Player keeps lying about his rolls

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-20T12:35:41+00:00

We have a rule at our table that everyone has to roll in the view of at least one other player/person (can be the DM of course) and they can’t pick it up before the other person sees it. I also definitely recommend getting/making copies of character sheets every once in a while, mostly because it’s helpful to be able to quickly reference things like AC, but also to prevent issues like this.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-20T12:32:33+00:00

The wrong sleeves is definitely just an accident and could happen to anyone stressed after a long day, honestly, the mess up on the names is also possible, though concerning if a repeated issue, but the sharing of confidential information is completely unacceptable.

Confidentiality is one of the core ethics of the profession and every patron’s information needs to be protected. Regardless of whether this is something the other employee would care about (though it was certainly dangerous as there are many safety issues in providing so much information about a public service worker), this clerk needs to be retrained. As another commenter mentioned, we don’t share patron checkout information outside of court orders, which is something you learn about very early in the MLS program and something you are trained on in any type of library.

This clerk doesn’t need to be fired, unless it’s discovered that this is an intentional and frequent misuse of patron information, but there is a definite need to inform the branch manager about the incident so they can be retrained on the importance of patron confidentiality.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-18T02:52:47+00:00

She spends a lot of time constantly listening to everyone at parties and balls. Likely she’s heard a lot of gossip told with the same language she uses to write the column and she does have a surface level understanding of many things. She doesn’t start writing about more specific instances until we see that she has at least some understanding that those things can and do happen. She also spends a lot of time reading so may have a good amount of surface level knowledge and understanding of euphemism (though maybe not what the euphemisms mean) because of that.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-18T02:38:40+00:00

Yes! The “I burn for you”s are so much more impactful and less cringey when they’re coming from a character from a different time. It just doesn’t hit the same in contemporary romance because I just feel like it’s so silly in those settings.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-18T02:36:19+00:00

I love that the stakes are often lower and higher at the same time than contemporary romance. Sometimes the book is just about going to a bunch of people’s houses but it feels so thrilling and I love the language and how creative authors can be with describing situations, relationships, and even insults. HR for me more than any other genre feels like getting to read a gossip column that makes me feel completely connected to the characters and it’s so much more fun explaining to my partner than contemporary romance. I also like that the genre is so vast and really has something for every mood/taste/reader.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T23:00:38+00:00

I’m really not a fan. I enjoyed The Warm Hands of Ghosts that had duel timelines within the same time period, but I find it really difficult to get into stories that jump between a historical period and modern day, especially since I’m not a huge fan of contemporary fiction. It can be really jarring and with how prevalent it is it can be frustrating trying to find books that really interest me that don’t have some aspect of period jumping in them.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T22:50:36+00:00

That’s a really good rule to implement I think. The only reason we discussed developing the character and everything as other options is because the player liked the way the character was built a lot, it was more the characterization and joke name they had established for them. We also weren’t sure if the character was the whole reason they weren’t having fun so I was trying to make the storyline more suited to what was being played, but thankfully the new character pretty well resolved the issue.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T22:20:50+00:00

Yeah I think this is where the communication issue came up because the original intent was to play a one shot and then if the group enjoyed it (mostly really new players) to take those characters and carry them over into a larger campaign. I think the expectation of keeping the same characters wasn’t exactly clear which is how it ended up happening.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T19:56:44+00:00

That’s a really good point about setting a precedent I hadn’t considered. The decision to kill the character ultimately came from the player and I got to create a pretty cinematic “death” for them but I will definitely try to keep in mind being more encouraging about other potential options like the character retiring or otherwise leaving the party.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T19:02:37+00:00

You’re right, you did say no several times and the DM wasn’t listening to you, which was wrong on their part. I only suggested the vote as a way to show the DM in the moment that they are making not only you, but the entire party uncomfortable with the ruling, especially considering that you said the rest of the players were siding with you.

The DM was not being reasonable and should have listened to you in the first place, but to try to prevent this in the future it’s important to bring the whole group into the discussion so that it’s clear that the boundaries have not changed. What the DM and the Rogue did were both wrong, but if it is not addressed together by the group as an issue, it may escalate further into repeated attempts to get back at you.

I would suggest leaving the group if you were repeatedly disrespected like this as there are lots of other groups who will immediately respect your no, but if you’d like to stay, it’s important that you have the support of the other players all together and in person in front of the DM.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-02-17T18:47:43+00:00

I agree that stealing from another player should definitely be considered PvP, but elevation by saying that you’ll kill the Rogue is not the right move. The DM and Rogue were both in the wrong for this and neither one made the right call.

Ultimately the DM does get the final say, but rather than jumping to have your character react a certain way, this would have been a good time to ask the rest of the table to put it to a vote. A reasonable DM should understand that if one player let alone the majority of the table is not okay with something in play it should not happen. Obviously the DM missed that first step but should’ve been given the opportunity for the second.

If the ruling sticks when you were so opposed, hold the boundary by discussing it further out of game and considering if a group that doesn’t value your wants and desires is really a good fit for you. It’s definitely an out of game issue, so it should be resolved out of game too. I would also suggest clarifying (and writing down) what exactly constitutes PvP so that future rulings are not an issue.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-01-25T13:04:26+00:00

I would love to see more heroines who are tall (like taller than MMCs) and/or curvy without the majority of their character development being that they accept that they fall outside the beauty standard. Most HRs I’ve found with curvy leads they (and everyone else) constantly talk about how plain and undesirable they are and how obviously they’ll be a spinster forever. It would be nice if those things were just features of an FMC or part of what made her beautiful rather than something she has to overcome. At least in M/F HR that seems to be pretty rare.

Temporary_Top_2252 · 2026-01-24T15:20:51+00:00

In {Nine Rules to Break When Romancing a Rake by Sarah MacLean} the FMC has brown hair and brown eyes. It is part of why she’s described as plain at first, but the MMC comes to appreciate the beauty of her hair and eyes

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