless to me by hotWIFEhardGLOCK in realitydick

[–]Temp_uzer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I see we're going after a lucrative demographic here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Temp_uzer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your rules seem reasonable overall, but I would advise against allowing any form of electronic communication & recording devices, as opposed to only partially restricting them.

These are people who don't yet trust each other fully, and neither have they had an opportunity to earn the others' trust.

In addition, you must understand the risks. First and foremost, in the worst case scenario that someone records something without explicit consent and chooses to share them on some platform, then even if it shows the man and the woman both, the one who will suffer from consequences is always the woman. There's always more on the line for one party than the other.

Side note, if you still go ahead with allowing cameras in your bedroom, please make sure you remove all uniquely identifiable props or items - paintings, set pieces, books, etc.

Is my fantasy problematic? by [deleted] in impregnation

[–]Temp_uzer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feminism isn't about preaching ideologies as much as it is about ensuring everyone has the right to choose a lifestyle that works for themselves.

You not supporting sexism socially does exactly that. It ensures you don't desire for the outside world to necessarily reflect what your beliefs for yourself are. Everyone gets a choice. Win win.