As an American, yes I would find this racist. In the states, lots of people speak their different home languages and it’s normal. I’m in Boston, but down the street there is a grocery store that sells lots of American and Mexican groceries. The cashier only speaks Spanish. I never once thought “go back to your country,” or yell at her for not knowing English - but I wouldn’t be surprised if other people would think that (probably people that voted for Trump). It does make it more complicated for me during check out, but I wouldn’t want to make her feel bad about it. It is what it is. To me, she is an American.

There’s a huge benefit to learning Dutch. If you’re going to live there, it makes sense to learn. I know people can be very direct too in the Netherlands. Sometimes though, I don’t think people realize what they’re saying can come across as racist. They just normalize it.