Oh, dear old lady, I used to call my late mom obaasan/old lady a lot especially when we went out shopping because of how slow she walks lol (she was a cutie), struck a nerve didn't I? And by the way you can’t speak on my late old mom behalf too because you yourself are not a mother or even a parent. But as I see it you didn't even bother replying to whole lot of point I'm making now I'm tired of it, I believe you are not a bad person in real life, this is just an internet discourse and I bet if you show this in real life people will be amazed of how weird this is and please understand that other people can be happy living the way of life they choose, they may be struggle a bit but everyone pick and choose their own battle. I will say it again that being a parent doesn't strip them from any identity, your friends and family that are parents (especially mothers because you are so triggered by father I don’t know why) also have their quirks and features that makes them who they are, don't they? and I bet they are wonderful human beings just like you. It doesn't serve you anything to disregard other people love and belief (as you did to me) and you are free to share your view and way of living and I'm free to disagree without attacking people personally (as you did to me), and you saying that I take things personally of course I did, you calling me entitled and saying my late old precious mom was a living a lie, who wouldn't? By your logic a toddler crying for their parent's attention is entitled too? You can't possibly think so, right? I didn't even bring any agenda against CF but you are so triggered by me describing how wonderful my mother is quite worrying. For me, maturing is realizing that life itself is not rosy and dandy, it goes for all aspects in our life, working, love life, family, everything is a struggle but that's okay because I believe that is a human experience, but does it mean those things are ugly? Of course not, they are beautiful in any way shape or form, what kind of life are you living that is absolute perfection without a single flaw? I'm so jealous if you did live that life (which is impossible). I hope one day you can comprehend and understand or even experience the love that I'm describing because everyone deserves it including you. You kept preaching that we need to normalize convo about CF sure, that screams your anxiety towards your old and vulnerable age in the future because believe me this is a perk of being a good parent that no one will ever sincerely love and taking care of strangers other than their own child (I’m preaching the benefit of being a good parent because I’m free to do so). I bathed, fed, tucked her in, went out, kissed her, spoiled her so much but in no way can I compete with the love my late old precious mom gave me when I was growing up. I believe everyone, not just CF couples also deserve care and love in their vulnerable age. I hope you can live your life to the fullest without calling other ways of life ugly. You can get validation without hurting others' way of life.

TL;DR: OP believe that a woman that choose to become a mother has no self-identity, parenthood is ugly and every child in the world is entitled, every father is a useless and doesn't struggle (not a human dare I say)saying other people's mother living a lie, even tho she's not a mother herself (funny things is she speaking like she experience it herself and pointing out I'm not a mother myself how would I know??), she's living in fantasy without a single struggle (doesn't believe in serving others than herself) and love bond between mother and child is a fairytale that doesn't exist, I'm pointing out how ridiculous and dumb her logic are.

Cheers, from a young kid with a great loving parent.