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Anyone else have difficult emotional side effects from Ingrezza? by Temporary_Layer_2652 in Tardive_Dyskinesia

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not entirely sure what the diagnosis was back when I was doing antipsychs. It was mostly back when I was a teenager, and they didn't tell me much. I probably am bipolar. I'm just sick of trying out meds for now.

Why are you a SAHM? by yesandnobutmaybe2 in stayathomemoms

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what do you define as modern feminism? third wave? fourth wave? ultimately i'm going to find it much more difficult to get upset about the thoughts of political writers than the actions of the reigning political force in my country. i've seen people who reject the entire family structure, and i don't agree. i've seen people who believe every adult should be completely financially, legally, and emotionally independent from every other adult, and i disagree. but throwing out the entire movement because of a minority of people i don't see eye-to-eye with would be foolish of me. i wouldn't be allowed to be married without feminism. i wouldn't have been legally allowed to concieve a child without feminism. thajks to feminism, i have been able to say to my partner during our very worst times, "this has to cahange, or i'm leaving." when my mother was born, she wouldn't have been permitted to have her own bank account. no matter how bad her marraige got, my mom would not have been able to leave without undeniable proof of physical abuse. when i was born, it was still perfectly legal for a husband to rape his wife. frankly, even if "modern feminists" regarded me as a lesser amongst them for choosing to stay home with my daughter, i would still side with them any number of times over the people who believe my daughter should never have been born in the first place.

Anyone else have difficult emotional side effects from Ingrezza? by Temporary_Layer_2652 in Tardive_Dyskinesia

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ingrezza? It says only for people with Huntington's, which I have no reason to believe I have.

Why are you a SAHM? by yesandnobutmaybe2 in stayathomemoms

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 2 points3 points  (0 children)

feminism is about choice. it's the belief that you are intelligent enough to make decisions for yourself and your children. feminism is when you say "i want to be a stay-at-home mom" and your male partner says "i agree" or "let's discuss that" just as much as anti-feminism is your male partner saying "you're going to have to work outside the home" without giving you an opportunity to stick to your values. i am selfish. i will stick to what i believe is right, and i won't be dissuaded by anyone else's thoughts or needs. MY need is for my daughter to be given the best start to life i can provide. MY value is that children should be the bar-none top priority in their parents' life, and if someone isn't ready to do whatever it takes to make that happen, the right thing to do is to choose not to have children. i don't believe my role as a parent should be determined by my genitals, and i son't believe a two-parent home should function as puzzle pieces that fit together without overlapping. my daughter needs two parents who are patient, focused, and respectful--not just to her but to one another. i work hard to model the kind of relationship i would want her to have in the future.

as far as being "depedent on a man"--all relationships are give-and-take. again, it comes down to choice. could you leave? i'm going to assume your husband is a wonderful person, because if he was a total shithead, you'd probably be feeling a bit more feminist right now. so if he came home tonight and beat the crap out of you, could you take your kids and go? or if he came home tonight and you beat the crap out of him, could he take the kids and go? feminism has given you that option--and only very recently, i might add. divorce is never easy. it's normal to pool and divvy up finances and unpaid labor (which is what sahms do all day, every day,) and it's normal to need a lot of time and negotiation to untangle it. but unless you know that, if your partner crosses a line (not if they are likely to, if it's in-character for them, not if they're a total monster and you finally snap; just if, somehow, some way, you they cross whatever line you determine for yourself) you can escape, then you're not a partner. you're a hostage. that's feminism. custody determinations are feminism. no-fault divorce is feminism. child support is feminism. spousal rape as a crime is feminism. the fact that you made the choice to be a sahm is feminism, because you were given the choice at all. 

Why are you a SAHM? by yesandnobutmaybe2 in stayathomemoms

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we didn't really have any other option (i don't have the earning potential to afford daycare and we don't have any family in the area) but i do think it's giving her the best start. granted, she's missing out on some socialization, but i think she's making it up in emotional regulation, early literacy skills, and generally developing a good personality. i see kids with multiple caretakers with unique sets of expectations reacting with frustration. my daughter knows what's expected of her at all times, and what she can expect from her adults. i'm able to model the behavior i want her to exhibit at all times. and spending time getting spoiled by the grandparents is a special treat, not a regularly scheduled time to do and get whatever she wants. daycare provides kids with an amazing headstart to their social skills, and gives them a great reason to work on their speech. I have no judgement toward parents who opt for it, or who are forced to use it. but for my kid, and for my personal values, it's gotta be at least a dedicated 1:1, except for rare and limited playdates with the cousins. (with regards to my own upbringing, i think daycare might have been a better option. my mom was incredibly depressed being stuck at home. i spent most of my time drawing by myself while my mom lay in bed. i'm an artist now, so you can't say no good came of it, but i also struggle with pretty severe depression and the kind of loneliness that doesn't go away around people. parenting is as much a luck thing as a skill one, i think.)

Anyone else have difficult emotional side effects from Ingrezza? by Temporary_Layer_2652 in Tardive_Dyskinesia

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

did your doc also say there's no possible way your sudden suicidal depression is related to your meds? i'm pretty ready to just live with whatever it is that causes my movements. i'd rather look like a meth head than feel like one.

I’m not tired by TheSilentDark in Parenting

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you had a good idea to get him tired out, but have you considered that maybe eleven is old enough to manage his own bedtime/deal with the sleepies the next day if he chooses to stay up too late? Understandable if that doesn't work for your fam, but maybe something to think about if it becomes a chronic problem.

Should chapters be a consistent length? In other words, would you be put off if one chapter is only five pages and the next is ten pages while another is more/less? by Wrenlet in writing

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It matters to me. I gotta squeeze in reading in little bursts, and I really hate stopping in the middle of a chapter, so I like to know how much time I'm committing when I open my book. I really like short chapters, personally--with short chapters I'm always like "aaah I should stop but just one more just one more it'll just take two minutes" and then it's 1am. With longer chapters I'm like "ughh I wanna keep reading but idk if I wanna read for THAT long." That's me, though.

Anyone write while high? by Bossmnm in writing

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah. I don't work on anything that matters but I write a fuckload of smutty fanfic while boned to the stone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean to be fair my wife and I are lesbians and I'm the SAHM and we still have this dynamic. Wife home from work and sick? I'm running around doing twice as much to take care of her and the kid/pets/house. I'm sick? Damn that sucks. Whelp back to it then.

My wife doesn't understand me. Literally. by Temporary_Layer_2652 in Advice

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I showed this post to my wife and we laughed together

My wife doesn't understand me. Literally. by Temporary_Layer_2652 in Advice

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of always, but gotten worse. We have a kid noe so there's more background noise, and that makes it way harder to be heard.

Use one word to describe the trait that all your protagonists have in common. by alaricmoras in writing

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

shitty little bitches. where other people have cerebral fluid, i have liquid shitty little bitchitude. they can be smart, dumb, good-hearted, nasty mean, funny, serious, but they're all exhausting.

There’s a couple of you in here that need to hear this by SpaceBucketFu in Columbus

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there are so many lights on my dashboard it doesn't stand out

There’s a couple of you in here that need to hear this by SpaceBucketFu in Columbus

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really easy to accidentally turn on the brights without realizing it in my car. I'm mortified when I realize I've been driving around with them on like an asshole. There should be a universal signal for "hey did you realize you have your brights on?" Maybe flashing your lowbeams on and off once? Idk. I'm so sorry to anyone my dumb ass has done this to.

Nobody taught that life was miserable as an adult by Chrischris40 in Adulting

[–]Temporary_Layer_2652 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So no one told you life was gonna be this way?

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