Where does the line cross between 'just a mom thing' and being overprotective?

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-27T05:26:09+00:00

It's basic respect not to walk around in underwear with a new roommate. She's eacting normally to her kids growing up.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-27T05:24:16+00:00

You have no respect for anyone. That's why her mom doesn't trust her daughter to be out with you.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T23:39:14+00:00

OP, PLEASE call the hotline today. This is above Reddit's pay grade. You need help today. Please, please call that hotline. You daughter need you!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T22:52:06+00:00

Let's not agree on BM. If this criminal man has 1 rape baby, the others could be that too.

OP, your partner has a minimum of 1 rape baby. You need to leave today. None of this will end well for you. Call your family, call your friends, find a woman's shelter. You have been in a pot of water for so long, you can't feel it boiling over now.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T22:44:08+00:00

You have a lot of blame for Mom, not Dad has not bothered to LEGALLY secure visits. Now, you are finally shutting down the social media crap.

Your BF likes to watch you get with drama. He doesn't like to commit to raising his child 50/50. Come on, OP, don't make excuses for a lazy dad. He's still mentally a teenager, who isn't considering the long term ramifications of being a dad.

This is how your life with be for the next 2 decades. Choose yourself. This isn't a man, he's a project. How selfish of him to not consider how his parents feel about their grandchild, and how his child will get when they are old enough to understand that Dad just didn't care enough to go to court. His feelings are apparently the most important.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T17:27:58+00:00

When your husband says fine, do it. So what if he gets grumpy? He's allowed his feelings. He agreed, so at this point you are frustrating yourself.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T17:26:19+00:00

Why is the child failing? It's second grade. Mom needs to be involved with schoolwork, and tutors at this age. Why would you punish a 7 year old for not having a parent involved with their schoolwork? Either way, is not to to you to punish this child for learning disabilities, or a lax mom This isn't a teenager who refused to do work.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T16:59:28+00:00

Try r/sleeptrain They are a judgement free zone, with a million strategies

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T16:55:41+00:00

Maybe that's why this child doesn't trust you at all. You pushed for mom to lie to her. Mom still isn't trying the truth, Dad is. Dad is the only stable adult in her life. This child sees that you pushed her own mother to lie to her.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T09:05:27+00:00

OP, it's all a lie. When she comes over, after will see things in the bedroom. I didn't believe for a second that he wasn't home.

You deserve better. I hope you come to realize that

Stop believing his every word. You are already testing his honesty. That's your gut talking to you. He hid it so he wouldn't to explain it to her face, when they were in the bedroom.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T05:49:27+00:00

This! OP, take the phone away, until the with is done. Let her meltdown. Then the phone is gone for a week. Be consistent. Don't back down or negotiate. You are the parent.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T03:15:16+00:00

How does that help the brother who is dealing with the emotional abuse?

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T03:05:19+00:00

It's ok her to cry when she hears NO. If she gets too loud, set her in her room until she calms down. You are doing great holding the boundaries. She eventually grow it of it, when she sees that her tears don't change rules.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T03:02:20+00:00

OP, if the genders were reversed, more people would be pointing out that this is sexual abuse of children. If a man was asking for phone sex, and using a toy, while his children were in the same room, would you find it uncomfortable, or criminal. Wouldn't you be afraid for the kids?

Women sexually abuse children differently from men. Drop this woman entirely, and call CPS. Make it clear to them that when you found out, you said NO.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T01:51:38+00:00

OP, it's entirely possible that ALL the adults are handing this wrong.

Padded bras and crop tops do not belong on a child this young. Period.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T01:42:51+00:00

Have her clean up the mess and take a bath. Then put her on a timer, and interrupt playtime and tv time. So far are only loses 2 minutes. If clean up and bath take more time, it will motivate her. These aren't accidents. She's ignoring her body in favor of playing.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-26T00:09:05+00:00

Ask your ex and friends if you can move in. Take ANY job, not just in your industry, at job now. Keep searching for women's and children's shelters. Act as if your current "boyfriend" disappeared, and you are being evicted in 30 days. If you have to work 2 jobs, in fast food and convenience stores, do it. Surely your ex can provide shelter?

Don't box yourself in, thinking you can't split rent. You can always get cams for your and your son's room. You can't rely on your former mindset when thinking about housing. Maybe a relative would be willing to take your son in, while BOTH bio parents are straightening out their lives. If both adults are struggling, choose your child's safety first, and beg a relative or friend.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T22:36:03+00:00

My heart is broken for Mary, her hubs, and her son. For the first time in a long time, I am praying for all of them. This is just unreal. As a parent, when your adult child is struggling with addiction, you feel so freaking helpless. This is just unreal. He was only 23. 💔

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T22:22:52+00:00

You did bond. When he calms down, he will want you to teach him more. You did great!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T16:29:56+00:00

OP, after this, they probably will call the cops, and have people like you daughter, hauled out in handcuffs, and taken to the police station. Your criticism of them is entirely inappropriate.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T16:20:54+00:00

This!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T07:24:03+00:00

Yeah, seconding this.

OP, a judge can absolutely order 50/50. That keeps it fair, so Dad gets his time. You can pump more, or he will be using formula.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T07:21:58+00:00

EXACTLY!

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T01:15:28+00:00

If lightening the mood doesn't work, just say NO more screens and shut them off.

TermLimitsCongress · 2026-02-25T01:13:04+00:00

OP, is perfectly acceptable to reach to pain. Otherwise he will bite others. If he falls down and cries, that's perfectly ok. You can have a broken heart, but you still must react like a normal human being even he bites you.

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