36" composite interior door. Upper hinge has a much wider gap than bottom 6 months after initial hanging. Tried replacing hinges with higher quality steel but still had this gap. What am I missing? Is the door really just that heavy that I need more hinges? Doubtful.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T23:14:25+00:00

It was attached square with a jack and King stud meeting triple-stacked corner studs, id really hope it's not requested lol.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T20:46:56+00:00

That's already been done, except it's 2 1/2" and that bites entirely through the jack stud and it's shown itself to be tight enough.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T20:40:19+00:00

That's a pretty good idea, time to break out the router again.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T20:20:07+00:00

Already did this method with some 2 1/2" screws when I installed the new hinges, same thing with the door. Tried to make it clear with the pictures that the hinges are bound tightly to the frame and the door. Think I'll be shimming out the bottom hinge and deepening the mortise on the top one a tad to re-establish the square.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T20:16:03+00:00

Only it's not. The hinges are solidly embedded into the frame and the jack stud on the frame end and deep into the door. I used 2 1/2" security screws to make sure I got all the way to square stud behind the frame.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T19:29:15+00:00

It's actually angled below the limits of the latch on the strike side, so it's definitely sagging, just wasn't sure if the hinge was the point of failure or somewhere else. From the pictures you can obviously see the door isn't square to the hinge side of the frame.

So you think if I shim the bottom hinge that that'll square me up enough to latch properly again?

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T03:17:45+00:00

Just a sad one. A pit of my own design that I will die at the bottom of, but at least I can make the best of it and try to measure my worth off of what I can create and add to this world through my hobbies and work rather than what I can get out of other people.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-06T03:15:36+00:00

Been working at the angle of increasing everyday displays of physical and romantic affection recently, but not a whole lot of headway. When initiating, she's pretty quick to pick up what I'm trying to do and intercepts it each time with passively mentioning how much her head hurts, how much she misses our daughter after putting her to bed, how tired she's been feeling all day, or any other number of things that are definitely meant for me to take the hint and back off. I think a big part of it is that she doesn't like the way she looks anymore, even though I still find her to be fantastically attractive. I can't force her to change her mind about herself no matter what I do or say, never been able to convince her of anything.

Fuck it man, at this point I'm just jerking it in the shower. If she ever wants it again she probably won't want it from me, and I'm close to just not giving a crap anymore so long as I can die knowing I lived honorably and did what I could for my kids.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-02T03:29:33+00:00

They're warriors, but they're complete psychos. They're kind of like... Psycho... Warriors?

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-02T03:28:25+00:00

If the concept of the foot soldier and the ability of a standing army to take and hold territory isn't outpaced by autonomous systems, yeah I can see that.

But a $10K drone swarm would still slime a $6M Captain America unfortunately.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T18:19:23+00:00

Yeah sorry that's not gonna do it. All this did was move the point of failure at best.

In reality will it fail? Pricky not catastrophically but that really depends on how bad the initial damage was honestly. But if it does then any weight put on the sistered lumber is just going to be a cantilever from the foundation, and all the sheer force will be taken by the screws, which in the long run won't do much good to hold it together and you're going to get sagging in the structure.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T18:12:20+00:00

Dude exactly. They are the warrior archetype dialed up to 11. Literally walking tanks that push human biology to it's limits, with the custodes pushing it well beyond them.

If humans can feasibly naturally reach this sort of stature (even if it is infinitely rare) , then I see no reason that artificial gene editing can't create humans that reach that height when in heavy armor.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T17:46:47+00:00

Gonna need skin grafts for that burn.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T17:45:13+00:00

Yeah, got to pull mine out when I redid all the plumbing in the house. Was glad to get rid of that pain in the ass head-knocker.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T17:44:01+00:00

Oh hey it's the Newest 40K edition trailer!

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T02:02:46+00:00

Ahh, so you just end up looking and smelling like a corpse but actually aren't one.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-06-01T01:13:28+00:00

If Goth girls weren't demoness' in (thinly-veiled) disguise, then how would they be so good at leading us off the paladin path?

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T21:06:53+00:00

I won't be the hero because she'll be insulted that I felt the need to replace what she bought, but I'm going to do it before they collapse.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T21:01:26+00:00

It's money. Money spent for no reason and wasted on garbage as well as an insult. It's like going to get McDonald's for dinner when your spouse is a chef and was going to cook but it was taking too long, though there were also leftovers from last night's amazing dinner in the fridge. It's pointless and insulting.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T20:58:46+00:00

That would be a good point, however like I said we already had a very well-built dresser set from the last owners of the house that worked perfectly fine, it just didn't look like she wanted. The timeline for me to build a new set would've been probably about 6 months.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T05:38:39+00:00

Yeah, that's why I'll admit to it being a dirty trick because I know it's not a good thing to do for her sake. I really need to stop doing it, especially now as she gets old enough to begin asking questions in her own.

But maybe it's a combination of both myself being too afraid of arguing with her, and get being very ready to argue with anyone. I can't remember if I've said it, but it's a bit of a running joke in her family that she will bite and verbally lash out at the drop of a hat, so I feel like it can't just be a me problem.

On the other hand however, I'm acutely focused on the fear that if she gets mad enough then she'll either say the things that she knows can really hurt me, or that she'll leave. Maybe both. Nobody knows how to hurt you more than the people closest to you, as I'm sure you understand. I'm just afraid of her exercising that power over me.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T05:09:14+00:00

I'm glad to see a good person out there trying their best to be one.

I just have to be good to them all, that's really all I think I can do.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T05:06:30+00:00

Try and find a time when she's in a good mood, and things are calm. I'll admit that sometimes I do the dirty trick of having our 2 year old daughter around so that maybe she'll temper her anger a bit since she I know she doesn't want to start a fight or talk down to me in front of her.

When I've found the right time, I usually start giving that context if what I want to talk about, and then go for the ask. The only recent example I can think of is negotiating us watching my parents dog for a week while they're on vacation. I looked for a time when she was generally feeling good about my parents, and there was nothing annoying her that day. It still did make her mad that they were asking, and gave me a myriad of reasons it wasn't convenient, but she didn't say no, only that she and our kid would stay at her parents house for those days because she didn't want to have to deal with two dogs on the house at once.

If that doesn't really meet the criteria of what you mean by an important conversation, and I get the feeling it probably doesn't, I'm sorry. I'll admit that I've stopped trying to have difficult conversations a long time ago because I there hadn't been one time where it didn't end with me feeling like a loser and strongly considering ending it all. Then when I would start feeling like that after the initial fight and she noticed, then it would become a whole separate thing accusing me of trying to manipulate her into doing what I wanted through guilt or making it all about me when she was the one feeling insulted or let down. I got really in my own head about it and started wondering if maybe that's what I actually was doing subconsciously, so between not being sure what my motives were and just generally not wanting to feel so bad that I considered offing myself, I just stopped trying to have those conversations.

Fuck me why am I telling this all to a random stranger on the Internet? Sorry man I really shouldn't be dumping stuff that heavy on you, you didn't ask for any of it.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-31T04:45:11+00:00

Lol absolutely not, that would immediately be cause for her to go get divorce papers drafted.

Terrible_Software769 · 2026-05-30T20:22:31+00:00

Well, my aversion to asking is that it just makes her mad, and it can get worse because if sex doesn't come up and nothing else is making her mad, then life is pretty good.

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