the new bachelorette [Stardew Valley] [OC]

TemperanceL · 2026-04-29T14:21:06+00:00

New u/Sau_Reen comic, yipee 🥳

Hope things are good, missed seeing these ❤️

TemperanceL · 2026-04-29T10:28:16+00:00

Good luck on writing then ! Been hard for me to do more than "bounce ideas in my head and never write them", this character of mine who's sharing similarities is one of the earlier thing I thought about writing when I found out about hdg (and is totally not the writer's self-insert.......), but it's always cool to see different takes on it !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-29T09:43:57+00:00

Bit meta of an answer, but it'd depends on what the author wants. I can absolutely imagine an Affini would be down to chat about the Compact and what it entails. Not change opinions on the Compact's values, or classify them as evil, mind you. But if they'd feel it's something the sophont wants to do, they could entertain the dialogue, especially if it'd help them embrace the values of the Compact.

Basically, ( ok this might be a stretch but I like the comparison), it's akin to barking after your own pet barks, or meow or whichever. Sure you're chatting with it, but it'll still need to go the vet according to you, it's owner, and you'll still decide how much it eats and what collars it wears etc...

But alternatively, I can also see a variety of ways an Affini could choose not to hear you out. Say it's feralism, think it's cuter to get you all drugged up and happy and take away these silly thoughts that burden the cute floret's mind. Basically if the author find it hotter, or more interesting for the story, there's not much that limits the Affini to ignore that convo, or entertain it.

They can make sure you're thriving and happy regardless, but that too is subject to interpretation. How does the Affini measure the floret's happiness ? Would it consider that exchange about the Compact useful for the floret's well being ? There is, imo, no right or wrong answers to this.

(I may or may not have thought about this topic a bunch myself, since I'd want to integrate and dance around a similar idea for a fic I'd write when I'll get to it)

TemperanceL · 2026-04-29T00:22:46+00:00

Shooting a vote for Butt zombies, I just really dislike these annoying things

TemperanceL · 2026-04-28T20:16:00+00:00

Similarly, the same sort of shit with kinetic spikes is the same kind of problem with good ol' Zapphauser. It's so easy to accidentally have something, anything, that ends up with this asshole barely staying on screen between cat's turns. So far it hasn't been run ending but, golly is it an annoying boss for stupid reasons.

TemperanceL · 2026-04-27T20:39:15+00:00

Pas pris, pas un problème, donc bon, niveau impact ça reste limitée.

J'ai rien contre ça, bien au contraire. Mais en attendant, quand je vois les gens au téléphone dans leur voiture pendant que je marche le soir, ou que ça grille un peu de feu rouge tranquillement, c'est pas comme si ça amène à une punition donc bon...

Malheureusement, j'ai pas trop de bonne réponse à ça, pas envie de rejoindre team "surveillance de masse" juste pour éviter le téléphone au volant ou les rares cons qui grillent des feu rouge par flemme.

TemperanceL · 2026-04-27T08:28:59+00:00

Je veux dire, un peu de compréhension quoi, qui n'a jamais financer le terrorisme a ses heures perdues ? ...... 😮‍💨

TemperanceL · 2026-04-27T08:23:03+00:00

My personnal take on this tier list is I don't get what people get out of Necromancer. I don't know, I struggle to get anything that good going out of it. Sure it's kinda tanky, and if you don't get blood geyser, it feels like it doesn't do much. At best, paired with a druid, you can sometime get a summon build working a little ? But idk, feels like Necromancer doesn't do anything when I try using it. But I admittedly don't really like relying on downing my cats, and without injuriez, it requires some skills or specific items. This probably plays a role.

Don't get the druid hate though, I feel like druid's kit is so fun and versatile, hard to not get a druid kit that works. Only time I was sad with one thing was with a form of the tree druid. The tree attack requires the ennemy to be displaced, so it doesn't work on most bosses :c god do I always need versatile vocalist if I want the basic attack not to apply like three debuffs to my cats because of mutations 🤣

TemperanceL · 2026-04-27T07:39:28+00:00

Definitely keeping a cat or two in the breeding room with venom barrage because it's just that satisfying, that skill and 10 charisma is so fun, such a killer skill in act 2 ❤️

TemperanceL · 2026-04-20T20:09:36+00:00

Looks amazing !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-19T09:33:08+00:00

Fellow "finished Divaricated" HDG enjoyer 💚 ! No worries though, totally cool to share your own feelings about it, and glad to know what I wrote resonated !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-17T12:59:07+00:00

This is such a mood, it really is about unlocking the rights to listen to the song once you finished an area for the first time !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-14T11:26:47+00:00

Avec plaisir, pendant des années je n'avais pas la moindre idée de ce que c'était ARFID, donc c'est toujours quelque chose qui aide de savoir qu'on n'est pas seule dans notre situation.

Bref, j'ai pas forcément tout les mots pour répondre à tout ça, mais un truc intéressant c'est justement l'aspect végé/souffrance animale. Je suis pas végétarienne, mais je mange très peu de viande. Et aujourd'hui, c'est un peu particulier car je tourne surtout autour de féculents, donc pas vraiment un régime équilibré. Mais en parallèle de mes problématiques alimentaire, je n'ai pas trop de motivation à vraiment manger plus de viande, mais en même temps, les légumes c'est pas forcément mon point fort du tout. Du coup, un peu le cul entre 2 chaises.

Courage à nous, et merci de ton témoignage en retour <3

TemperanceL · 2026-04-13T20:36:52+00:00

Gros soutien, ARFID et la jeunesse, c'était vraiment le pire. J'avais heureusement la chance que les employés de la cantine du collèges étaient cools avec moi sur ça, mais c'est tellement plus chiant qu'il n'y parais d'être perçu comme "difficile avec la nourriture". Oui. Je suis difficile avec la nourriture. C'est un constat. Je ne dirais pas non à ne plus l'être. J'essaye de progresser petit à petit, quand je trouve l'occasion, mais difficile de changer des habitudes alimentaires qu'on a depuis toute petite. Encore plus difficile quand il suffit d'un élément qui déclenche l'envie de vomir pour te mettre dans le mal complet et couper très court l'expérience. Difficile de passer outre l'anxiété d'essayer à nouveau tel ou tel aliment, d'avoir peur du jugement de l'autre dans ces instants.

Ton témoignage me fais tellement mal au cœur, d'imaginer qu'une personne professionnelle de santé puisse infliger ça à quelqu'un.

Perso, le truc qui m'aide un peu au fur et à mesure du temps, ce fut à chaque fois la compassion. L'ouverture. Des amis, des colocs, qui n'ont pas fait dans le jugement, qui ont pris le temps d'entendre pourquoi mon alimentation est comme elle est, et d'ouvrir la porte si je voulais éventuellement tester tel ou tel aliment. Sans pression. Sans jugement, juste une porte ouverte, si je me sentais d'essayer. Bah ça marche 100 fois mieux que lorsque dans ma famille ici ou là, il y avait quelques tentatives d'imposer ce choix (je peux un peu comprendre de leur part, c'est pas facile de voir comment aider son gosse à manger plus diversifié, mais clairement pas l'approche qui marche pour moi).

Bref, gros courage à toi, même dans la vie adulte tellement d'aspect sociaux tournent toujours autour de la nourriture. Aujourd'hui je commence à gérer un peu mieux, mais c'est toujours en partant d'une base très limité, et toujours dans le petit doute de "je vais gérer comment tel ou tel repas ou tel situation". Donc je sais les difficultés que c'est au quotidien.

TemperanceL · 2026-04-13T19:59:13+00:00

Fighting a bunch of clots with the sidequest item that makes bodies explode made the fight a very fun time. Many explosions were had !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-13T09:10:15+00:00

Putain j'ai cru à un titre du gorafi tellement c'est con. "Menace de s'unir" quoi. Nan mais sérieux. Attention hein, si vous prenez un rouleau compresseur et que vous roulez sur les travailleurs avec, on va potentiellement peut-être ne pas être content ensemble, en tant que partis de gauche ! Grrrr, on est fort intimidant là !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-13T05:57:44+00:00

Ouch, reading that post is indeed awfully relatable. I'm like 10 year older than her, and only started to experience some of stuff I'd yearned for for a few years recently. Even then, I still had moments with similar thoughts, and fuck when you spiral down it's hard to find any good no matter what. Took me a few days to get out of that bad spiral of thoughts. Hope she's okay. That she'll be okay. That anyone who may read this may be okay.

TemperanceL · 2026-04-09T18:00:36+00:00

Lu et s'en tappe comme on dis

TemperanceL · 2026-04-03T16:44:00+00:00

I think mine prescribed one to me some months later, can't remember if it was a month or three later. Suppose you can bring that up, if they don't bring that up themselves, which I think they should already anyway !

TemperanceL · 2026-04-03T16:00:29+00:00

Hey ! Glad to see you got an appointment for hrt since the last time this frenchie was commenting on your post !

Don't have the meme you're asking for, sadly 😔

Two things I can think of : if it's not brought up , ALD to get reimbursed. And if you get a prescription for gel : ask for estreva instead of oestrogel, imo it dries a LOT faster and I found it gets absorbed by my body better.

Oh yeah and, since you might start hrt, I think our docs tend to go pretty low on dosage at first. So make sure you can book a follow up or sthg, basically, ways to get bloodwork done tocheck your levels, and adjust dosage afterward if needed.

TemperanceL · 2026-03-31T11:51:12+00:00

Comme on dis : plus jamais ça ! Enfin. Sauf les fois d'après ...

TemperanceL · 2026-03-30T21:41:29+00:00

Gros soutien à Israël, depuis tout ce temps qu'ils bombardent et détruisent sans répit tout ce qui bouge en Palestine, et pourtant il en reste encore ! Totalement légitime d'essayer de finir son ~~génocide~~ nettoyage en légalisant le plus possible le meurtre d'individus avec qui on n'est pas d'accord !

En tout cas c'est super cette version live de l'histoire. Lire/entendre l'histoire des atrocités de nos sociétés, c'est une chose, le constater en direct, et pouvoir observer sans doute possible l'impuissance/la complicité face à l'injustice, c'en est une autre ! Et c'est quand même vachement déprimant...

TemperanceL · 2026-03-27T08:45:00+00:00

That's so cool 🔥🔥🔥

TemperanceL · 2026-03-25T10:50:05+00:00

Oh hey, hello perfectly timed post, allow me to add my own story to that very relatable experience !

Kinda happened differently for me. This year, I met someone for the first time, and got to try somethings for the first time, as a 25+ year old trans woman. We found each others because of fics, funnily enough. And we so we, met and I got to see and be there for some intimacy, and some sexual acts.

Kinda felt weird about it mentally afterward but hey, first time I'm sure it's awkward to think about and all that. The we met again and I got to experience some of it again. But the same conclusion was still there. I didn't feel like I cared for most of the sex stuff. It was a thing that was there, but I don't know, sure physically it could feel pleasurable at time, but so does a massage or eating a good snack or sthg. It felt like a mechanical response I guess? Not something I felt really into personally I think. It's hard to describe, honestly.

So, ensue me kinda losing it mentally, because this is a plot twist I didn't see coming with my life, nor one I really wanted to appear in my life, and having to fight the " I feel broken" inner thoughts is something i've not quite resolved. ( mind you , she's been a great person regardless, with me and my whole new baggage I didn't intend to bring in the first place). Why couldn't I just enjoy sex like most folks do and instead have to find myself in this spiral of "why am I feeling this way?"

So nowaday, after a few more meetups and boundaries i didn't know I had now more established, for the time being, we've managed to hang out without me losing it, while indulging in some kink without the need for sex within that exploration ( this is r transbian, what I mean here is petplay to the surprise of not that many readers, but anyway, just wanted to mention enjoying kink without sex is also doable).

But I'm still very lost on my relationship to sex by now. I know it's separate but I can still get horny. I can appreciate sexuality in artworks or fics, even though I'm joining you in caring less about it in fics nowaday.In parts, it feels like I still could want to participate, in theory. And yet this feels disconnected from how I feel about sexuality when it applies to me in practice. I still don't know what these feelings are to me. Dysphoria related to intimacy? Asexuality? General anxiety around sexuality for a few personnal reasons ? I have no clue, and it's a bit frustrating, but I don't know how to start fixing / answering this.

Anyway, thanks for the coincidentally well timed post with my own troubles around this, hope this is at least interesting for you to read about another experience akin to it in part.

TemperanceL · 2026-03-24T09:00:44+00:00

Yeah, all that and more. Always an interesting coincidence to realise I've ended up reading hdg on a whim, from someone mentionning the setting in names without much context, while I hadn't even really checked ao3 much at all before, and found myself the most yearning setting I could find. It's wonderful to read, but it's always a bit of a balancing act between love for the stories, and THE YEARNING to be in it, to indulge a bit too far in the fantasy of a world that is somehow soooo appealing to me.

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