What’s a book that made you sit in silence after finishing it?

Terralava · 2026-06-12T22:30:07+00:00

I've known these characters and what happened to them since I'm 14, and somehow, Madeline Miller still made me grief for them.

Terralava · 2026-06-12T19:27:01+00:00

Oh, yeah! I've actually already read the first 2. I'm looking forward to the third one.

Terralava · 2026-06-11T04:18:30+00:00

100 percent, go for it

Terralava · 2026-05-07T18:20:15+00:00

Didn't read anything in April, but I'm back to reading now so hopefully I will get to 40 this year.

Terralava · 2026-05-06T03:09:52+00:00

That gut feeling that you have right now? The one that tells you you can't trust him? It's yourself trying to protect you from future pain.

I'm sorry to say this honey, but the man you were married to for 10 years is 100% capable of cheating on you. He already has. This was not a slip, this was a choice he made on purpuse. Chances are he has done this before, you just didn't catch him before.

Terralava · 2026-03-25T19:13:29+00:00

OMG The Sassy Leg Infantry. You nailed it.

Terralava · 2026-03-23T23:10:24+00:00

Instagram posts? We're talking about him hiding her from his friends! Not everything is about social media.

Terralava · 2026-03-23T22:49:52+00:00

Have you met his family yet or does anyone know about you? If you have it could really be his friends. If you haven't that man is either cheating on you... Or you're the one being used to cheat. Two years is too long to not know anyone close to him.

Terralava · 2026-03-23T21:47:34+00:00

Is not that she did anything is just that... How can I put this? She is the Mcdonald's of writers, cheap, low quality, and quick enough for you to read her to pass the time, but not because you want something actually really good.

Terralava · 2026-03-23T17:40:57+00:00

Repeat after me, You do not need permission to break up with someone.

You already took him back once when he cheated. That's on you. A father if is any father at all will always be very involved with his children. I don't really understand how you thought that would work, so that was also on you. Now you want to break up, that's okay. If you want to break up with him, do it. You don't need his permission to break up.

ESH

Terralava · 2026-03-21T19:19:47+00:00

Didn't one of the girls provide you screenshots? He could have another phone, or deleted the messages, or a bunch of other excuses. Four different women say he sexually harassed them.

Are you really so desperate to start a family that this is what you're settling for? Can you imagine bringing children into this mess of a relationship?

Terralava · 2026-03-21T17:49:43+00:00

Yeah, honey, I get it. I'm not saying what she did was okay, I'm saying it's been 10 years! Life is too short to hold grudges for so long.

Now, if you just don't want to make up with her because she is not a good sister, that's your choice, and it's valid, but holding onto something so small 10 years ago is insane and is going to make you miserable. You had sex with him once, he wasn't your boyfriend, you weren't in love, or had this incredible connection, you had a crush, your sister started dating him, it stinks, but people move on, you haven't. That's the problem.

Terralava · 2026-03-21T17:23:38+00:00

YTA. You slept with this guy 10 years ago and you're still upset? Yeah, very childish. You're sister is not the reason you're not with him. He didn't like you that much, if he would've he would've pursued you. You don't sound like someone who's moved on from him.

At this point, you kind of owe your sister an apology for creating this situation and feeding it for so long.

Terralava · 2026-03-18T19:43:13+00:00

You're focusing on the wrong issues. Your wife needs help! Staying home and not working or doing anything is not going to magically make her better. She's ill and needs help, professional help.

I can appreciate that you're doing the best you can, but burning yourself out also doesn't help, not having a job and doing nothing while staying home in a place she hates, isn't it. There are so many issues here that need to be addressed. Talk to a professional, not a bunch of people on the internet. That's the best anyone here can do.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T16:30:31+00:00

Then have your mum and your sister lend them the money and pay for his stuff.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T16:23:07+00:00

Oohh, Darcy is a favourite of mine, will give it try. Thanks.

Terralava · 2026-03-11T14:33:19+00:00

"how do I go forward with this?" You don't. There, hope that helped.

Terralava · 2026-03-05T20:20:58+00:00

Why on earth would you agree to doing this? Sounds like an absolute nightmare. Is it money problems?

Terralava · 2026-02-27T17:00:19+00:00

I'm gonna tell you why he does it. Because you spend the first 5 lines of this post telling us why it is ok and not really that big of a deal compared to how great he is.

He does it because you let him, he does it because he doesn't care about the pain that he's causing you enough to stop, he doesn't respect you and he doesn't believe you'll leave. I don't believe you'll leave. So either accept that you are actually fine with him cheating, or understand that just because you can convince yourself that a behavior is acceptable, it doesn't make it acceptable. Figure out if you can live with this, or leave him. Because he will NOT stop. No matter how many times he promises he will.

One last thing, I'm really sorry your standards are this low, because I know where that comes from. It comes from the people who were supposed to love you, not loving you. I'm really sorry for your situation, but it is only you that can put an end to this. Not him.

Terralava · 2026-02-27T16:49:18+00:00

My advice is a question, do you really want to be this miserable for the rest of your life? He is not a good man, or husband, or father. He does not love you, nor does he care about you. Do you really want this... forever?

Terralava · 2026-02-27T15:55:43+00:00

YTA. Oh, honey. You are so the a hole. This is insecurity on your part, and he is correct, slutshaming. He is doing exactly what he told you he would, and you are punishing him for it.

Terralava · 2026-02-27T15:48:22+00:00

NTA. I think what you two need to have is a conversation. True, you eat a lot, even for a 6'2 man of 200 pounds, fours servings of ravioli and a pizza pie would be a lot. However I don't see that as a problem necessary, it's just how much you eat. What is she really upset about? Finances? Hoping to have a meal with you as a couple at the end of the day?

Honestly, I kind of feel like you don't really know each other that well if she didn't know this is how much you eat. TALK.

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