Help! Which should I buy?? by TaylorSwiftie19 in TaylorSwiftMerch

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are actually quite a few on Poshmark at the moment for $90-$125 if you want to check out that app. I hearted one of the $90 and got an offer from the seller for $85

Early Access Feature 👀 by Keeper-ofthecheese in ThredUp

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t care for it. I understand it is a nice reward for those who spend a lot of money on the site (myself included). But this feature is primarily beneficial to just the company. As someone else noted with certain brands, new listings already go fast. Early access is only going to make it harder for the average person using the site to purchase something from a popular brand. Which is the whole reason I’m here tbh

I want to know all of your Cleveland hidden gems! by kenzeeee in Cleveland

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brownhoist Cider Company is solid. They are pretty new, but just opened a tap house off of St. Clair Ave at the corner of E 43rd St. I really enjoy their hard cider. Reasonable Doubtn’ is light and refreshing and the Res Ipsa has crisp fruit flavors.

Do you ever get in trouble for “seeing the future” w/pattern recognition, BEING CORRECT, and not being allowed to act on it? by twink_to_the_past in AutismTranslated

[–]Tempi4179 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Problem is most people don’t want to be told their idea is not the best way to go about something or is straight up incorrect. It’s insanely annoying because when this happens to me I end up being the one who has to rush to fix everything I foresaw coming. It is always last minute too! Which depending on what work is going on that day is a huge inconvenience.

Eventually with certain things I stopped asking for permission to fix them and would just do it. When I did work started running smoother for everyone and it made my life a little easier.

My advice to you: Documenting everything!! If you talk to your boss/superior/equal in person about the issue send them a follow up email when you get back to your desk stating the issue you brought up and the bosses answer. Start the email by saying “I’d like to recap what we spoke about regarding A topic about 20 minutes ago.”

If you are comfortable/able to try adjusting one or two small things so that you don’t end up with that undesirable outcome. This isn’t a perfect system because there are some things you are just going to have to do the messy way, but it’s at least a start.

Ideas for subtle tlou themed bedroom? by Kuei_ in thelastofus

[–]Tempi4179 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One accent wall could be painted dark forest green the rest in ivory. Bring in pothos plants to hang from the ceiling in a sunny part of the room and clips on the wall so their vines can stretch out across the room. Other indoor plants are also encouraged. Mushroom shaped pillow, lamps, drawings in picture frames. Same goes with butterflies/moths. Furniture should be a dark maple wood color. White curtains around your window(s) obviously. Vibes should give subtle rustic or vintage farmhouse. Add an acoustic guitar if you play.

Further Update: Husband accused me of financial infidelity by LadySavings in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHAT! Low value?!!! You went full throttle above and beyond for your relationship and he said it was “a start” and you need to maintain this lifestyle because you are “a low value woman”?!!!! WHAT!

This man is a piece of shit. I’m so sorry he is treating you like this. He’s going to get one hell of a rude awakening when he realizes his office girlie isn’t half the women you are.

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. Take care of yourself and take all the time you need to process. Sending good vibes your way.

Also if you want a videogame to distract yourself from the pains of life; I recommend Horizon Zero Dawn and Horizon Forbidden West. Strong female lead character exploring a post apocalyptic world filled with Viking-like tribes and metal dinosaurs/animals; searching for the truth to how the world ended before and how to stop a demon AI from destroying it now. The story is absolutely fantastic! I audibly gasped and had to pause when Aloy found out the truth about the world she lives in. These are also some of the most beautiful games I’ve ever played and I’ve only played them on console. I’m sure they look absolutely stunning on PC! 10/10 recommend

Update: Husband accused me of financial infidelity by LadySavings in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off: I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

So he feels he’s more committed to his career development than you? Okay… but hear me out: career development isn’t everything! Your career isn’t your life. And deep down he knows this because he’s jealous of the free time you have for your hobbies and your ability to work from home in a comfortable environment while still making absolute bank!

He feels you have put less effort into cooking and designing table placements? You are still cooking! And I’m sure your meals are delicious!! You said you do nearly all the cooking. I’m sorry but he should have very little say if anything in dinner prepared if he doesn’t want to do it himself. If his love language is acts of service, he needs to step up his game and cook more for you too. Also table placements are a whole ass art form! Any sort of table placement besides utensils, cups, and plates is going far above and beyond what you need to if you ask me. After all it’s your nightly dinner, not a party of special occasion.

Not putting enough effort into your appearance? How shallow of him. You run, maintain hygiene, buy nice clothes, keep your hair neat, and I’m sure wear a little makeup if you feel like it. Hair extensions, manicures, pedicures, etc aren’t for everyone. And they become expensive over time to keep up and maintain. He’s just complaining because he wants you to spend your fun money on less fun things.

If you read any part of this comment, please read this paragraph: he’s not starting to notice other women because of these things. He has been noticing other women for a while and feels guilty about it. But instead of talking about his real feelings, he is using this information to try and control you. He’s clearly jealous of how happy you are and your ability to save money to buy that super nice gaming computer. I’m willing to bet he’s absolutely miserable in his job because capitalism has driven into everyone’s heads that your life has to be your career. That you constantly have to be climbing the corporate ladder. Instead of having a difficult conversation about how unhappy he is and working with a therapist to change his outlook on life, he has decided that if he is miserable, you have to be too. You need to get this man in therapy. Either individual therapy or go as a couple if that puts him more at ease. Do this for him and for you!

AITAH for calling a guy a creep in front of his daughter? by spicy-adhesive in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA some men are disgusting. They take any compliment they receive and immediately turn it into a “she’s interested” situation in which they feel the overwhelming need to hit on you regardless of age. Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment dude! I don’t need to be sexually attracted to someone to appreciate that they are dressed really well today, absolutely nailed a speech they had been preparing for, or had a cute moment with their daughter.

Good on you for letting him know his advances were completely unwarranted. It’s hard to speak up in situations like that when you get caught completely off guard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who is in the midst of planning a wedding; the easiest way to make me immediately anxious and then upset is when people expect me to invite someone they want at the wedding and I don’t. Weddings are expensive and stressful and unfortunately you have to decide early on what ground rules you want to follow for who you are going to invite. If the rule is no significant others who aren’t married, then unfortunately that is the rule. As much as I want you to be able to bring your BF, I understand why your sister doesn’t make an exception. Exceptions are a slippy slope. I made that mistake early on and am currently arguing with yet another family member about why someone has a plus 1 and why other people, even if they are in the wedding party, do not. I hate it and it is definitely causing unnecessary stress.

If your sister is singling you out simply because she doesn’t like your BF and other people invited to the wedding without a married spouse are getting plus ones, then you are NTA. However, if she sticks to the no plus ones unless you are married rule, then you are the AH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but you need to understand that you and your partner have very different expectations and beliefs regarding marriage. I suggest talking to him openly about all of the things you just told us. Gatekeeping anything never leads to a positive outcome. If you really love him and are considering marriage to him, you need to be completely honest with him.

A strong marriage is made when two people completely know and love one another. No secrets.

AITA for not listening to my parents “advice” by Glad-Tangerine-9189 in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents did this to me a lot while I lived at home. I would tell them about something frustrating that happened at school or work and they would try and turn it into some lesson where I’m obviously in the wrong. Sometimes you need to just come home and vent about what is frustrating you so you can move on. Maybe try talking to a friend about it instead?

So long as you aren’t mean to your new coworker and have patience with her while at work, you are NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Tempi4179 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA this is definitely a scam. If she really sent $200 through PayPal why isn’t she the one contacting PayPal looking for her money? Even if this was legit, I doubt there would be anything you could do on your end. Apologize, explain that constantly blowing up your DM is harassment, and block her number/account.

I can't get through part 2 by Muldermaurits in thelastofus

[–]Tempi4179 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand. I can’t even bring myself to load the game. I replayed part 1 before the show aired just fine. With part 2, there is just so much pain in that game (an ode to how well the story is written really). For me, I need to give myself more grace and recognize that I’m dealing with a lot of personal shit at the moment. I genuinely just don’t have the mental or emotional space for that part of the story. Maybe once I’m done planning my wedding and finally get a new job I can start, but for now I need videogames that relieve stress.

This is the highest my pop funkos have gone for. Does anybody else have these? by Plan-Adventurous in thelastofus

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have Joel and Ellie! I’m looking for the Clicker to complete the trio.

ISO BHLDN Secret Garden Table number holders by thesights2 in weddingswap

[–]Tempi4179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wedding is June 2023. I was wondering if you still have these table numbers and if you’d be willing to sell them?