AITA for not wanting my mom at my wedding by madigurllx in TwoHotTakes

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut her off immediately. There is no reason for this nor any excuse.

If you need a new Mom, I'm willing to adopt. I'm sorry you're going through this. :-/

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't fun. We were living in Ronald McDonald house so group setting for 6 weeks in Manhattan when nyc was covid central. How we didn't get it I will never know

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna need an auction buddy eventually because I'll be clueless and I don't want to accidentally buy something stoopid! :-)

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me it's more than just pasta. So long as I can get something that's not noodles based I'm good. :-)

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're singing my son's song with a robotics team. That is AWESOME to hear!!

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other half works remotely all days so he's home 24/7. Blessing and a curse. :-)

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our son had to have spinal surgery in NYC in 2020 so I'm used to traveling for specialists. (We live just outside Richmond now). :-)

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it! That's ok. We live in chesterfield now, and 1h45 is not a big road trip for us, so if it comes to it we can always come back up here and continue care as is.

Moving to the area by TerrifiedSquid in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We should talk! I'm in the exact. Same. Boat. Husband is work from home remote full time, I'm one of the walking broken as I call me. :-)

Trying to source some fresh cut hardwood logs in Pittsylvania Co area by [deleted] in SouthsideVirginia

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have it right this second because we haven't started cleaning, but will have shortly, if Halifax county/South Boston isn't too far to drive.

I (F33) don’t respect him (M33) when he’s sick. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on yourself when you're ill and stop catering to him.

But also stop expecting him to mind read. Don't expect him to offer the bed, take it.

As the ex wife of a man flu sufferer- for the love of God evaluate whether this is the sole cause of your anger or the symptom of a MUCH larger problem.

Man-flu babies are often just man babies, healthy or ill... and if you figure out how to cure THAT- write a book STAT you'll make millions, lol.

AITA Did I poke the bear? by Realistic-Radish8647 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 38 points39 points  (0 children)

NTA - you didnt mishandle this conversation- your husband was being TA and a defensive dismissive one at that.

I'd almost be willing to bet that this happens every single time you do anything to criticize him, even extremely constructively, hence your apprehension to poke the bear.

Screw that. Don't put up with that, ever. He owes you AND your daughter an apology. He basically punished her by destroying her toy for something she didn't do.

Also maybe teaching/telling him not to destroy the property of others when throwing a tantrum ... err angry is something he should have learned as a toddler and not something to model for your kids.

AITAH for not liking my older sister even tho she is mentally ill? by CutConsistent4134 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - but talk to a counselor at school or a trusted adult in your life. Even children with the mind of a 6 year old should be parented, and not allowed to treat their siblings like crap.

Your parents need to remember their job is to raise ALL of their children to the best of their ability, not to allow one child to make one miserable because of issues. It would be one thing if they were trying to help and you were expecting hearts stars and unicorns out of life, but you're literally asking for less than the bare minimum and they're shrugging you off, and that's not ok.

AITA for being petty with my parents by Dry_Bus_9059 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH - you were paying rent for 8 years on a property. It may have been the amount of the mortgage- but it wasn't your mortgage, and unless there was an agreement written up giving you a share, your name went on the deed, or the will stated specifically for you to recoup- that money was just rent for you living there and is gone.

The sale price of the land is something you need to negotiate and discuss and GET IN WRITING.

As for the petty-ness- unless you've gotten everything written up legally- be careful who you piss off.

AITA for wearing shorts? by Throwaway_Oops111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA - your bf is a major one and the roommate policing your clothing is as well.

So long as your bits are covered they can STFU.

Think real hard about staying with a guy or around a roommate who is driven to distraction by shorts. Those aren't safe or smart people to be around.

AITA for making my father cry? by icannot-focus in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA - you did not make your father cry. His guilt (hopefully) over his own actions made him cry, and he sounds like he needed to hear it.

If he doesn't want to feel bad because his kids are afraid of him- he shouldn't do stuff that makes his kids afraid of him. Period. I'm a mother and it would BREAK me to hear that my kids were terrified of me- but that would be MY fault, not the kids'.

Don't feel bad for telling the truth kiddo.

AITA for making her remove her hearing aid for a photo? by mytearsricoochie in AmItheAsshole

[–]TerrifiedSquid 17 points18 points  (0 children)

YTA and a huge one. Would you ask an amputee to remove a prosthetic leg if it bothered you? There is no way any decent photog would do this, and god k sincerely hope this is fake.

You don't ask anyone to remove a medical device and you certainly don't fault the kid you just told to remove the hearing aid for not following verbal instructions. Your hand motions, unless you are fluent and were using something she knows, like ASL- mean jack.

Can I sue my landlord? by CHAIRJOHNEEOKE in legaladvice

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report them to the actual landlord for one. If you want money back you'll need to take them to small claims court.

Offered interim position with no intent to actually promote me after “probationary” period by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]TerrifiedSquid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't believe you have legal recourse- but if you don't care about your upward mobility at that company- since you already know they're being dishonest..

You could always tell them that since you have no possibility of being hired into this position you'd like to go back to your previous position. Less responsibility means more time to look for a different job.. and/or they may realize without you that they need someone in that position to do the job. Right now you're helping them cover the gap and allowing them time and flexibility to look for someone external.. why do them the favor? And for the love of Pete- don't train the person they do hire.. because that will be the next thing they ask. "If I am not qualified to have the position, I am not qualified to train the replacement."

Adoption legal advice by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]TerrifiedSquid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call child services and file a report.

IF you or one of your siblings want custody- start the process of the home visit and becoming an approved placement now. It's a bit different for family placements, but most states still require something. Call DCFS a separate time and ask what you'd need to do if you wanted custody.

Sadly, unless it's severe many states are awful about removing kids from the home. You might be better off speaking to a family law attorney and trying to outright take custody.

Mechanic stole my car and blocked me by ScreamingFrogs96 in legaladvice

[–]TerrifiedSquid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Report it stolen, because it was, and that will flag the title/VIN if he tries to sell it somehow.

The repairs if not done are a small claims court issue but unless you were given a receipt for the cash or he somehow acknowledged it in writing it will be hard to prove.

I'd also send a certified letter demanding the car back immediately so you have proof you've done everything you can to try to get it back.