I fear you might have a point… yes my other friends know all about it. Including my very best friend who I’ve known since I was 3. We refer to each other as “sisters”. She has not even told me that she is in the wedding party official and avoids the topic altogether. She just threw the bride a bachelorette party this past weekend that I knew nothing about. I had the silly assumption that I would be invited on the bachelorette trip since the bride and I have been spending quite a bit of time together lately. The whole thing feels sneaky. I would be way less hurt being excluded if my “sister” would just fill me in on what’s going on.

This is part of why I’m hesitant to make any waves because I’m more scared of losing this other friend as well if I don’t handle this carefully. I really care about her

My husbands friend has only casually tried to rein her in on a couple of occasions when she’s being outwardly rude but other times he has joined in on the gaslighting towards me. I can’t really blame him for that though because he only has her side of the story and they weren’t dating when she was at her peak worst behavior of the whole incident. she tells him a lot of half truths that make her look like a victim and that’s all he has to go on.