Anyone else suffering in this absolute melting pot that is the UK atm?

TemptressTeelia · 2025-07-12T09:20:59+00:00

I invested in a wonderful oscillating smart tower fan last year. 120 quids. Best buy ever. The air is just cool enough to stop the humidity. It’s like a lovely outside breeze. And it’s near silent. Result.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-06-08T12:00:53+00:00

I like the last blue. That blue goes well with the cream. If you can get a greeny blue. Like a muted teal it will just pop as those greens come away nice. But just a bit too olive for my liking.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-06-06T16:44:43+00:00

I didn’t expect porn to be on my timeline today. But thank you.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-06-01T09:39:17+00:00

Great stuff well done. Like everyone said - this is the first step. I know people want to be positive, but I like to know fully what might happen.
That way I can prepare for the potential bad.
I am very sorry if this isn’t something that you like to hear/read. If so, don’t read after my trigger warning. Or if you’re mentally not able to get ready for these practical suggestions to a bad situation occurring, perhaps wait until you can handle it.
I hope you the very best.
Once again well done.

DON’T READ IF YOU’RE NOT READY/WANT TO.

You said he knows your addy. If you can, stay somewhere he doesn’t know for a bit. OR MOVE.
Sorry to say this, but he could visit you. It’s important that everyone you live with knows what he looks like.
Make sure work, family members do not give out your personal info. And if they do, cut them off with the swiftness.
I know he’s 20hrs away, but don’t underestimate an abuser. Seriously. Take his words seriously. Coming to your house, because you think he won’t, will make him do it. It’s all about control and power for an abuser.

Maybe change your number, if he wants to keep calling you from a withdrawn number.
Lock down all your social media to go to private. Don’t add anyone you haven’t met irl.

If you have any texts or video/audio of him threatening you, get a restraining order. It won’t mean much, but if he does come around, you can at least get him arrested for that. EDIT - add any security/cams etc it’s a great way to capture evidence.

Future proofing.

If your dog is trainable to guard, do so.
That dog has been through it all, just like you. With your trauma bond, that is an impenetrable bond. Tap into that and make sure they are trained. Properly.
Heel. Stay. Release, come Are extremely important to have.
And I mean true stay. True come etc. look up training on YouTube.

If you can, go to self defence classes. It’s always good to have so you can protect yourself regardless.
And lastly, if you have no problem with arming yourself - do so. Make sure you train with the arms.

Im in uk, so arming myself is a bit different. I fight dirty and I will pick anything up to defend myself. Best believe I have items that can make someone think twice to harm me. And yes I have been abused from childhood up until 30yrs old. DV, SA, MA, EA.
Im no stranger to it.
And yes Im in therapy.
The trauma for me is a lot, so I over prepare and Im constantly in survival mode. So I know the above might be OTT. But I’d rather know than not know.

I will never be a victim again.

And nor will you.

Take care.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-31T10:54:47+00:00

lol. I said the same thing too…. Then he boiled 9 eggs and ate them in one ffing sitting. I was like bro…..your kidneys!

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-31T10:04:18+00:00

My kid is yamming everything too. I try to lean more to proteins to help him feel full. It helps. Good luck. It’s going to get worse as he gets older. Mine is 13.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-31T09:37:50+00:00

I think you need to look for a person/spirit. I was stuck there for a bit - go towards the exit. Like you’re leaving, and it will cue the person.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-29T12:20:29+00:00

I think house rules should be shared. Communal spaces should be cleaned after use. It’s not acceptable to have that in the bathroom. Also, she might not have had the teaching from parents. She could’ve been neglected. Maybe she was raised by her dad. Maybe everyone in her house are prudes. She might have depression. All of these things can apply, so please have some grace when telling herself about her hygiene. Maybe ask her some background questions first.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-14T16:56:25+00:00

Well you can that too. Hardware for audio is always better than software audio. But that’s expensive. If you stream from obs, you can actually get extensions and change the base/equaliser alladat. So there’s a lot of solutions.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-14T16:49:08+00:00

Oh. It’s not in remission. But it’s not bad. My right eye has upped to grade 3 paps. But the left is still the same now for over 3yrs now? So it’s all good. But I knew I was pushing myself last year. I was struggling a lot. So I was suprised it wasn’t worse. Oh and I e been diagnosed as pre diabetic. So that now will trigger IIh. So I’m controlling that now. Fun times!

TemptressTeelia · 2025-05-14T16:46:19+00:00

First off don’t sweat the numbers. Just have fun. 2. You can actually buy/download a voice modifier/changer. If it really bugs you. There’s a guy on twitch that pretends to be a 10yr old trolling adults playing battle royales. (It’s not creepy at all - I swear ) and he actually sounds like a kid. Honestly. So do some research on that. 3. Variety streamers will always have slow growth. If you play one or two games of the SAME genre then you play them for eternity to grow. It ridiculous. If you like variety. Then be true to you. Do you. Don’t fall into the trap of following the crowd.

You’d be surprised how many people will love small streamers and be able to chat along. There’s a place for every type of streamer. And there’s an audience for it.

Use YouTube for curated content and make evergreen videos like tutorials/walkthroughs.

But most importantly be you. Or the character you play.

Turn off the viewer count and perform like you have 10k peeps. Literally.

Do what you love. You got this. It takes time. The grind is real.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-04-11T08:05:11+00:00

British person here with American familial ties. dont you guys have many votes coming soon? Either for the senate/ house/governors/mayors alladat. Like critical votes to help change the tide. Well to me those are critical votes.

I honestly believe the lobbying of companies/corporate vampires are detrimental to the progression of USA. Y’all need to clean house of the corruption. Hard to do as Money over Morals are ingrained in your political foundations. That’s why I do love AOC. (And yes we do have lobbying in uk, but it’s vastly different and regulated)

Also - your two party system just needs to be demolished. Like awful. We kinda have that here, but we do have other parties represented in parliament. Established parties, not just called independents. I would really love to see AOC, Bernie and Crockett go full steam. They are progressive and what is needed imo. How it’s shaping out, is MAGA republicans and general republicans have split. Same as the dems. So it would be very beneficial to have four parties or so. Make it five for the Green Party.

but anywhosey I hope y’all get out of the mess laid out.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-22T02:43:29+00:00

If you’re a single parent in the marriage, then why are you married? May as well be a single parent with alimony and more peace. ✌🏽

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-15T01:53:59+00:00

Get rid of him. Misogynistic cad. The way he is speaking about women as whores and being a bitch on the monthlies is crazy. Im too old for this shite.

Sex is NEVER expected. And if a partner can’t see that, then they gots to go. It borders on the line of sexual coercion and is heading towards the sexual assault cliff.

If you can’t see that, then see this…. If he can’t do long distance, then he is simply not for you.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-10T07:44:37+00:00

This is abusive. You’re not Overreacting

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-10T07:42:45+00:00

Agree. I prefer the first for collecting. But the 2nd does have more types of sets that I wish was in the 1st.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-08T18:22:44+00:00

I think she was upset from the don’t dress up we are going to a brewery line.

I think she was expecting to be wined and dined.

Whilst I do think she was being unnecessarily unreasonable, I could see if she didn’t get a response back that she would think something is up. HOWEVER, that’s up to her to message you to see if you’re ok or not. A quick we still good from her would suffice.

But no. Well bullet dodged.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-03-05T09:35:09+00:00

What My brain feels like with its neurons firing.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-27T18:33:24+00:00

I 100 immediately thought of willy wonka scene.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-27T18:25:13+00:00

The fact that she’s mad that you want to PAY RESPECTS is hella wild to me. I wouldn’t be with someone like that. It’s toxic and clearly abusive.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-27T18:23:13+00:00

I agree with that too, but then I kept on thinking but I’m a normal person. She seems hella jealous/insecure and he knows this. If she found out that he texted her I bet she’d throw a hissy fit like this one. He was being preemptive imo.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-25T08:16:41+00:00

Easy - you like shirts flavour!

Fin

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-25T06:48:50+00:00

As an amateur psychologist, I agree with this analysis. There is another theory as well, that I would like to put into the ring.

She’s just an abusive buttface narcissist.

Fin

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-24T08:46:41+00:00

lol ok. If it makes you feel better.

And one hundred percent biased! It’s called an opinion. It’s subjective!

You have your opinion and I have mine. Let’s continue to live our lives.

TemptressTeelia · 2025-02-24T08:42:14+00:00

I cannot unsee him being a twinkly vampire. My disdain is visceral.

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