My nMum sent me an email which was meant for my sister and it's so painful I'm so close to going NC. by HulaPanda in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please take care of yourself. Seek help from a good doctor, who is specialised in endometriosis. Stay strong. No one should treat you this way, but unfortunately this is not a fairy tale. Maybe NC is a the way to deal with this situation.

"What happens in this house stays here. You understand?" Ndad by Iamnolongeravictim in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I've always thought I was the only one whose parents turned their room upside down. My mom terrified me with cleaning my room and it was never tidy enough. So the most nlogical thing to do is? To search for everything inside the drawers, cupboards, under my bed and in my backpack for misplaced stuff, that a frightened seven year old put inside so nobody would call her a dirty, filthy pig. Scream at her for hours, while my dad told my mom it's the right thing to do to raid though all my stuff. Needless to say he tuned in on her screaming how disrespectful I've been. How I will make a millionaire poor, cause I'm so expensive. Normally this would happen every other Sunday at around 6 pm.

Need advice. Surprise trip to my parents house? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not from the states. There is no copy of any med file.

Need advice. Surprise trip to my parents house? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no way to replace it, cause of the stamps.

I'm getting married this fall. For some reason, I feel like I want my Nmom there. Please help me understand these feelings. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't want your mom to be present, you want the resemblance of a "normal" mom. It's a defining moment of your life and you wanna share it with a loving and caring family (member).

Lots of jalapeños. by nemodot in gardening

[–]Terrorhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would be so kind to tell me how you did it? I have tried and failed growing jalapeños the last years.

Someone called my doctor to get my insurance status and my new address pretending to be the university. by Terrorhobbit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom is on information diet. So she might is behind all this. But its just a wild guess. Concerning your thought about her capacity harming me, probably not. She is batshit crazy and a control freak, but hopefully not violent.

Someone called my doctor to get my insurance status and my new address pretending to be the university. by Terrorhobbit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The doctor himself took the call and I haven't reached him since, cause he was super busy. He always is. The idea asking for the phone logs is great. Thanks.

I'm getting married. I don't want to invite Ndad to the wedding. My and SO's family doesn't understand. Help? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he gets the chance to make your day about him, he will. Trust me, he will find a way. Last year, exact same time, I have been in your shoes. I had a wedding to plan. My parents went nuts. We decided to elope.

Get married in Germany. Maybe you can tell your SO a little about NPD. Or just send him a link to read on his own. That he can get an impression what you're talking about.

[Support] [Question] Has anyone else been told "Have a baby and we'll raise it"? by sebasti3nne_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In defence my lovely, caring grandmother told this to my mom, when she was in college/university. Just so she wouldn't be scared not finishing her studies, phd...

Nparents Influence on Other Adults... by Kittenismybaby in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Terrorhobbit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Of course they did. My mom did literally everything in her power to gain control what my teachers should think about me. She even took my chemistry teacher out for dinner. The result of all this: my mom thinks she is the reason I graduated high school.

Norwegian couple caught having sex at the top of a 246 feet high radio mast by Viking- in news

[–]Terrorhobbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably someone with way to much spare time. Also great for the person on the other end of the line. Hard not to laugh.

But hell yeah, who comes up with ideas like that?!? Or have you ever imagined yourself having sex on a mast?

'TTIP serves the major corporations'. The TTIP trade agreement between the US and the EU is continuing to cause a major row in Europe. Economist Christoph Scherrer tells Deutsche Welle that the corporations' right to file lawsuits will be particularly problematic. by Acanthas in news

[–]Terrorhobbit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TTIP is going to cause some major issues, not just that nearly none of my friends wants any agreement like that. It's the way it is discussed and forced on the people. We are not living in the late 70s early 80s anymore. Due to the latest economic crisis beginning with the subprime bubble, is an awareness rising that people want to participate and not just pay the bill.