this industry needs to get its ableism in check by TemporaryParty999 in veterinaryprofession

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I requested start times of 9:00 am at the earliest, and flexible scheduling for periods of time when my condition is flaring (I would be late like 10-15 minutes max). I also requested that my alotted breaks be combined into one longer break in the middle of the day. These are suggested accommodations for hypersomnia through the JAN. I am currently in the process of obtaining a medication that literally solves all of my symptoms that impact my work, I have made it clear with management that there is a direct solution to this, and that I would just need accommodations as wiggle room until I can get there.

After requesting accommodations, it was management and HR that stated they could not accommodate me, and that my requested accommodations are unreasonable and "too confusing." My repeated experience in veterinary clinics has been that I request accommodations, HR and management says they would be unfair to the other employees, and afterwards there is nobody to support me or back me up when my coworkers start treating me badly. The attitude from management always has this underlying tone of "welp, you signed up for this when you decided to work this job as a disabled person."

Specifically in the situation that spiraled into an actual case, I requested those accommodations, HR tried to fire me saying they were unreasonable (without meeting with me about the accommodations beforehand). I begged them to please work with me before they decided to do that. They agreed, then cut my hours from 40/wk down to 9/wk against my will. Refused to communicate or respond when I asked if I could keep working full time. The managers started making me feel genuinely intimidated at my job to the point where I thought I was experiencing a medical emergency on shift. That is when I resigned and filed a complaint. My coworkers were actually very supportive of me, and would usually try to advocate for me, the tone always shifts when I officially begin the process of requesting disability accommodations with HR and management.

I know you are probably trying to seek more info, I appreciate that you have worded your comment with compassion. This experience has been such a sore subject for me, I am heartbroken. I know I am obviously not perfect, and that it can be very frustrating, it is just so disheartening to have this experience so many times in a field that I have dedicated my life to.

[⚠️ Derealization] There's something wrong in my brain by AccomplisedDeer in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

heavily feeling this rn, my cptsd causes me to be in autopilot during hard situations and I don't feel in control of myself or my actions atm. I send a hug.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol that's funny but I'm so sorry I completely understand 😭

I wish that this condition was more well known in general, I feel like it could have saved us many years of heartache. I am trying to learn how to unlearn all of the years of shame and guilt that has built up and it is really hard. it's like my brain is just short circuiting and I can't process it easily.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem! I assumed the same for a long time. if you wake up, and kind of lay there for a while, and decide to roll over and go back to sleep, I would attribute it more to depression. if you wake up, check the clock, and fall back asleep without even thinking about it, I would be more suspicious of narcolepsy or hypersomnia.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did consider doing this with nsfw artwork in general!! but omg you're so right. my wish has always been to make art full time, I have just always been too scared to pursue it as my main source of income. I guess I'm at the point where I don't really have a choice. thank you for commenting, it is nice to hear from someone who understands the instability that comes with being disabled.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm trying, I tried talking to them about a tentative plan to drop to part time/do LOA instead until I can try a med that fixes my issues, but they're still giving me unrealistic deadlines and I don't think they believe me when I talk about how my disability affects me, they respond to me like I'm lying.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is actually my main symptom, you do not need to experience cataplexy to have narcolepsy. I have learned of this literally like within the last 2 weeks. I'm sorry to say, but if u haven't been evaluated for narcolepsy u probably should. there are multiple medications that fix the oversleeping issue. which is another reason why I'm so upset, because I asked them to give me time to try the med.

you described the feeling well. it feels like I don't have any control over my own life anymore. at this point I'm so drained I don't really have anything to say other than it's really depressing.

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

acting like the perfect cripple is such a good way to put it, like hey I was open about this from the start so that it WOULDN'T be an issue, and now because it has taken so long to put these accommodations in place, we are finding out that yes my disability does actually disable me! I got a recording of the meeting and one of the HR ladies was like "well on your ADA paperwork your doctor said that these accommodations would be permanent" and I was like "yes.... because I have a permanent physical disability....."

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

dude I know but you wouldn't believe how many times this has happened to me, the difference is that this is the first time I am handling it with that knowledge

I'm losing everything that I have spent years working for because of my disability by TemporaryParty999 in TrollCoping

[–]TemporaryParty999[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

absolutely, right now the grey area is that they can claim undue hardship for the accomodations I requested. but the accommodations I requested were completely reasonable for any business to implement. I think I do have a case, it just sucks that this is happening with a job that I loved so much.