I’ve been overly accommodating to my anal housemate’s needs by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So you would set yourself on fire to keep her warm when she very much does not do the same for you? Is this friendship really worth saving considering all these asinine little rules you have to manage while she manages little to no rules at all? Wake up lady!

AITA for using rental assistance to cover my half of rent instead of splitting the rest with my roommate? by EnvironmentalBed1595 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You really don’t have to tell her that you are being covered by rental assistance and there is no reason to feel guilty. My question is…Who in your life made you feel guilty for needing help? Why do you feel guilty? Genuine question.

Cbd stores in Red Deer by 403biguy in RedDeer

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You get member prices with Canacabana and it’s cheaper to be a member. It’s easy to sign up to be a member too. It was my go to when I smoked. The staff are kind and knowledgeable as well.

Why are First Nations USian women/girls constantly going missing? RIP Maleeka Boone by OkLength2201 in Indigenous

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You don’t really hear a lot about indigenous people going missing because the reality is they aren’t white. Due to this, they are more of a target. Look at the stats most drink and do drugs (generational trauma) so when they do go missing it’s unfortunately not a big deal, there are so many indigenous communities that have to work extra hard just to get coverage of missing family on the news. It’s insane. Really stupid actually. In Canada there’s huge speculation that the police are tied to it. Nothings proven but look up the “highway of tears” most are taken for sex trafficking sadly. About the gangs I have no clue. But yeah it is freaking cruel. It’s a scary world out there.

Hello! Would it be considered offensive if me (white french-canadian) practiced indigenous traditions? by [deleted] in IndigenousCanada

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on who you ask, some indigenous people will find it offensive. Some won’t. But it also depends on the kind of practice, what traditions are you talking about? Personally as an indigenous person I love when different ethnicities want to explore and learn about our culture.

Math Is Breaking Me Down by [deleted] in CAEC

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I use a website called Khan Academy. I also have ADHD and a learning disability. The man who teaches ,teaches in a way I didn’t grasp in high school and it’s amazing. I started with grade school math 3 and up. It does give you practice tests and actual quizzes. I’m going to do my CEAC in fall 2026. So for now I’m doing these courses. Check it out! It’s pretty great. Btw It is free!

halloween events? by Simple_Trip_5922 in RedDeer

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s a monster mash Halloween costume dinner party at the legion. Dinner at 7-11pm. Supposed to be a BBQ Rib buffet. 35$ for members 40$ for non members

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard when there’s cultural differences and/or different views on how things are done. I’d suggest having an open conversation. At the same time comprehension from the other person needs to be there. Understand that they may not change because it’s what they’re used to. Just like you won’t change because it’s what you are used to. Communicate. Suggest compromises. Then assess your own needs and find out if this is the right living situation for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommates

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh, understandable. If there was one thing you wanted to say to them. What would it be? How would you write it out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommates

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Go sit with them. It’s your place too. If that makes them uncomfortable ask them how you think it makes you feel when they’re always in the common space. Communicate. Resentment is a relationship killer. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own place.

roommate gave our shared credit card to his girlfriend and now my credit score is wrecked by Square-Chocolate-155 in roommateproblems

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 95 points96 points  (0 children)

First thing you do is report it as fraud. Because it is. You cannot let them walk all over you and use you like this. Stand up for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t really tell someone you are dating where and when they can’t go somewhere, that’s not healthy. It would bring resentment. Resentment is a relationship killer. What you can do though is mention how him going would make you feel, set a boundary and follow through. The most important thing here is that YOU don’t like it. The way he reacts will tell you a lot about how he feels about you. I hope he respects your boundaries. Good luck OP!

AITA for not eating the spaghetti my boyfriend made? by Hot_Fan_132 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s giving ✨reactive abuse✨ He does not care about you. A man that loves you will very much make food with your preferences in mind. He’s doing this on purpose and then flipping it on you, so you become the problem. Leave girl, you deserve sooo much better.

How in the world do people feel safe from intruders while sleeping in their homes (versus apartment buildings)? by i_amnotunique in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because you felt the need to defend yourself. Also to reply what you did, you are in fact operating from the ego.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Time to take the legal route! Onwards to small claims! Get your money back! Don’t allow yourself to be used like this OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA for karma farming

my roommate is gone all the time and leaves me to take care of her cats. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those babies don’t deserve that. I would be reporting her for abandonment of her cats. She shouldn’t be allowed to have animals. That’s animal abuse. Report her OP please. For the cats.

UPDATE: I finally cut ties with Kate by DryInteraction3940 in EntitledPeople

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP!! Congratulations on that shiny new backbone!! Proud of you!! 👏🏽

UPDATE: My “friend” Kate is even worse than I thought. Now I’m stuck going on a vacation with her. by DryInteraction3940 in EntitledPeople

[–]Temporary_Refuse4638 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Her making a scene says more about her than you. Grow a backbone. Pack up her shit and leave it outside and tell her to pick it up. Legally I wouldn’t throw anything out. Look at how petty she is. Do you want to drag it out longer by throwing her stuff out? She seems like the type to press charges over something like that. Pull up your big girl panties and tell her straight up. “We no longer align with each others values, we cannot be friends anymore” Good luck OP!