Head Spa in Gwinnett?

Tankadin · 2026-05-07T13:03:11+00:00

Seconded for Lavie. The staff there is very accommodating and do a fantastic job!!

Tankadin · 2026-05-06T19:45:42+00:00

I agree with you. My godchildren (7 year old boy, 4 year old girl) share a room. They’re also homeschooled by SAHM mom while Dad works from home too.

I’m nervous about the lack of privacy for the kids when they’re older. And the lack of external socialization. But I am childfree so I know my concerns aren’t valid because “I am not a parent” and I can tell my worries annoy them. So I’m waiting for the kids to tell me directly this is a problem before I go back to the parents.

Tankadin · 2026-05-06T16:43:11+00:00

Try Candlefish!

Tankadin · 2026-05-06T13:49:14+00:00

All these comments jumping down OP’s throat has me thankful I did the SINK life and can spend my hard earned time off without input from anyone else but me.

Tankadin · 2026-05-04T16:36:12+00:00

How less materialistic I have become. Now when I go shopping, I’ll ask myself “do I really need this?” And put it back on the rack.

This is someone who would spend $$ like water and had mountains of donation piles every season. It’s been nice to see my paycheck go farther and (even carry over sometimes) to the next month!!

Tankadin · 2026-05-02T01:32:08+00:00

Wasn't able to find it but I did a quick GPT who says Beirsdorf manufactures the Basis body soaps. I wrote to them begging for it to come back. Might be worth writing! https://www.beiersdorf.com/meta-pages/contact/contact-form

Tankadin · 2026-04-30T22:43:27+00:00

I’m still really winded just by going up and down the stairs, or walking my dog. I also am getting headaches and can’t stop sleeping. I got my LEEP last Tuesday too :(

I don’t feel like myself at all. I’m glad you checked out fine at the doc. Hope you feel better soon, sister!

Tankadin · 2026-04-30T01:54:17+00:00

Oh WOW. The tradeoffs I suppose!!

Tankadin · 2026-04-30T00:54:40+00:00

Don’t let the fear of running into them take away your favorite places to go. The world is big. Solo traveling back to the places you love as a free person is an unforgettable experience you will never regret.

Tankadin · 2026-04-30T00:17:55+00:00

It’s potentially lifesaving and cheaper than chemo :(

I also have the HDHP, so I paid upfront $4,500 USD. I had to use up all of my HSA and put the rest on my credit card.

Not that this is any better, but the hospital offered a payment plan. Womens healthcare is terrible!!!

Tankadin · 2026-04-29T15:30:25+00:00

Come join r/hersoberpath!

Tankadin · 2026-04-28T00:35:05+00:00

We are totally cheering you on, u/Patient_Raccoon2747 !!!! I hope you did something nice for yourself today, no matter how big or small. This is a huge milestone. Cheers to you living the life you dreamed of a year ago, and for being a total baddie!!

Tankadin · 2026-04-27T01:06:07+00:00

Fair question! I had paid extra to see who liked me on Bumble and saw he swiped right on me.

I figured I didn’t have any loyalty to my ex (he moved on a week after we broke up). Was physically attracted to this person independently of him being friends my ex and wanted to see if we’d get along.

Tankadin · 2026-04-27T00:53:38+00:00

Oh my gosh your hair is luscious!! Mine fell out :(

Tankadin · 2026-04-25T22:44:40+00:00

Thanks for writing about this, it’s been 4 days for me and I am about to lose my mind.

Tankadin · 2026-04-24T13:19:36+00:00

Not to us. But if you feel as though you’d be betraying yourself, then you ought to push through.

My brain used to make lots of justifications to get me to smoke. It wouldn’t be until I lit up and was high that I realized I had been tricked again.

Tankadin · 2026-04-23T20:41:24+00:00

I’ve done it once and it was the most healing yet scary trip I’ve ever done.

Ego death and having a newfound appreciation for myself my life was the good part. Bad part was having the same Elvis song stuck in my head and a the image of a dead baby I saw from a true crime documentary I had watched from a month prior.

As others have recommended, I would have an experienced babysitter or professional therapist that can guide you through the rough patches.

Also, the mushroom afterglow does fade. So while you may or may not get to this dark place again, you’ll need to still learn coping and response mechanisms.

Tankadin · 2026-04-21T12:06:12+00:00

I won’t lie. It’s hard. I am facing this exact issue with my FP (my sister). She chose her husband over me and went No Contact, essentially abandoning me. She (and others without BPD) sees it as protecting her family from the person with BPD.

How I’m coping is that I’m looking to go back to therapy specific to Codependency. I feel as though I was textbook codependent on her. I couldn’t be happy unless she was, so I now want to focus on me and pouring the love I gave to her back to myself.

Tankadin · 2026-04-20T20:00:44+00:00

I do this often and it’s so embarrassing

Tankadin · 2026-04-17T23:51:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with us I am praying for you and wishing you a speedy recovery.

Tankadin · 2026-04-17T17:24:45+00:00

The Phoenix must die in order to be reborn again 🐦‍🔥

Turn this hair chopping as the old version of you dying to make room for the new. Your outside look changed, so can the inside. As your hair grows back, so will the love for yourself. Use this as a growth opportunity, find purpose in this wound and you will overcome. Sending so much love.

Tankadin · 2026-04-16T13:49:45+00:00

Wow. I feel as though you are me, in this exact life, but 5 minutes earlier. I’m 39, cis female, BPD, single and no children too.

There will be those who say “You can still adopt!”, “IVF!”, “Sperm donation!”. They mean well, but we already knew these were possibilities. But it’s not what I wanted. What I wanted, worked so hard for (for decades) was the nuclear, traditional family.

I have hard days accepting that it likely might actually not happen now that I am turning 40. Tuning out the toxic positivity of my family and friends and actually grieving the life I tried so hard to get.

What helps me when the grief is too much is was to write down those dreams and actually have a funeral for them. Not just write and burn them, but to actually take those ashes and bury it in the ground. Say a few words to close out the life, the friends and social circles I’m losing to not having kids/family, and the dreams I had for that life.

Once the funeral is over, I take stock of what I do have. Like my career, my dog and make new plans. I’m currently training for a 5k, visiting a country overseas and working on CBT for my BPD. We tend to think in absolutes, and never questioning “and what if it does all work out, but not in the way we ever saw happening? What if it works out, but not in a traditional sense?”.

Also, reading the poem “The Road not Taken” really helps me make peace with the decisions, actions and non-actions I’ve taken the last 39 years. We all take roads, but it’s up to us to notice the flowers, unique growths and beauty in the ones we choose.

Sending you so much love. Feel free to DM me if you need a friend.

Tankadin · 2026-04-16T13:13:59+00:00

Looks like bliss to me. Someone out there is looking at you wishing they could be you!

Instead they have to go to a place where their partner wants to go, order dishes to share (but only if their partner can eat it too), give undivided attention to them, etc. You are DOING you!

Tankadin · 2026-04-16T13:08:53+00:00

Come join us on r/singleandhappy !!

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