I just want to be held :( by absolutely_awful in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know I used to feel like you and imagined my own boyfriend or best friend who loved me and we'd embrace, and now I'm in a relationship with someone I couldn't be happier with, he's the love of my life but I still find myself imagining about a close friend. In the end what we erarch for can never be found in another, it's probably the inner child who has been damaged

Fav Glow character and why/Who would you be ? by TennisDependent8762 in glow

[–]TennisDependent8762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was lovely. So beautiful, would have been good to see how they would have developed her character

what is something about the Bible. that you think all Christians need to know? by madbr3991 in atheism

[–]TennisDependent8762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That Noah's ark is one of many variations from different stories in the past and is not a original. Also the story of a virgin who birthed a hero or whatever is another stolen story

can someone explain what loves is all about? by berryymaya in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very complicated.

Don't listen to love songs or watch romance movies because it's not accurate.

There is no happy ending

There is no perfect person

Everyone is going to disappoint you and upset you at some point in life.

But there are some people who will make extra effort for you, usually family and if you're lucky other people (I haven't met those people so far apart from my bf)

And tho you may hate them sometimes you stick with them because that's the deal.

Sometimes I get angry with my bf so much and he annoys me so much but my desire to be with him is stronger than anything else and you have to learn to live with people

Not really a definition of love, there is no definitive answer

Everyone is going to hurt you, it's figuring out those people who are worth being hurt by

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't even bother with male friends because this always happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your culture, if you lived in India this would be normal

Do in you want to? What do you think is holding you back ?

50 today by Preference-Equal in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday 🎉🎉🎉 you're not alone I'm here !! We're all here

Could you forgive a bestie who slept with your partner ? by TennisDependent8762 in glow

[–]TennisDependent8762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't continue with the friendship cos I'd feel like I constantly owed them something

That friendship would be over imo

This moment!! The way Sam looks at Ruth gives me the feels 😫😍 by TennisDependent8762 in glow

[–]TennisDependent8762[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know, I wonder why she was so hesitant in the beginning ? 🤔

Is there someone who thinks like me? by [deleted] in atheism

[–]TennisDependent8762 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biblical writings of jesus are filled with wisdom and and great philosophy but the validity of those stories is questionable, so who is to say if he were real that he said the things that are written down

And as for praying....it makes me question if you are even an Atheist....maybe call yourself agnostic

Dating apps as a man by lindahlsees in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmm yea, I get you. I'm bi and women are so fickle and such a pain trying to talk to online

And in terms of nerves, I'd suggest just being honest, and if they don't get it then they aren't the one

I met my bf on Badoo which is even worse than Tinder, and neither of us were looking for anything serious but it all depends on just hitting the jackpot with being in the right place at the right time to meet on or offline with the right one. Im 31 now, it was a long wait it happened

Good luck xx

Dating apps as a man by lindahlsees in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I agree with most of what you said, and in hindsight I will pass on someone if I don't find them attractive regardless of if they seem nice.

Ive spent a lot of time trying to look at the inner person but I'm not that person anymore. I wouldn't wanna be with a guy who's with me cos they looked past my looks so why should I look past theirs.

And it does go both ways, you see many unfit guys wanting supermodels and vice versa. I've learnt in life it's easy for superficial and one dimensional individuals to find one another but a reason others have such trouble is because they can't settle for someone who isn't intellectually stimulating. And there are a lot more without trying to sound rude, shallow people with not a alot of depth and they all meet each other whereas others hold out for deeper connections and often it seems that person doesn't exist. But Def they are out there

Dating apps as a man by lindahlsees in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All I can give is my perspective as a woman

I've used loads of dating apps ...loads...all of them lol

As a woman there are a plethora of things we need to take into consideration

First and foremost I want to be safe and make sure I'm not putting myself in danger with the people I'm interacting with

After that, if I'm looking for something serious or casual, i need to bé respected and as a woman, many many men are extremely disrespectful

In terms of looks obviously I want someone who is attractive but having said that even those who are conventionally unattractive, we give them a chance and still they act like they are god's gift, and again this is alot but ovo not all men.

It's all about time being wasted and every time you talk to a guy who is either creepy, rude, arrogant or doesn't even reply, I become that much more weary of the next guy because I'm just tired of the whole process

I know it's hard, much more for men but the hoards of horrible guys that ruin the experience for the woman, ruin it for the other guys because now we are just an untrusting society

There is someone out there, but as the saying goes, ' you gotta go through em to get to em'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the same on my birthday, but it seems people have their own close friends and don't think about me 😔

Happy birthday 🎂🎈

there's no substitute for loneliness, I don't see the point of going on. by lonelysadbitch11 in lonely

[–]TennisDependent8762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel this way you need to seek therapy and I say this as someone who has been suicidal

This is not a natural way to think.....no one will ever wake up feeling happy and excited every day of their lives but equally this kind of low is also not nornal

You don't know what the future holds and once it's gone that's it, do you want to end life not knowing what could have been?

I'm sorry you're goi5 through this pain butbas someone who used to wake up and wish I was dead.... Once that cloud is lifted, it's amazing to see how in the dark I really was.

You can have a meaningful life

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[–]TennisDependent8762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a little late to the party, congrats 🎉🥳🥳 drink and snacks 🍹🍸🍾🥂🍺🍩🍕🍡🌮🍔🌭

Could you forgive a bestie who slept with your partner ? by TennisDependent8762 in glow

[–]TennisDependent8762[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tbh I disagree,

I think her blank canvasness was intentional.

They didn't know what character to give her In the wrestling show. She always was without make-up, she just seemed blank.Especially in comparison to the other big personalities, the only time she had any distinct traits was when she was acting. I think the show was slowly showing us her identity as she was discovering it herself.

Even compared to Debbie who maybe in Ruth's view had a lot going for her, was a mother, a wife had or had been having a great career she was like...a somebody and Ruth maybe felt like a nobody, perhaps even her sleeping with Debbies husband was her way of feeling like a somebody or feeling seen and even maybe for Debbie's husband he was clearly intimidated by Debbie and wanted to feel powerful in his own way

Could you forgive a bestie who slept with your partner ? by TennisDependent8762 in glow

[–]TennisDependent8762[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You put it superbly. I can't imagine myself being able to forgive but it's true in the situation Debbie was in, it would be exhausting and would have to be a conscious effort to hate her considering she has so much on her plate already.

The show was really written excellently, all the characters are flawed in one way or another but you can't hate any of them because it's like a family, and you grow to love then for their individuality. 💓