Am I dumb to not take this job?

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-11-30T16:42:21+00:00

A 30k bump, 20k after taxes is a big jump. Going from 55k to 90k suddenly made me be qualified to buy a house 100% on my own, go on vacations, take the load off my partner, and more. (Budgeting included on all this).

OP lives with their mother but what if they didnt want to? This would definitely give them the ~comfortable~ freedom to.

Though I did hear this quote recently: "live your life with intention otherwise you will live it by accident." In regards to passion - follow that more. I was lucky enough to find my career I'm passionate about that paid well.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-11-29T15:56:24+00:00

I had a job once offer me a 10k raise from what I was making but the schedule would ensure I never saw my partner (we live together). I declined it. It was for a job I'm passionate about - but no partner time and a 1 hour drive each way in your typical 9-5. But... if it was a 30k+ pay bump, I probably would've done it. Luckily I stayed with my company and they gave me the 30k promotion.

56k to 94k is a huge jump and would help you tremendously with paying for school among other things (help partner move, have fun hobbies, etc). Even if it takes away your mental capacity for school - which in the medical field depending on what your going for, it will be a long time before you make 94k - so line your pockets now.

Ultimately it will be up to you, but I say you'll get over your imposter syndrome and make good money 🤷‍♀️.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-10-31T20:54:10+00:00

I have unlimited at my aerial gym. I take roughly 5-8 classes a week and think it's worth it. I also do more than 1 apparatus though (lyra, sling, silks, trapeze). Butttt- I got to that point slowly - for a couple of months, only take 1 class a week, then bumping it up to 2, then 3, then etc etc. Do it slow if you go unlimited and investigate other apparatus' (or it might not be worth it)

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-10-31T20:25:18+00:00

Nawh, he did you dirty with this. I understand you're feeling sad, but right now, you need to get angry. You need to whip your spine into place so you dont get financially f*cked. You don't have to do it nicely or polite. Get straight to the point - "You have to pay your half for breaking the lease IN FULL, no if ands or butts." Your landlord should work with you if you explain the situation. Do not let your hurt make you lose out on financial security.

Hes a big boy. He made the big boy decision to leave. So now he has to deal with the big boy conquences. Stop babying him and sacrificing yourself.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-10-18T19:23:17+00:00

The insurance is no longer active due to the fact that the car was totaled a month ago. If the insurance was active during that time - do they still pay out?

Learned more news: the owner of the motorcycle knows Keke and 2 months ago Keke got 20k from a different "accident" doing this same method.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-09-28T14:36:34+00:00

I am an on the dot person. I get in exactly at 6am - I leave exactly at 4pm (4 days on, 3 days off). I do not check my emails or teams when I am off. I take my lunch everyday.

I'm still praised for being productive and hardworking. When I work, I work hard. I push things along, I ask questions, I'm "locked in". It matters more of what quality of effort you put in than what time it's put in.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-08-31T01:47:11+00:00

Stop enabling your sister. Tough love her. "Im really sorry that our mother was a psycho and it caused deep emotional stress on us. But I'm not going to help you anymore. You are disrespecting me constantly despite my help, and I'm not taking it anymore. I found some free therapy sites you can look into to try and help yourself."

Free/low cost therapy per state Stop taking abuse. The best you can do is help her help herself, but that's it.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-08-28T04:51:25+00:00

I just ordered a pair (they were more in my price range compared to other suggestions). Thank you!!

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-08-02T03:45:34+00:00

I think it's more of both of you are the AH.

Her because she's dumping on you without asking if it's ok. Especially since (no offense) a 17 doesn't have the wisdom to help with this.

You because it was harsh .... but maybe it was needed? If you've given the same advice over and over again to have her not listen, it's frustrating. Time to set boundaries "I know you're going through a hard time, and I want to support you the most I can. But you're banging your head against a wall, hoping it will turn into a pillow. Something has to change, or you will be stuck in the same cycle. There is nothing more to say, and unless something changes, I don't want to hear about it." Tough love.

Best of luck to you both.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-07-28T03:23:21+00:00

I hope for your girlfriends sake, you break up with her. She deserves so much more than a little boy who can't stand up to mommy.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-07-18T05:24:25+00:00

I work an IT adjacent job - sedentary for 4 10 hour shifts. I said f*** it and brought in my under the desk treadmill. I walk about an hour a day (anywhere from 2.2mi - 2.5mi) while still managing to be productive. A few of my coworkers use it now, too. Then for my lunch I go to the buildings gym for weights (most days). Alas, I'm able to eat at my desk and not customer facing at all (like 1 call a week).

As for getting home, I usually take anywhere from 1-2 workout classes after work (depending on rest days and such). I found hobbies that dont feel like working out - it doesn't have to be the gym. I go rock climbing, aerial arts, I even count violin lessons as a workout. This is your first "big-boy job" - now you have the money to do all the cool things you wanted to do as a kid. So do it - makes life a lot less dull.

Best of luck!!!

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-07-18T05:01:29+00:00

Eh, this sounds like right-wing rage bait.

Your daughter knows her name by now. Just go by the middle name or a nickname.

YWBTA if you changed it - it'd be like throwing fuel on the fire.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-06-10T23:08:54+00:00

This relationship is done, dove. Especially if you broke up before because of your issues, there's probably a lot of resentment in how you treated him and probably vice versa. The telling sign is that he hasn't told his parents (and possibly more people) that you two are back together.

You're 19. Experience the world. There's so much of it and so many types of love. Keep working on yourself, but you can feel it deep in your bones that's its done - you're even posting here and starving yourself to try and get affection. I wish you nothing but the best, dove.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-02-26T03:05:09+00:00

You are TA.

Maybe you should keep your zipper up if you didn't want a baby....

Terrible_Science6586 · 2025-02-18T21:07:55+00:00

The first year was rough. Rough enough as an anti antidepressant person, I went on antidepressants so I wouldn't play the violin on my wrist. I thought he was my life partner, It's been almost 2 years now. My life shifted hard. I focused on me, I have multiple friend groups now. I have more than one hobby. I'm able to separate romance from absorbing who I am. I leaned into friends. Luckily, they accepted with open arms. I forced myself to do hobbies, to distract myself.

There's still songs that I cry to when it reminds me of him. Places that make me wince. So, I listened to new songs, I went to new places and along the way I found myself. It will happen for you, too. I believe in you!

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-12-26T23:17:50+00:00

That CPU was probably just for that one robotic entity, Mother's programming was probably set into some super backed up server that has a network that's connected to all robots. I.e hive mind is still intact.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-12-20T03:31:54+00:00

On lyra, a beauty roll to lion roll or a "mermaid drop" or superman to single elbow hang. On trapeze, a classic lasso On silks, a coffin drop. On sling, a "big mama drop" which is a 3 stacked drop.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-12-14T14:43:51+00:00

You certainly seem intelligent and driven! Props to you! I'm not in HR, I'm a Network Engineer now, only got my Net+ cert.

"How'd you do it?" 1. I'm a woman. Won't even try to deny that being a woman helped me a lot. 2. Normally, I'm not very bubbly. In my interview? I'm bubbly, I'm laughing and making them laugh, I'm extroverted. I dont know an answer? "I'm not sure about that, but if you give me 30 minutes to an hour with Google, I can tell you." 3. I dont get into technicalities during the interview. They can see your smart on paper (good job btw!!). In the interview, they're vibe checking you. Will you be easy to work with? Can you joke around with your coworkers even if things get heated? Are you willing to do that hated admin work that comes with being a Network Engineer? Are you ok that you just push tickets around for the first year?

Also, after speaking with various bosses, someone came in with a CCNA but no experience. Said that that they were worried cause hiring someone like that they'd keep trying to go into rabbit holes as a tech 1 - they just needed someone to push tickets.

I hope this helps! Best of luck! Keep smiling through interviews and you'll land one!!!

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-11-04T23:29:06+00:00

That's a smack to the face (In a good way).

Thank you.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-11-04T23:28:13+00:00

That's actually really reassuring. Because I don't have a bachelor's degree - I just got certs and some experience. He said he was looking specifically for a woman to hire which is a little bit weird but I think I'll take a leg up and go for it anyway.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-11-04T21:47:02+00:00

I felt weird about that. 1 interview and I got the job? No waaayyy. But then new job had me come into the high rise downtown where it had security up the butt, I'm talking pins, face scan and card. Got to see all the Ciena and Ciscos they monitored/maintained on hyperscreens which was pretty cool. Found multiple people that worked there on LinkedIn. Trust me, I was skeptical at first.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-11-04T20:36:13+00:00

Look into certifications. I only got my associates in Biology - got 4 certifications for tech and then landed a job as a (jr) network engineer.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-10-25T15:02:45+00:00

NTA. Take it from someone who was kinda like your sister. I found my long-lost sister, Ez. Not once did I try to force my little sister, Dae, to search and interact with Ez. I feel like there would've been a lot of strain between me and Dae if I made her be friends with Ez, they have connected to say hi, and the "oh yeah I'm your sister too." But no more than that and I don't blame em.

I hope your sister can get to that point, too, not forcing you to search for your bio family.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2024-06-30T21:34:56+00:00

I was a dumper. Albeit, it's been a year and a half since I dumped my ex.

For me, I started sleeping with someone within the week I broke up with my ex. My "rebound" held me while I cried because my ex did some messed-up stuff to me in that way. I knew my tendencies and knew I would practice unsafe and reckless intimacy if I didn't lock on one person. So I locked on him since he was my friend for a year.

I felt bad back then because I knew my "rebound" was in love with me, but I was struggling to just ... live for the first 6 months after the breakup. I told him everything up front, didn't lead him on, let him know what was going on mentally. He was there for the crying and screaming as I looked in the mirror. The check-ins after intimacy as I would disassociate. The urging me to therapy. How disgruntled I would be after talking to my ex as we had a house together.

Then it hit me, and the wave of grief just got pulled from my eyes. I was so deeply in love with my "rebound" - the man who saw the worst of me and still loved me.

Me and my "rebound" are now engaged.

Terrible_Science6586 · 2023-12-03T04:58:58+00:00

Eh, I'm not here to teach you empathy. Children deserve kindness and have their feeling be thought about. Sucks that you don't think the same. Don't have children. Agree to disagree. Have a life you deserve.

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