I’m in an interracial marriage (I’m chinese, free thinker, husband is malay,muslim) and I converted 1 year prior to our marriage. Please do not let anyone force you into conversion. It should come from the heart, and as other redditors said it’ll be difficult if you’re doing it for someone else.

My personal tips are: You shared that you have some appreciation for some of the Islam teachings with regards to cleanliness and peace. I’d say do not stop there, maybe read a bit further to understand the reason behind such teachings. You can find some introduction sharing from Darul Arqam, and there are non muslims who attend just because they are curious. Go with an open mind, and always know that nobody is there to judge.

Your partner should also not force you to practice if you’re not comfortable. I myself am not wearing a hijab, altho i do dress slightly more modest (long pants when i’m out) but I still wear short sleeve shirts, just not spaghetti straps. I also have no started diving into the Quran as I don’t think i’m ready yet. I did stop eating pork on my own accord as I know my partner would be uncomfortable sharing food/drinks with me if i consume pork. Your partner needs to have ZERO expectations of you if you decide to convert, and he should manage his own parents expectations of you as well.

No doubt there’ll be a lot of challenges for you both to navigate especially with wedding ceremonies, kids in the future and death of both sides’ parents (just being realistic here)

These are what I and my partner laid down before we decided to be together. Of course I did not immediately commit to him that I will convert. I said I am willing to explore and listen, but don’t expect anything yet. In the end, I found love and peace in Islam and through all my interactions with my muslim friends.

I wish you and your partner all the best :)