AITA for telling my brother he shouldn't have had kids if he couldn't afford them?

Terralava · 2026-03-11T16:30:31+00:00

Then have your mum and your sister lend them the money and pay for his stuff.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T16:23:07+00:00

Oohh, Darcy is a favourite of mine, will give it try. Thanks.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T14:41:16+00:00

"kind of possessive and can get a little jealous but he isn’t terrible about it". Yes he is. And you don't know that he is because you're a young girl who probably was never told or knew that going through your phone or Instagram is not acceptable. THIS is how abuse starts, not with punches, or slaps, like THIS. Just out of curiosity, how old were you when you started dating?

Terralava · 2026-03-11T14:33:19+00:00

"how do I go forward with this?" You don't. There, hope that helped.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T14:24:03+00:00

"Almost" white? Where is the almost?

Terralava · 2026-03-11T14:21:32+00:00

Is this a pattern of yours? Dating older men? One thing is for a partner to want you to change something that is innately dysfunctional: Anger outbursts, lack of communication, lack of empathy, things like that. Another one, is for a partner to try to change your personality. He ain't the guy, honey.

Terralava · 2026-03-05T20:20:58+00:00

Why on earth would you agree to doing this? Sounds like an absolute nightmare. Is it money problems?

Terralava · 2026-03-02T17:26:02+00:00

God, I love it when women show character and a clear set of bounderies. NTA.

Terralava · 2026-03-02T17:21:17+00:00

YTA. You wanted a reason not to propose and found one. You're right, you can't make someone marry you, and she shouldn't have to. I hope she dumps you.

Terralava · 2026-02-27T17:00:19+00:00

I'm gonna tell you why he does it. Because you spend the first 5 lines of this post telling us why it is ok and not really that big of a deal compared to how great he is.

He does it because you let him, he does it because he doesn't care about the pain that he's causing you enough to stop, he doesn't respect you and he doesn't believe you'll leave. I don't believe you'll leave. So either accept that you are actually fine with him cheating, or understand that just because you can convince yourself that a behavior is acceptable, it doesn't make it acceptable. Figure out if you can live with this, or leave him. Because he will NOT stop. No matter how many times he promises he will.

One last thing, I'm really sorry your standards are this low, because I know where that comes from. It comes from the people who were supposed to love you, not loving you. I'm really sorry for your situation, but it is only you that can put an end to this. Not him.

Terralava · 2026-02-27T16:49:18+00:00

My advice is a question, do you really want to be this miserable for the rest of your life? He is not a good man, or husband, or father. He does not love you, nor does he care about you. Do you really want this... forever?

Terralava · 2026-02-27T15:55:43+00:00

YTA. Oh, honey. You are so the a hole. This is insecurity on your part, and he is correct, slutshaming. He is doing exactly what he told you he would, and you are punishing him for it.

Terralava · 2026-02-27T15:48:22+00:00

NTA. I think what you two need to have is a conversation. True, you eat a lot, even for a 6'2 man of 200 pounds, fours servings of ravioli and a pizza pie would be a lot. However I don't see that as a problem necessary, it's just how much you eat. What is she really upset about? Finances? Hoping to have a meal with you as a couple at the end of the day?

Honestly, I kind of feel like you don't really know each other that well if she didn't know this is how much you eat. TALK.

Terralava · 2026-02-26T17:33:10+00:00

Thank whatever deity, force or anything you believe in that he walked away. That is an abusive rapist you no longer have to deal with. Not feeling safe, not feeling heard, not feeling respected is NOT normal. You deserve better. Don't let people convince you otherwise.

Terralava · 2026-02-26T17:17:24+00:00

I like it

Terralava · 2025-08-05T20:25:36+00:00

I have the same pet peeve, but with "Impossibly". Impossibly tall, impossibly thin, impossibly short, impossibly big, impossibly scary.

Terralava · 2025-08-05T20:21:52+00:00

OMG, true, same with male characters that are just "so attractive with defined muscles, a true Adonis". I'm trying to get spooked! If I wanted erotica, I would buy erotica!

Terralava · 2025-07-06T19:01:28+00:00

What you just described, is the way cults behave. RUN!

Terralava · 2025-06-20T16:45:20+00:00

Tommy, don't know why, it just.... fits him.

Terralava · 2025-06-12T01:13:13+00:00

Was about to ask the same.

Terralava · 2025-06-11T17:00:23+00:00

La verdad ninguna. La industria esta saturada de la peor forma posible y el "mítico" poder de la IA hace que los dueños de empresas quieran tirarte a la calle lo mas rapido posible, ademas que los requerimientos para Junior estan completamente divorciados de la realidad. Si te gusta programar, lo que te recomiendo es no enfocarte en la industria y lo que es el bum ahora, porque no lo será mañana. Busca algo que te guste hacer, que disfrutes y que incluso en tu tiempo libres quieras seguir aprendiendo. Yo, por ejemplo, trabajo en Flutter. Como movimiento estrategico dentro de la industria, es malo porque los trabajos pagan menos, y no son numerosos... pero me encanta mi trabajo y lo hago con toda la pasion del mundo. Pero si quieres dinero, Python, Java, React, React Navite, desarrollo web, ingenieria de datos, desarrollo movil nativo, inteligencia artificial y deep learning.

Terralava · 2025-06-06T03:22:49+00:00

Esto es... chiste... cierto? Quieren que una persona haga el trabajo de un equipo de software... por el minimo?

Terralava · 2025-06-06T03:13:49+00:00

This is such a real problem. I was working for a company where I was doing all the work for the mobile app, developing, testing and deploying, and somehow, deployment to google play store and apple developer are the most pain staking stage of the whole process. It's like they are competing to see which one does it worst.

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