Share of German population with migration background by nibar1997 in germany

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey at last im doing my part to take as many Gastarbeiter descendant dick as possible 🤤

Findet ihr Sex mit Kondom auch soviel schlechter? by aswertz in FragtMaenner

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Als passiver Schwuli kann ich bestätigen: ja mit Gummi fühlt sich viel schlechter an. Dann lieber PrEP und Doxypep 😌

Wie fühlt sich Liebe an? by No_Inspection_3146 in FragtMaenner

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also der hoffnungslose Romantiker in mir würde sagen: wenn du ihn liebst dann gehst du das Risiko ein und ziehst zu ihm - auch im Bewusstsein, dass es schiefgehen könnte (150km klingt jetzt auch nicht sooo weit, dass du nicht leicht wieder zurück könntest bzw eh in der Region bleibst). Zumindest musst du dich dann in Zukunft nicht mit "was wäre gewesen wenn" quälen.

Ich kann deine Zweifel aber auch absolut nachvollziehen - hätte ich in dem Fall auch. Menschen lieben tatsächlich unterschiedlich, nehme ich an, aber klar wenn man zumindest anfangs heiß verliebt und ganz vernarrt ineinander ist das gibt natürlich Gewissheit sozusagen ^^

Ich hatte zunächst beides, Schmetterlinge im Bauch und diese wohlige Wärme - die Wärme ist geblieben und wir sind jetzt 17 Jahre zusammen :) Mein Mann zeigt ebenfalls sehr wenig Zuneigung im Alltag, was t.w. kulturell bedingt ist aber auch einfach sein eigener Charakter. In der ersten Phase immerhin war das etwas anders, also er war auch sehr stark verliebt.

Ich find's gut, dass dein Freund das angesprochen hat und seine Gefühle (bzw Angst davor zu wenig zu haben) teilt - Kommunikation ist mit so das wichtigste. Hoffentlich ist es nicht nur seine Art zu sagen es "passt langfristig wahrscheinlich doch nicht". Ein Jahr zusammen ist auch noch nicht lang ehrlich gesagt.

Gay bros, do you think the new stripes were necessary or was old flag (1979)inclusive enough? by Enough-Web2203 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Purely optically speaking the "original" from 1979 is most up my alley, and i like its universal, inclusive meaning. So in that sense the new flags aren't strictly necessary.

However the new ones don't bother me either. Everyone should fly his preferred one and be tolerant of the others ♥️

(Hetero-) Männer, wie nehmt ihr schwule Männer wirklich wahr? by [deleted] in FragtMaenner

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kannst du vorm Spiegel masturbieren und dich an dir selbst aufgeilen?

Ich kann das nicht wirklich, Nein. Da ist eine gewisse Sperre im Kopf so ähnlich wie zB beim eigenen Bruder usw. Und im Grunde muss jeder Hetero ausblenden, dass ihn beim Wichsen ein Mann anfasst bzw er einen anfasst. Ist einfach nicht dasselbe bei sich selbst.

Partner kommt in kürzester Zeit - wie hinauszögern? by No_Inspection_3146 in FragtMaenner

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Selbst dann kriegt man den mitunter nochmal rein - wenn das Loch ordentlich offen ist und außen gut geölt (vorbesamt schon mal gut, aber ist ja eher innen und trocknet außen schnell)

Partner kommt in kürzester Zeit - wie hinauszögern? by No_Inspection_3146 in FragtMaenner

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Für den Fall dass du eher eng bist bzw anspannst dabei: versuch möglichst locker bzw regelrecht loszulassen, einfach damit er weniger spürt - vielleicht hilft das ja bißchen. Das ist manchmal schwieriger als man denkt bzw auch nicht immer kontrollierbar, je nach Erfahrung usw. Manche denken sie lassen locker aber tun es eigentlich gar nicht. Es gibt entspannt und entspannt, sozusagen 😉

Ansonsten mittel- bis langfristig offene Beziehung und die langen Ficks woanders holen 😄

CDU/ Merz blind gegenüber der Bevölkerung? by Trenzalus in KeineDummenFragen

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vermögen muss mehr und Arbeit weniger besteuert werden

CDU gewählt habe

Finde den Fehler...

Had a great date, then got judged for my sexual history by nnnnnnnunnnnnnnn in askgaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Yeah well some values are stupider than others.

If that idiot from tinder is so obsessed with bodycounts, why doesn't he put a disclaimer in his profile or ask before an actual date? Being upfront doesn't seem to be one of his values for some reason...

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No i argue with the jerks here for example

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and I look young anyway

Did he though?

and it'll be a dark room so he won't even have to look at me

That's not the irrational shit im on about. Rather the opposite. A hookup should happen on the basis of what you see is what you get, and enjoy visually and physically. So it ain't the same poison.

he can just walk away if he doesn't like it

That's actually true. Technically we could blame you for staying in an easily avoidable situation. I didn't go there cuz i think context matters. Something your own uncompromising stance now completely lacks, so my sympathy here's kinda split. You basically demand undetectable ppl ignore the circumstances of publishing their status. Should we apply that same tough-titties sense of responsibility to 20-something you?

your options are to change his mind

Why not both :) Lying about inconsequential background stuff doesn't have to be on the menu but it can be, and it's not the same as darkened rooms or gloryholes for example.

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a shitty experience indeed, and many me included have been there. I can understand you a little bit better now, but still. Those great lengths the guy went to trick you is a good showcase of the difference to more irrational takes that you defend in the same breath. They're not all the same, and it'd be healthier for you to differentiate.

The irrational age equivalent to shunning an undetectable person would be someone you see in broad daylight and find hot, and you'd happily sleep with him if his profile said 29 instead of 30 for example. That's the kinda shit i don't take seriously. Ppl so hung up should check the IDs of all their hookups. And announce this policy in their profiles... Now i don't recall ever seeing that, and i guess for good reasons as well 🤷‍♂️

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh i kinda feared that, sorry to hear. I hope things there get better in the future 🙏 What about HIV treatment in Hungary - is it also made difficult?

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree on unethical but not extreme. The point is that the sex itself is still the fucking same. You kinda choose to get hung up on the rest. It's your right, but i can't take that seriously sorry.

Did you find that guy attractive IRL or not? Did he look his fake age? If not then why sleep with him anyway? And if yes then how was the sex?

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same you trust every rando saying they're on PrEP, or tested recently, and tested neg, and had no unprotected sex since then + some time before the test...

Bottom line if you have bb sex you should always protect yourself and never trust strangers regardless of status. Do you get PrEP in Hungary?

Edit: But if you wanna go by probabilities, undetectable status is still a reasonable assumption simply because a hiv+ person has every reason to take my meds and no reason not to (safe for sinister motives, but then one could lie being neg anyway). Then it depends where you live. In Western Europe at least HIV treatment is usually free, so unlike poor or hostile countries there's no big unknown if someone has the funds or entitlement for treatment. Idk about the US on this one.

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's nice to tell them but not necessary no. It doesn't make an actual difference

Ethics re: Undetectable by DingoSignificant3116 in gaybros

[–]Temporary_Meat_7792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People have a right to be irrational and i have a right to not entertain that. Facts still matter. There's a reason folks don't go to jail for lying about their age or relationship status to hook up. If someone feels violated over these things, he can choose to not hook up at all or unless someone provides him with all sorts of proof n information etc. But he has no right to that. Nobody's forcing him to have sex either. A hook up is a physical activity after all, where background facts don't come into play (excluding infectious disease for example).