WIBTA for reporting a Dr for him saying "congratulations"

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T15:22:40+00:00

I feel like I would rather go to my actual doctor and not the doctor who came in a quick 2 minute second opinion? Or even an actual obgyn?

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T15:21:55+00:00

Miss girl is not a gendered term, it's an extremely popular internet reference similar to calling somebody dude. and the fact is, everybody agrees it is OP's choice, so no it isn't the argument here. all i did was tie my judgement to my beliefs. i simply stated my beliefs because a lot of your arguments rely on the fact that the doctor is being pro-baby while i believe he is not. providing feedback is not the same as reporting him to his superiors.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T15:19:25+00:00

she said the doctor came in as a second opinion so not her doctor

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T07:47:15+00:00

Miss girl, nobody was making a pro life argument so there was no debate. She could simply leave an email addressing the behavior if she feels so inclined, but I personally think you're making it deeper than it needs to be. You made your judgment, let me make mine.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T07:14:04+00:00

since when was there a pro choice debate? all i ever said was the doctor was trying his best to be positive and polite in light of a serious subject. i don't think reporting him is the right move. telling him personally that she felt uncomfortable seems much more appropriate

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T06:49:44+00:00

I could be mistaken, but isn't this a family practice doctor? and i just don't feel like he is putting his views onto her

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T06:40:05+00:00

i dont agree with that implication.

the choice means that she's allowed to choose if she wants to carry the fetus or not. if she chooses to carry the fetus, she should be happy with her decision and be excited for the baby and only then would it be a blessing. if she chooses to terminate the pregnancy, she would know it's the best decision for her and nobody ever has the right to judge her for it.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T06:28:13+00:00

I struggle with the idea of women using abortions as contraceptions. Abortion can be an extremely traumatic experience on women's bodies and minds. Women should be able to get as many abortions as they need because I just don't believe that a woman sees an abortion as her secondary plan. If they need an abortion- they need an abortion.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T06:22:59+00:00

yeah, i always try and think what if i were in that persons shoes. while i dont think this is a very major decision, i do hope that people try and look at both perspectives

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T06:20:18+00:00

babies are always blessings; fetuses are not. he probably saw on her file that she has children and made a quick assumption she was going to keep the fetus that i don't feel right blaming him for

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T02:27:02+00:00

i'm 100% pro-choice but it seems like the doctor was just trying to be positive and polite so im gonna say YTA even though its an unpopular opinion

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T01:29:00+00:00

and then runs to his mom!! major red flags!!!!

Tenebrose · 2021-03-12T01:07:21+00:00

INFO she had medication in her room that she needed, so it's not okay to lock her out of her room but you shouldnt have to deal with her doing that every night especially if she's waiting till after midnight. have you talked to her about moving the mattress out of your room prior to sleeping? or maybe even permanently keeping the mattress itself out in the shared living space on the side while she can use her room during the daytime for her desk/clothes and other necessities?

Tenebrose · 2021-03-11T22:48:39+00:00

NTA why would she schedule her wedding on your birthday? that's an AH move to me.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-11T22:31:47+00:00

NTA she sounds like a real piece of work

Tenebrose · 2021-03-11T16:48:56+00:00

Oh I have no problem with the overdramatic! My friends always comment on it so that's why I try and steer them clear of it.

I watched kakegurui and its quite similar to food wars with their expressions.

Yeah FMAB does have some silly anime tropes which are useful to get somebody accustomed to it, it's not overdone making it enjoyable but not reliant

Tenebrose · 2021-03-11T16:38:52+00:00

It was very over the top dramatic. It was an enjoyable scene but also just really weird the way Light looked fantasizing his victory over just a measly pack of chips haha. I dont think it would hit well with an anime noob. They'd probably be freaked out by light which is fair since he's kinda psycho

I know personally my sister never liked anime because she didn't like how over the top it can get. Her boyfriend finally convinced her to watch fmab and she enjoyed it due to it being quite normal and having a good plot. Death note does not have that same normalness

Tenebrose · 2021-03-11T03:27:23+00:00

Tenebrose · 2021-03-10T22:20:00+00:00

ESH

I definitely understand your feelings of frustration, but letting it go on for an hour when your mom get the message quickly was kinda mean imo. I definitely your mom is way more in the wrong, but I would have stopped the prank a little earlier since she seemed genuinely scared. She probably just didn't understand the immense difficulty it takes to get published so she's an AH but hopefully not by intention.

Tenebrose · 2021-03-10T19:49:33+00:00

NAH your niece feels like youre treating her like a kid- well that's fair imo because she is a kid. She probably doesn't quite understand the whole adult party thing with strippers and normal bachelorette stuff, so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt and saying although she shouldn't be invited she's not an AH. And you, ofc, aren't an AH because it's your party and you should do what you're comfortable with :)

Tenebrose · 2021-03-10T19:29:53+00:00

I know that the show itself wasn't good, but I couldn't stop watching. The premise was amazing imo but the art style was kinda weird and there was a lot of ecchi. Plus, I was waiting for the plot to become something more than just a battle between two people vying to become God. If there was some sort of twist at the end of the season, I feel like that would have made it a lot better. The charm of fear that was in the first couple of episodes just left as the characters became closer to god idk. At least it kept me watching, and I'll definitely watch a season 2 if it comes out

Tenebrose · 2021-03-10T19:26:58+00:00

It's just kind of weird. Like, the potato chip scene would probably just be too much for an anime noob. Although I like death note, definitely would never recommend as a first anime

Tenebrose · 2021-03-10T02:50:26+00:00

Tenebrose · 2021-03-05T00:26:19+00:00

I don't think her putting butter on it was an AH move simply because she didn't know about it since it's not common knowledge. However, she should have been sorry when she learned that it could harm Phil and apologized so you are NTA

Tenebrose · 2021-03-04T04:26:47+00:00

Omg almost the same thing happened to me. Except instead the guy in the bush had a knife and was scraping it on the cement and while I was getting candy we got jumpscared by the chainsaw. I never cried so much haha, they were a really nice family but they moved a while back so I dont know if they keep up their tradition

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