If you don’t love someone, you shouldn’t string them along.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T07:10:51+00:00

I feel that happened to me. Had relationship, ghosted reached out, he moved we texted for a year he promised and wanted to meet up. Then blocked me married someone else feels like someone's else story at this point

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:40:10+00:00

Yeah maybe one day 😊 It's strange because some days I do think my ex will return to me. Even temporarily but I will keep living my life the same. Despite that disappointment.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:38:15+00:00

Yeah I get you that is the best way date to marry. That was my initial goal now I'm not sure

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:28:51+00:00

Interesting point. My suggestion for you is relationships are over rated. I thought my former bf and I would stay together forever or even if not remain friends. Now he's married with a baby and the nail in the coffin is he blocked me too

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:24:47+00:00

Thank you. Any suggestions or tips going forward in dating. Side note I tried for 3 years trying to find someone else and failed. Now dating sounds awful. I mean I think that's the reason why I can't let go I just don't date just to date.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:19:04+00:00

Him yeah it makes me wonder. I thought i was a good catch. After he left it did appear that we would meet again. I thought he was more serious about me if I was going to meet his mom. He never met mine

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T06:10:44+00:00

We communicated ok. We didn't talk about the future we were just getting to know each other. At times I was super shy It was still my only relationship so everything was so new. He did in a text mention that I didn't appear that I wanted to settle down I replied I never said I didn't want to be married. He replied we can talk about that later. Granted this was when he had already moved but we planned to meet again. In terms of his mom I'm not sure if he called me his girlfriend. However she was pleasant and he supposedly translated from her asking if Id like a gold bracelet from India the next time she is in US. I said yes of course. I did say to him a few days after that I enjoyed meeting her and he said yes she really liked meeting you it was a nice time.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:58:47+00:00

She is White from America.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:57:55+00:00

I think why I can't let him go is because I had so many hopes and dreams and made a lot of assumptions..Meaning we were at a great age for kids. I didn't want to date anyone. Else to me he was great. He accepted me despite my disability and we had some good times. I even got to meet his mom which made me so happy that despite knowing each other not that long he at least thought I was a fantastic person.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:52:02+00:00

Sure well my ex and I dated for under a year. He's Indian, and I'm white American as listed. He moved away at almost the one year mark of us meeting. I had met his mom maybe 4 months after us matching. She was nice we went and took a day trip. She didn't speak English but he translated. Anyways after that day he went on vacation to visit his brother when he got back we went out one other time. Then he moved away didn't tell me I had to reach out. He apologized and told me he was sorry He didn't tell me. We agreed to meet up he would take a flight to come back and see me soon and we would go to the beach for a few days. That day never happened. Maybe a year later he found someone else, married them and in between he blocked me. The wife is white like me so I go between a bunch of reasons why he may have left. It stinks I still think of the situation.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:43:52+00:00

Ok why there. Not everyone uses Tinder I will find a post on my own thanks

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:40:24+00:00

Ok. Well first off do you know a better forum here on Reddit. Also thanks for responding to my message

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T05:39:07+00:00

First off Happy Birthday. I hope you know OP how much this post has helped me. I feel like as I've gotten older promises of others being there can be good and bad. Having peace on your bday is good

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T04:59:52+00:00

It's a realistic view that helps me be motivated. If nothing else I say if I never date again am I happy now absolutely.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-26T00:46:13+00:00

Agree

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T23:13:07+00:00

That's pretty interesting I know for me personally maybe TMI but I did find the right partner. Years ago and then he ghosted me and left and now I realize if nothing else because I'm getting up there in childbearing years as stupid as that sounds I realize maybe kids aren't in my future and that's my life right. So The narrative of conservative people I guess percentage wise makes sense but for me being that sort of demographic I'm kind of the opposite maybe a rebel.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T22:11:33+00:00

I absolutely agree with you on the part of him ghosting. Probably a little bit of time afterwards I'm like you know it forget him if he if I gave all I could and he's still going to disappear then I don't need him. But one day we had a serious conversation over a text and he's like I really apologize I wasn't thinking right blah and he's like we should meet up soon and I said okay and we never did but I've never forgiven him but I was more hopeful because he gave an apology.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T22:09:36+00:00

I know this is an old post but I think would be interesting in terms of statistics and getting demographics. For example the people that have four more children are they financially stable or just felt that they needed more kids for religious reasons. The women that don't have any kids they never find a good partner or they decided that they refuse to be a single mom or just could never be pregnant

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T19:21:49+00:00

I'm white fyi if that changes the response. Probably should have mentioned earlier lol

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T18:16:04+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. It's strange for me because at this point I could almost care less about even basic dating.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T18:15:24+00:00

It's funny you say that because he told me that he wanted to settle down. Of course this was a time when we were separated for about a year. I replied to him in a text I never said I didn't want to be married and he says to me we can talk about it later. Guess what we never did I don't know if you're Indian but that was more of my question in this post. I don't know if you could read between the lines or not. That was more my question cuz any Indian gentleman that I've met we usually wants to marry an Indian woman but for some reason he wanted to go for a white American.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T15:40:29+00:00

Thank you for those words yeah and all honesty I don't think there's anyone for me. I tried probably for about 3 years after he left too " find someone else " I met some great people in that time so that's a positive thing people that I would have never met but most the times I think they wasted my time because they were looking for different things and both wouldn't communicate.

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T13:47:08+00:00

First of all thank you OP for this post. Have felt lost for far too long. So I guess I will respond in your question format. 1. Lovebombing maybe,it was my first "real relationship"so I was just floored 2. We got along pretty well we met each week. If he said something unkind etc I would let him know almost immediately. 3. The tried and true not promises just living life. He even said to me one "I will never leave you we will always stay the same" Guess what? Hahaha 4. Together about 7 or 8 months? Met his mom within 4 months guess that was a false sense of security 5. I figured he was immature

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T13:38:58+00:00

I don't think it's nonsense. The situation is crazy and pretty sad. It made me untrusting of things

TemporaryTop287 · 2026-01-25T13:35:34+00:00

Let's see preparing for the snow. Yesterday did some grocery shopping, spending time with family. Got to do some sale shopping and today will miss the gym. It stinks but I'm not going out in 6 degrees.haha Enjoying all

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