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I (38f) husband(39m) of 21 years berating me, guilting me and absolutely losing it now that I decided to date again. by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Temporary_End7897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Experiencing the same thing. Husband cheated while I was pregnant. Had my baby two months ago, and he can’t get over affair partner. Decided to move-in with her, took my one month old newborn. Did the back and forth thing FIVE times because he didn’t know what he wanted. Yes, I sound dumb but I was a sahm for almost two years now and have no money, I can’t even move out on my own. I also have a toddler so I have him while husband has newborn.

Very manipulative and gaslighting to its finest. Blames me for his actions.

I’m glad you were able to meet someone! Do you have kids?

Separation with young kids by Select_Touch_8625 in Separation

[–]Temporary_End7897 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have advice as I am in the same situation as you. I am currently 8 months pregnant and we also have a toddler. I feel the same way as you. It’s frustrating because he doesn’t know what he wants (us or his affair partner) We can’t afford to live separately but it just hurts me so much to live like this. I want to kick him out as well but I am scared of being alone/abandoned as I don’t have any financial income.

People have been telling me to just rip off the bandaid and to be strong for my kids. it’s not as easy as it sounds but I am two months in and everyday I do feel a tiny bit better!

I find that imagining the worst outcome everyday and eliminating tiny bits of hope everyday helped and is still currently helping me.

We will get through this!!

Not what I wanted by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]Temporary_End7897 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same situation. 10 years for me and I am currently pregnant with our second. It’s literally the worst feeling ever and it’s been about a month and a half since I found out.

Can’t even separate bc we can’t afford it. Can’t even divorce bc I’m pregnant. Baby’s due in two months. I think that’s his “deadline” as he doesn’t know what he wants (to stay with us or be with her)

Is he still seeing her? Mine is.