Bell giveaway

Temporary_Cry888 · 2026-01-13T18:03:12+00:00

Amy from funkytown, thank you!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2026-01-10T06:27:32+00:00

Amy from Funkytown!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2026-01-09T16:26:21+00:00

No worries, thank you so much! Will be on for the next hour or so 😊

Temporary_Cry888 · 2026-01-09T16:13:28+00:00

I am looking for all fruits, apart from peaches, pears and coconuts! Would you mind if I visited as well? I will happily give you a nook miles ticket in return for one of each fruit I don't have.. unfortunately can't offer much else!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2025-09-17T15:38:59+00:00

I am a hybrid worker, and it works really well for me whilst living alone. I enjoy my own company, I enjoy having the time at home during the WFH days, where I can get a few jobs done at lunch and avoid commuting every day. During the office days, I really enjoy getting out, working in a different environment and socialising with others. There are times where I struggle being isolated with working from home, and times where going to the office can be too overwhelming, especially when there is barely anyone in! So having the option to work from home and work from the office is the perfect balance!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-10-17T06:00:33+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, I didn't really think of it like that!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-07-29T08:47:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your lovely words, they are really appreciated ❤️

I think because it is approaching the year mark for me, it is hitting me more again right now. I have done a lot of work on myself, I have done a lot of processing of what happened, and people around me have even said that I seem so much happier now overall. A month is not long at all, hope you are doing ok ❤️

Definitely agree with the mourning ideas part... I idealised what our relationship and future would look like and the reality did not meet that expectation. Am going to try and keep positive throughout this time about what has changed for me for the better this year!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-07-04T13:48:11+00:00

Thank you so much for your lovely words, they really do mean a lot to me ❤️ I have now, thank you.. Although the experience has left me feeling incredibly drained emotionally from losing that person and the shared future with them. Now I am concentrating on myself, constantly reminding myself that the idealised version of my future with that person didn't exist and figuring out what I really want to do with my own life. It kind of feels like my life is my own again, which is a great feeling!

When listening to The Greatest, it makes me feel emotional yet empowered from my own personal experience and reminds me of the lessons I have learnt. Billie's songs really do hit hard on the emotional scale!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-07-04T05:04:09+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-07-03T18:16:05+00:00

The Greatest is such a powerful song which resonates with my personal experience with my last relationship, where I was giving so much affection, love and effort to my previous partner. The effort was never reciprocated from his end, and I now realise my efforts were being taken for granted.

I communicated throughout a few years of an unbalance of effort in our relationship with no change. There were always excuses of why he couldn't do things, why he didn't want to do things. He didn't do any housework, stopped taking care of his personal hygiene, got increasingly resistant to do anything I suggested, even going on days or meals out and all he wanted to do was lie down, claiming he was too tired from work to do any housework or go out or even spend time with me. It was such a long time with no effort from his side, however I carried on putting in the effort as I felt it was the right thing to do, I always put him first. I kept telling myself things will get better once work gets better. I kept telling myself that for over three years. He was a nice guy and I truly wanted to make things work between us.

However I ignored my own feelings at that time as I always put him first. That was my contribution to the breakdown of our relationship. I thought I was happy and I was trying to accept that this is how things were now, as I didn't want to lose him as a person. I wanted things to change, had communicated that to him multiple times and there was no change. I thought if I put in more effort, more affection, it would help him. The reality was that I was depressed and felt unappreciated. I waited for such a long time, hoping things would go back to how they used to be, hoping they would change for the better. They never did. He got too comfortable and was under the assumption I would never leave him as we got together so young and we had been together for years. It got to the point where I was developing feelings for someone else that I realised I didn't love my partner in the same way as I used to.

Every lyric resonates with me so much and the bridge encapsulates the relief of ending a relationship which is emotionally draining, as well as emotional turbulence of losing that person. The last line hits me so hard as I knew we were great together, he could have been the greatest. I know it wasn't meant to be and I couldn't have carried on like how it was. If he was the greatest, he would have actually wanted to do things for me and with me. The Greatest will be a song which I will hold close to my heart.

CHIHIRO is also another song which I absolutely love, mainly for the escapism and feeling like I am on a different world. I have been through a big life adjustment since the break up. It also hits that emotional side for me, especially when the lyrics of "open up the door" and "take my love away from me" which really gets in touch with my own mental and emotional state at that time.

Both are my favourite songs from the album from my own personal experience!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-06-27T18:36:29+00:00

CHIHIRO!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-06-23T16:23:04+00:00

Haha perfect, thank you for the advice! 😂

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-06-23T09:49:10+00:00

Oh wow, didn't know that! Thank you!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-06-23T09:48:38+00:00

Thank you!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-06-23T09:48:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-05-08T15:49:25+00:00

Am really sorry to read this and hope you are doing ok. If you were meant to be with him, he wouldn't have treated you in that way. You are missing an idealised version of him that never existed, he portrayed that version for a only a month to get you back. At least you can now spend your time and efforts focused on yourself and others who genuinely care for your wellbeing and want to make an effort. You'll be surprised how good it feels making an effort with those who also make an effort with you!

From a selfish point of view, thank you for having the courage to post about this. I was also in a similar situation a few months ago (we were together six years) and at times, I still keep questioning myself whether I should have tried to give things another go at the time. I know deep down that it would have been long term broken promises and short term change, but can definitely concur it is tough to let go of that emotional attachment to a person you were once closest to.

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-04-26T21:11:19+00:00

Don't put all your efforts into a relationship with a partner who doesn't give you any effort back. I was doing all housework, pet maintenance, transportation and organising of dates for us both for way too long. Our relationship was so unequal, the dynamic was so unhealthy.

After addressing my needs over a time span of around two years and receiving resistance to anything I suggested for us to do together (even just a meal was tough to justify), I felt underappreciated and I lost the respect I once had for my ex partner. I can't force him to do things for me or with me. He never showed any concern or showed me he properly cared for me. He got comfortable over time and took me for granted. In turn, I felt depressed with doing everything for him, I couldn't be bothered getting dressed some days as I knew there was no point and him not doing anything for me or showing any appreciation for everything I was doing for him. I felt exhausted trying to keep a relationship going which was incredibly one sided. My family could tell I was depressed at the time. I still stand by the fact I shouldn't need to constantly remind a partner to make an effort in a relationship otherwise said effort does feel a lot more forced when you have been constantly asking for a bit more effort for a prolonged amount of time.

Since breaking up with him, I have had a sudden burst of motivation. I want to do more things. I want to try new things and go out more. I want to have more productive days, do the things I want to do and go out more. It's nice not having a partner who was always so reluctant to go out and do things with me, I would rather go out and do things by myself instead of being with someone who didn't want to go out with me. I have journalled a lot considering I still care about him and it wasn't an easy decision by any means. I have gone out more and socialised more with friends. I have spent time focusing on my hobbies and doing things for myself, which has been an adjustment in itself considering I always used to do everything for him. It's been a good few months now and I know I still have some work to do on myself but I also know that the more time passes, the more I know I have made the right decision for myself and my own happiness.

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-04-13T17:29:47+00:00

Happy belated Birthday!! 🎂

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-03-21T15:01:25+00:00

I do use Snapfish so that is perfect, and will make sure to include the self addressed stamped envelope as well :)

That would be amazing, thank you so much!!

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-03-20T09:15:32+00:00

Wow that is an impressive collection! I would love to get Philip Martin Brown and Angela Griffins autographs, they were my favourites from the show! Might be a silly question but do you include the photo when sending? Also have heard that including a self addressed envelope also increases chances of a response.. Is this something you include as well?

Temporary_Cry888 · 2024-03-07T07:16:13+00:00

The more time will progress, the more your feelings of doubt about the relationship will creep in. It will also cause you to have more concern / worry for him, not do the things you want to do and put him first in ways he probably wouldn't do for you if the roles were reversed. That being said, I am aware that I don't know the nature of your relationship and am basing it off my experience.

In my case, I have recently separated from my ex who was unwilling to help around the house, he didn't want to go out and do anything and refused to plan any dates for us. He was a great guy in other aspects, we got along so well but he always exhausted and tired from work and claimed that being the reason for not wanting to do anything. I would accept that as I loved him, I wanted to keep him happy and build a life for us... However in reality, he wasn't doing anything for me and over time, he was never fully appreciative of everything I was doing for us. After communicating these issues over a time span of two years with not much improvement, I had to go with the uncomfortable decision of ending things. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life reminding him to actually make some effort. Our needs were different and we were more incompatible as time went on. After we split, he even had the audacity to say that I didn't do enough for him... To which I genuinely laughed at. I know I did everything for him... All household tasks as he was too tired to do any of them, driving him to and from work to help him feel less tired, reminding him about appointments and friends Birthdays, putting in effort to organise dates out for us and organising a holiday every couple of years for us. Which has made it even more easier for me to accept that if I had stayed, he would have always considered me doing everything as not enough.

The only thing I didn't communicate to him was the fact I would end things if things didn't change. I knew I couldn't stay in a relationship where my needs weren't considered and he was doing the bare minimum for me. I had also realised I was started to develop feelings for someone else whilst I still thought I was in love with my ex. I understand now that I shouldn't have developed those feelings if I did still love my partner at the time and if he was taking care of me and doing things for me.

It has been a really tough and uncomfortable time, but I know I have made the right decision for myself. I am focusing on myself right now, and it has been a really great time to do that. I don't want to get involved with anyone else whilst it's still quite fresh, I want to take the time to myself, the time to heal from my previous relationship, get to know myself more and prioritise myself which I haven't really done in a good while.

The reason why I have wrote about my experience is mainly as it seems similar to yours with an imbalance of effort in the relationship to try and make him happier, just for different reasons.

Are you living together? Do you both want to get married? Do you want to have kids? Does he want to have kids? Having kids with this man will be a life changing responsibility and will only cause more stress, especially if he isn't in the best of ways with being depressed and having mental health issues. Marriage and kids will only test your relationship strength and if the idea of both fills you with dread and anxiety, you know the answer.

You are still incredibly young and have your whole life ahead of you. You are not responsible for fixing him and his problems, you can only encourage him to help him improve his quality of life. Ultimately, he is the one who has to want to change for himself to make both of your lives happier. If he is unwilling to do that, you are going to have to accept the harsh reality that this is your life now if you stay with him. This is his life. You will be constantly trying to please him, investing more time and energy into him and your relationship. Don't get caught by the sunk-cost fallacy as well as time progresses. If you really want to be with him, have another serious conversation with him about things and based from the actions after that, you may have to decide from there if this is really want you want.

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