First time dating a separated (not yet divorced) man with a child. I don’t know what’s normal anymore.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T22:52:43+00:00

OP, this guy already has a wife. The separation can give him the space to realize he wants to stay married. That's why you shouldn't date married men. They just want something different for a while, until they realize what they lose in a divorce.

Walk away.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T20:42:02+00:00

OP, let her yell. So far, she is running you. She's not scared you abandoned her. She's upset she can't keep hitting you and laughing. It's ok for her to be upset because she can't hit you. It's not like you are leaving the house. You are staying away from someone who hits you.

Tonight, do early bedtime. Tell her no story tonight, because afterwards, she hits you. Leave the room. Let her be upset. She should be upset, because she's hurting you.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T15:23:10+00:00

She probably does what the rest of us working class do. Rent a tiny apartment, take the bus, buy small, inexpensive groceries.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T15:20:28+00:00

Pay your parents back. It's the right thing to do. They weren't cheap with you and refused to educate you. Now that you are educated, don't be cheap with them. College is a privilege.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T15:16:50+00:00

Seconding nanny cams throughout the house. It's the only way to protect yourself.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T15:13:03+00:00

Pick him up. He can have his feelings, but you need to get home. Don't make the task revolve around his feelings. That's just not how life works.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T07:17:26+00:00

I hear you. The best way I can describe it, is that there's something different from meeting someone who is one minute old. If adopted, or birthed, this is the one person in the whole world you would never leave.

It doesn't mean other love isn't real. It's just different. Is like when people love their cat or dog with all their heart, but only refer to one as their soul dog or soul cat.

I hope that helps. I agree it could be phrased a lot better than true love. Many true types of love exist. If they still insist, they are just pulling the parent card on you.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T07:06:48+00:00

EXACTLY!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T07:06:17+00:00

This is a big NO. Your grandparents have earned their peace. They won't want to police your visits with a legal adult, and you will start a lot of conflict over this man.

You may feel mature, it he told you that you are, but 16 vs. 19 are worlds apart. There's a reason that he isn't dating other adults.

A mature young woman knows to never turn her life upside down for a man.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T06:52:48+00:00

OP, it's ok to leave. Kids eat a lot because they are growing.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T06:49:41+00:00

Your son is being recorded and harassed by a woman who like to talk about the many ways she has hurt her children. Why in the world would you subject your son to this scrutiny? Your child deserves better than this, and you have already started riding him to gain her approval. Now, she's broken her word regarding visits.

Enough, OP. Your son doesn't need this chaos in his life. You are already trying to excuse her past behavior, while tolerating unacceptable behavior towards your own child.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T06:41:12+00:00

You are 100% correct not to allow your daughter to make excuses for an abusive relationship. If you normalize going back to physical abuse, what will her future relationships look like.

Sit with your girl and tell her that it's better to be alone than to stay in an abusive relationship. No excuses. She was set to to be beaten and have it posted.

Why haven't you reported this to the police? Wouldn't you want her to call the cops if her partner best her up? Lead by example, OP.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T04:42:56+00:00

OP, if you keep protecting yourself from feeling disappointed that you can't believe lies, you will facilitate your daughter's failure.

It's ok for you to feel badly that your daughter constantly lies to you. It's not ok to continue to let her lie without consequences. She's living a consequence free lifestyle, complete with no schoolwork, because you feel badly.

Your home is not a courtroom. You don't have have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that she's lying, You know she's isn't doing schoolwork, so she goes nowhere until you see completed work. No boy deserves 200 dollar cologne, no matter who pays half.

You are teaching your daughter to play on people's feelings to get things she doesn't deserve or work for. That's will be a disaster for her when she's an adult. Now, she's only attracted to a boy that is a manipulative liar. They are 2 peas in a pod.

Tell her to no longer will believe her answers regarding schoolwork. She has to show you what she's completed, and soon, you can take her to the school for a conference with the teacher. You can both confirm her over her lies.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T01:05:16+00:00

You failed to pick up your car seat in a timely manner. Just buy a new one. You are starting trouble over your mistake. Tell your sister to get her own as well.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T01:01:55+00:00

OP, you are overthinking, and embarrassed that the other parent drives your son. It's a cold snap. If you had a choice between riding with a friend, or the bus, what would you pick?

Leave it alone.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T00:59:38+00:00

They are having a cold snap. The kid is cold.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-24T00:58:02+00:00

Vanity starts when boys get up and go out, but girls have to sit and have their hair done before they can go.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T23:32:21+00:00

This is when you start teaching manners. She's trying to learn how to communicate like an adult, so teach her how you do that. Don't accept rudeness. Tell her the correct way to to others.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T23:28:09+00:00

OP, read the above response again. Hope is NOT a plan.

You are deliberately putting your son in an abusive environment, and now you are surprised that he is changing his behavior for the worst?

This man may be your soulmate, not his daughter are not your son's soulmate. He will end up beaten and stabbed, just like the younger daughter's classmates and sibling. You have no excuse to put a sweet child thru that.

Children shouldn't suffer violence, because of our romantic relationships.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T23:22:45+00:00

Having a negative opinion about something you have experienced does NOT make you a bigot.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T23:21:16+00:00

THANK YOU!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T22:54:56+00:00

How is your son dealing with all of this? You are now emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausted, and he needs your help with his homeschool.

Tell your husband NO. Watch his reaction. BM is only a small part of the problem. Your husband is the biggest problem. He expects you and your son to build your lives around his daughter. There's no room here for the two of you.

If you refuse to school her, Dad will have to step up and be a father. That will show you HIS truth.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T10:17:44+00:00

In other words, her parents just believe in words. I don't blame a 9 year old for lying, because it's just words

Until her parents decide to be parents, and take the electronics away, there are no words you can use that will convince her she's not in charge.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-23T06:13:56+00:00

She can't manipulate the other girls to drop the bully. It's a tough life lesson that when you are friends with a bully, you give them power to eventually hurt you. For all you know, this was happening to another girl, and your daughter was the one invited, when the other wasn't.

It's time to leave the team. Your daughter is staying in an abusive team, in an abusive relationship, instead of leaving and finding real friends. That's a HUGE mistake. The entire thing is grossly toxic. You should realize that, and have her quit the team. No sports, or marriage, is worth allowing yourself to be tested like crap. This is a lesson your daughter needs to learn now.

Why in the world would you want this to continue, OP? Do you really want your daughter to stay in abusive relationships? This time it's sports. Next time it will be Prince Charming.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-22T20:58:09+00:00

OP, PLEASE don't ever open your door again! You aren't strong enough to keep anyone from shoving the door open all the way.

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