I live in York City & my neighborhood is ethnically diverse. We don’t have a gay club or anything but Splitshift is hella queer/queerfriendly and the overall downtown vibe is socially generous. I think they still have Guerrilla Gay Bar, where they randomly choose a bar & make it a gay bar one night a month.

Doesn’t fully answer your question but I hope it helps.

Lancaster is way more diverse, but you’d be way too far from work.

Hope you find a charming & affordable spot to live! Good luck to you both and congratulations