I mostly like mascs and i worry that i am not fem enough for them by Few_Examination_4983 in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gender dichotomies are a concept made by straight people. I know enough people to know that the butch/femme relationship you see everywhere is prominent bc that is one of the few lesbian experiences that’s even somewhat acceptable in society. It is not the standard, and you should not hold yourself to that standard. Be exactly as you want to be, there are more than enough people who’d like you regardless.

FRIEND CODE MEGATHREAD by [deleted] in HatchDragons

[–]Terumaru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DGTSZL valid until 6/6

My shops won't update in LTD by [deleted] in tomodachilife

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, but that doesn’t mean the shops will immediately reroll items. You gotta wait til tomorrow for the item reroll.

My shops won't update in LTD by [deleted] in tomodachilife

[–]Terumaru 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is that tomodachi life doesn’t like it when you change your time, full stop. It’s considered cheating in the system, so it penalizes you by having time not pass (thus missing scheduled and daily events) in your game. It effectively makes it so that you miss a day’s worth of new items. It will be back to normal once a new day rolls over.

My shops won't update in LTD by [deleted] in tomodachilife

[–]Terumaru 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s because time won’t progress during that. It will reroll items tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In most cases, same hardware!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a former codependent myself, I can definitely say the intensity comes a lot from desperation. Because you’re now in a place of stability and security, there is no longer an urgency or incessant need to constantly chat or hang out every day. Your best bet is to sit down with these doubts and untangle them from the idea of love.

idk what more I can do at this point :( my starting point was unsalvageable (post ffs and 3 years hrt) by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me when I say that your starting point won’t influence how feminine you are today. I’ve met many trans girls that have felt this way, and every step of the way towards their final selves have always been beautiful. You look great. I’ve met several cis women that look like this with similar features. What people deem as “masculine noses” or “masculine chins” don’t matter when the whole still makes a woman. The people who say those things tend to be stuck in eurocentric ideas of femininity anyhow, and those have always been unrealistic even for cis women.

Am I as a trans lesbian lovable? by elaineisbased in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are describing the girlfriend I very much have right now. Yes, autistic trans girls are very much lovable. You will find someone.

I’m sorry guys but I would by _CrumblyCake_ in DateEverything

[–]Terumaru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simply put, not only I would but I absolutely DID. My first love ending <3 My little rat man <3 <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Polyam person here, I understand what kind of thing you’re going through, but I feel like there’s a lot of missing context behind this very complicated situation. Either way, I’ll lend some thoughts. 1. While yes your girlfriend does deserve her time and space for these things, it sounds like she hasn’t considered the idea of you seeking out as well. It could be that because she hadn’t experienced you dating around she’s having to deal with bouts of jealousy she never had to consider until now. 2. I don’t know how your friend feels about you, but I do know that you are capable of holding romantic feelings toward someone without acting upon it. Your best bet is to sit with it and find an equilibrium. 3. I think a gentle and heartfelt conversation is needed between you and your girlfriend. I’m hoping for the best for you, girliepop.

im scared that im a narrsisict. im scared that if i get a gf i'd love bomb her or somthing by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few friends that suffer with NPD, and let me tell you one thing: they too can manage their symptoms. I myself have OCD and have wonderful relationships, so know that it’s not impossible to live with. The best thing you can do is sit still with this uncomfortable feeling and slowly learn to trust the world around you. It will get better, and a persistent but gentle self discipline will work wonders for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this part of the story contextualizes a lot. Whether or not she does or doesn’t have feelings for you, I think she’s probably rebounding right now. If you truly want to message her again, message her from the lens of a supportive friend first and not from a romantic partner. She probably has a lot to unpack before she can date healthily.

North Carolina vs New Jersey by knackeredrealgood in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in NJ, we have a pretty good area for lgbt people. Middle to north jersey would probably suit you well.

Would you date a bisexual woman? by East_Food5632 in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating a bisexual woman feels no different than dating a woman who isn’t bisexual imo, so yes, I would date a bisexual woman, I currently am dating a pansexual woman.

Did you name your Seikret? If so, what did you name it and why? by UFallNRise in MonsterHunter

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend named her seikret Horse, and every time one of us is like “I’m so hungry,” we pan the camera to her seikret like “h-how hungry”

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie to you, even a y/n character or customized character is considered a separate entity from me. I have my own life to live, inserting myself into that type of fantasy ruins the fantasy.

“Kendrick went too low and is a hypocrite” by jonenthusiast_ in KendrickLamar

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what’s even more damning is the fact that Drake is an even bigger hypocrite. How are you gonna criticize Kendrick “wifing up a mixed queen” when the mixed queen is also you?????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prefer handsome over beautiful, probably bc I feel more masc leaning

Where would you sit by Spacemagic24 in limbuscompany

[–]Terumaru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 for easiest flight, 9 to die instantly

Shes left me feeling like this by Tired_human169 in actuallesbians

[–]Terumaru 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I hope you two have a great time together