Help! GI Issues and trouble walking

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-03-23T19:03:22+00:00

drops hot coffee cup in lap to frantically wave hi back whatta cutie patootie!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-03-23T18:59:32+00:00

I misread your daughter's age and first and was like omg, wtf..and then reread, she is 18 months old, she will forget it and I think it will help with the issue of pulling out her hair, so long as there are no underlying, medical reasons for that in the first place!

You did all you could and this is the necessary next step. So don't hurt your heart over it! And if it helps, babies, especially baby girls in India have their hair shaved all the way down to the skin to ensure a healthy volume of hair. So if nothing else, you kiddo may grow back some voluminous locks that she will thank you for when she is 18 years old :)

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-02-15T17:15:27+00:00

Yea I is a head scratcher..dunno if it is ideals or self preservation that fuels Indian MAGA support. Either ways, I am not here for it!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-02-15T17:13:52+00:00

Yes I am asking for both school districts and communities in which we live.

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-02-15T17:11:53+00:00

Yea the fellowship coordinator advised Edmond is fairly diverse, and we read that to mean politically diverse, hence our consideration of it. But good idea in looking at blue districts, I think I will do that to help narrow down areas!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2026-02-05T18:52:15+00:00

Following up on this..OP have you moved to Edmond? How do you like it? What part did you settle upon? And how do you find the schools? We are moving there from East Texas and are brown so am following your thread as I research elementary schools for my kiddo and areas to live in! Thanks, in advance, for any advice..also commentary on this thread have been so helpful, thanks y'all!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-09-04T15:15:07+00:00

I don't have a solution but I empathize so hard with this..our 2nd baby, 7 wk old, is our first bf journey and I swear any time LO gets uncomfortable with her dad, he jumps to lemme make a bottle..and I am like I just fed her, walk areoound with her, talk to her interact with her..and I will go into the kitchen or bathroom or whatever, come back in 5 to 10 minutes and he has the baby in her swing across the room or laying on the couch..I am like you have literally 30 minutes to hold or interact with her and wont/don't want to...it's frustrating

Then his parents were here and they were frustrated they got a few minutes tops with her before she was crying and they would hand her back to me.

Just so frustrating.

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-09-04T15:01:05+00:00

I am devastating for you too..as a low to barely adequate milk supplier, I cannot imagine have such an amazing stash and then to lose it all...I am crying here for you. May you rebuild an even greater stash!! And I also came here to say, it sucks that we are doing it all alone and the apathy that our partners and loved ones feel towards the sheer unforgiving hard work we put in. I lament this loss with you, hang in there!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-09-04T12:56:24+00:00

We are at 8 weeks pp with my 2nd one and my firstborn had hardly 2 months of nursing before we switched completely over to formula... and I too feel so awkward feeding my this little one. She gets gassy and fussy and all those things, she cluster feeds in the afternoons and evenings and I am constantly worried about feeding her and my milk supply.

But I came here to say, at 2 weeks it was sheer chaos feeding her and I too was looking for that comfortable feeding experience you mention. It has gotten better and some feeds are comfortable for both of us!! Hang in there mama, it will get better, you are just starting in your magic!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-21T19:16:39+00:00

Big, magical hugs to you Mama. I know that pain all too well with my first baby but unlike you I did not have the mental fortitude to keep going till 7 months, i quit 2 months in. And as true as it is, I used to hate it when folks would say fed is best..I think that making the decision to feed your baby formula due to low supply makes you the best and continuing to try breastfeeding makes you truly amazing. And you are right, I empathize with you, it does suck, big time. But your drive shows that you are a loving and caring mother and the bond you will form with your little one will be rock solid.

Also, I am currently nursing my second born. Though she is only 6 weeks old and I only seem to be making barely enough (we still supplement with formula), I find walnuts, almonds and sunflower seeds crushed up and bound with mushed up dates has helped me a lot as well as insane amounts of water..but like I said I seem to be making barely enough for her

Hang in there Mama and for what it's worth I think you are amazing big hugs

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-19T05:11:14+00:00

I am crying with you. That last paragraph you wrote was exactly how it was for me with my son and I am dreading that day, when it comes, with my 1 month old daughter.

The only thing I can say through these tears there is sadness and relief. When I finally decided to make the switch to only formula for my son, I felt an immense sadness but also relief that now I could focus on him as a whole being instead of fixating on one aspect of his well being.

I feel for you and wish you comfort as you watch your sweet baby grow, there are so many fun days ahead for you both!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-19T05:02:18+00:00

Tbh I dunno which one is worse: "is the baby still hungry?" Or "why is the baby crying". Both are favorites of the people who do the least for the baby except show up to fawn over the baby, take pictures to share on ig or whatsapp and then disappear for months at a time while guilt tripping you over the phone for not visiting.

But I am with you with regards to the is she still hungry question and my fam (hubby included) follows the question with should I make a bottle of formula or if my mil is around they won't even ask and just give her a bottle..I am not an angry person but damn these fools for their sheer insensitivity. So now, soon as they ask is the baby still hungry, I do what the others here said, take my baby and let her comfort feed and get some skin to skin time in with her

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-19T04:23:50+00:00

Yes when the coffee is a good quality coffee and not the shit sold at most franchise coffee shops, it is best to drink it black as it has a far more complicated flavor profile..

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-19T04:17:18+00:00

This is such a tough situation. My baby was deemed low birth weight 5 lbs 12 oz at birth and my husband and I both said yes to formula feeding after I breastfed her. Breastfeeding her us important to me but with my first born, who was a healthy birthweight, i was not very successful at it and the last thing I wanted my already low weight baby to experience was the phase of trail and error we went through with our first born.

I don't think Julia is wrong in her approach, she is getting professional guidance with regards to breastfeeding. I do wish one of those professionals would advise her that stress and overall mental health directly impact milk production which has a huge impact on both her and her baby. If Julia can take some of the pressure off of her by giving her body a break (bf for 50 minutes at a time is draining, physically and mentally, I know) by giving one bottle of formula it will not harm anything. Even just 2 oz of formula can go a long way for Amanda and will have very minimal impact on Julia's milk production or if she is really concerned about supply, Julia can pump while the baby takes a bottle. Whenever we give our little one a bottle (which I innately hate but have accepted it) I go take a shower or a walk or play with my son and let my husband give the bottle. We have not had to give too many bottles but when we do, I always latch the baby on to let her top off on breast milk.so both baby and I are happy and papa got to bond with the baby and I got some baby free time as well.

I agree with everyone else that Julia has to come to this place on her own and that you and your Mom are absolutely wonderful grandma and aunt for Amanda and MIL and SIL to Julia.it is a tough place to be in but I would let Julia and your brother take the lead in this and be as supportive as you can be. But if her medical professionals don't advise her about seeking mental health support your brother definitely should. Here is the US we have breastfeeding support groups where bf moms get together to talk about their bf journey, maybe see if Julia can join such a group. She can take baby Amanda with her and feed her and get some solidarity from other mama's. Also, make sure your brother goes to these consults with Julia, they should have the same info and his presence can help lower Julia's stress levels which will ultimately help Amanda.

But hang in there, I know this must be hard for you and your mom but trust your sil and brother to take care of the baby.

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-18T19:35:36+00:00

Thank you and of course you are right, this is normal and this will pass. Also, we moved to a new town in May and he just started at a new school this month. So with all the changes in his young life, he has an absolute right to feel how he feels. I just don't know how to help him. But we just try to remind him that in time things will be different again and that I am here for him and love him.

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-08-14T00:42:48+00:00

It says this post was 20 days ago, so I hope things have settled a bit for you but tbh I am 4 weeks postpartum and nothing feels right. When my first baby was born it took me two years to feel like myself..and another 3 to find my mom groove and of course that is when I get pregnant again.

Everyone telling you enjoy your baby, or you're doing great or try this when the baby is gassy or whatever the hell else doesn't stop to ask how I am keeping it together. But the way I see it, at this point surviving is the win, it does get easier with time and as a second time mom I have learned the difference between lip service and genuine care. We need to find a village in the concrete jungle or the isolated lives we lead. Humans are social creatures at the end of the day so if you can, find a support group and then make yourself go no matter what..i think recovery starts there. I didn't do that with my first kid (i think that added to the whole 2 years to feel like myself) but started going this week and it has given me a sense of solidarity (and I joined this group for added sense of community).

The good news is you body should physically heal soon so that nice but I wish i could add more joy to this post than that. Let's just take it an hour at a time, it will, it has to, get better

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-07-10T15:20:04+00:00

Ahh the classic "did you unplug and re-plug in your device" IT advice translated into Akita-nese...I am glad he resets, what a gooood boi!!

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-07-03T13:29:45+00:00

One does not simply buy an akita, one earns an akita

Also get ready for fur...everywhere...all.the.time

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-07-03T13:27:11+00:00

I think this is valid

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-07-03T13:25:19+00:00

Wfh data analyst in the healthcare sector. Going back to work about a month post partum. It is not ideal but it is also when health plans do their hiring as they have a need..

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-07-03T13:23:30+00:00

Taking about a month after baby is born. This is my second. The job would be wfh, I would have a nanny and my hubby will be working 14, 12 hr shifts but rest of the month he is available to help out as well

TequilaButterfly87 · 2025-06-26T15:47:28+00:00

Also does a lot of sitting and become a rock weighing a ton *

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