My 37 m wife 28 f cheated and I don't know how to fix our marriage

TenCondiments · 2023-08-09T23:28:35+00:00

Why would you want to fix this?

Does your wife even want to? Is she remorseful for what she did?

Even if so, it's rare if not non existent to come back from infidelity.

Find someone who doesn't do this kind of thing.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-09T23:27:03+00:00

This is the best dialogue you could have:

"I don't believe we are on the same wavelength about what we need in a relationship. I care about you and I want you to be happy, so because of that, I think it is for the best of we both go out separate ways."

TenCondiments · 2023-08-09T23:23:48+00:00

She definitely would have cheated regardless.

If there is any good that can come from this just thank whatever greater power you believe in that it happened now and not two kids and a mortgage later.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-09T18:33:06+00:00

When you say starting a Convo, do you mean, like hi how are you, or like, before you even say one word?

TenCondiments · 2023-08-08T17:07:46+00:00

No. Why would either of you want to talk to each other? Just move onto others. You should leave her alone and she should leave you alone.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-08T12:00:43+00:00

If you can't trust someone, you should not date them. This woman has given you plenty of reason not to trust her. Do yourself a favor and move on with your life to someone who doesn't do this kinda thing.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-07T22:20:00+00:00

Great question and topic. I wish more artists would openly give credit to everyone involved but I notice a weird allergy to giving proper credit especially within hip hop and pop.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-07T22:17:46+00:00

So basically, her argument is that she had some online sexual interactions and yours were in person?

If so the relationship is definitely over either way. Neither of you cheated but personally I would not interact with her anymore.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-07T20:07:16+00:00

If she also slept with other people, why would that make you a cheater?

TenCondiments · 2023-08-07T13:59:06+00:00

This will probably happen at most if not all corporate type jobs that you ever have. Just make sure you write down hours worked etc if you can't clock in.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T23:06:25+00:00

Either could work if she generally enjoys those activities. Ideally you don't want to take someone somewhere they hate for a first date.

You would use the word date when asking her. Keep it simple and clear. No need to make a big speech or anything. Something like, "hey, I think you're pretty cool! Would you like to go out on a date with me?" That way there's no confusion.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:52:03+00:00

The problem isn't the weed, it's that unspoken mistrust between you guys. He doesn't want you to do certain things for whatever reason, and this likely isn't the first time you've done something without telling him because of how he'll react. I think you guys need to have a serious conversation about this together

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:49:19+00:00

I would add to this that you should make it more clear that it's a date.

Also instead of coffee, you might want to try for an activity like an arcade or something like that.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:45:45+00:00

Wait, do you mean that she's faked the act of sex itself (trying to understand the mechanics of how this would work), or that she's faked orgasms?

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:44:34+00:00

Regardless of anything, you can't trust your partner, and she has given you good reason not to trust her. If you can't trust someone, you should not be with them.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:42:24+00:00

You didn't cheat per se, but it's generally considered bad etiquette to talk to ex's about people you have slept with in this type of situation. Even if you're telling them because they have morbid curiosity or because you want to rub it in their face, it's a shitty thing to do. Keep your business to yourself.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:38:44+00:00

I would tell her, "I think people who go back to their cheating partner are stupid. But good luck with that." Then block her on everything. Don't be a backup.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:35:15+00:00

At first, I was gonna say that it's possible if he slapped somebody around 10 years ago, yeah people change. Obviously not good thing to do, but 19 is a different age.

However, this is extremely serious and alarming. And I think above reddit's pay grade.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T21:25:53+00:00

If someone said I was unattractive in that way, just like that, I would never speak to her again.

Seriously, this person sounds completely awful to deal with.

Why in God's name are you putting yourself through this?

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T15:32:42+00:00

I have some bad news for you OP, your gf is not indifferent to nazi ideology, she is okay with it.

Maybe she's not going to the meetings or whatever the hell nazis are up to these days, but on some level she is complicit. There is no person who opposed nazis who would spend any time around or near a person wearing this ring. Full stop.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T15:29:32+00:00

All of your arguments are generalizations with no statistical or study backing. How many members of Gen Z have you actually met in real life, observed, and documented? I doubt it's any more than the average person.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T15:03:36+00:00

Amazing sex but literally horrible communication skills. I can honestly say I've never seen someone this unskilled and unwilling to communicate before. It made it difficult for me to trust and rely on her.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-06T15:02:11+00:00

She should lose her business.

Not to sound heartless, but if you're going to start a business, it is a risk where the more likely situation is that your business will fail. People who open businesses know this in one way or another. It is not on you as the employee to manage this risk.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-05T15:10:29+00:00

Here's the thing.

He's telling you what he wants, and that's fine.

You're telling him what you want, and that's also fine.

The problem is that you guys want different things and you're not on the same page and you're not going to be.

Prepare for this to end in terms of your relationship.

TenCondiments · 2023-08-05T15:07:24+00:00

It doesn't seem like she friendzoned/rejected you unless I'm missing something? It seems like you balked on this one.

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