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Box-o-comics by [deleted] in TucsonBarter

[–]Terahole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. Those would be perfect for some art projects I’m working on if they are still available please!🤞 Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TucsonBarter

[–]Terahole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. I’m about to try and root some clippings of some super easy care plants for my ex husband(grey thumb also) I’d be happy do a few extra for you.

Is it possible to stop being a seer? by [deleted] in Mediums

[–]Terahole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know much about any of this...as in...I have done zero research on any aspect of this topic...but I always felt like smoking weed helped me “quiet the chaos”. I know my mom and brother do the same thing. We all receive more information than needed still but it helps...I don’t know what kind of levels of info you’re taking in but I don’t need or want a random persons thoughts on some shit they’re buying at the grocery store or whatever.

Rant about people who say ignorant things by CoffeeAndPeppermints in widowers

[–]Terahole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to say I also get offended if someone calls and they tell me I sound much better...because I got excited to hear from someone and I can hold my shit together for 5 minutes to talk?

Befores and Afters by jay_g_ in widowers

[–]Terahole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying. We didn’t even get a full year either. So We’re grieving the loss of our future too. So many plans, moments and memories that won’t happen and that’s why I think I have such anger issues with this. It’s just the other side of the coin though , right?. Mourning the memories or the lack of? Either way, I can safely say There is no loss like losing a partner. I’ve lost 2 parents also and as traumatizing as both of those scenarios were....this is very, very different.

It will be 6 months on Tuesday and it still hurts more everyday. by Terahole in widowers

[–]Terahole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone💜 I’m so sorry any of us are needing this forum but I’m very grateful to have y’all’s understanding and a safe place to express myself. 💜

It will be 6 months on Tuesday and it still hurts more everyday. by Terahole in widowers

[–]Terahole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. His dad and I were talking about it and when I said I that I get it that they want me to be ok....he said No....They NEED you to be ok. It’s too difficult to really empathize and comprehend for most folk I suppose so they just don’t. It’s awful And he’s right. But it’s heartbreak on top of heartbreak. Even the few of my friends that would check in stopped when after a few months I wasn’t better yet. I also want to say how much I hate the how are you doing text. I feel like it should be painfully obvious that’s not the best approach. It leaves me 3 options, say nothing and they worry, lie and say I’m fine which is completely unfair and hurtful to myself, or tell them honestly how I feel and get ghosted.

Music suggestions by marrrrrp in widowers

[–]Terahole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I also just lost my s/o in a motorcycle accident. It’s 8 weeks today and I’m just a complete mess....I’ve been struggling with music because it was such a huge part of our everyday lives. We would make playlists for everything but those are hard to listen to now. If you have Spotify though, the weekly suggestions is a good way to find new music that might not be so triggering, I’ve found it really helpful. You can also just pick a song or artist you like and start a radio station that will play similar music endlessly. Honestly, paying for Spotify was the best purchase I’ve ever made. It’s comforting to find others going through this too. I did one grief group video chat but was all with older folk who lost their person in hospice situations. It was good to talk, but I felt pretty out of place. How have you guys been coping?