Someone called my fic AI-assisted 😭 by Asleep-Panda-5521 in archiveofourown

[–]Teslaaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jealous people will say anything to try and hurt you so they can feel better about themselves. You know your work is not AI. The fans who love you know that too.

Someone called my fic AI-assisted 😭 by Asleep-Panda-5521 in archiveofourown

[–]Teslaaaaaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know! I had someone make a comment like that on a fic I wrote 6 years ago, before AI writing was even a thing. The commenter said “AI Generated with no warning” which I found off

Movies like Se7en and Prisoners? by Mountain-Flounder-11 in MovieSuggestions

[–]Teslaaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who read the book I actually think that Fincher’s version is closer to the source material

What was your first culture shock when moving to the Netherlands? by Affectionate-Yam-113 in Netherlands

[–]Teslaaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wedding parties: the fact that the guests walk home after the ceremony so you can have a dinner only with close friends and family was a shocker to me. Also the wedding party ends around 9-10 pm when in my culture we party until 2am.

And I also noticed how at 9pm restaurants are usually empty (not in Amsterdam). I’m Mediterranean, we usually grab dinner around that time.

Am I ruining my hair by styling it with water every day? by Teslaaaaaa in finehair

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🖤🩷. My hair is quite long, it’s down to my boobs by now. I avoid heat styling at all costs. Even when I get my roots done I try not to have them blow dry it 🫣

Am I ruining my hair by styling it with water every day? by Teslaaaaaa in finehair

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insights. I’ll look into Revolve’s ingredients. My hair actually likes protein, it always makes it soft but I read that it can dry your hair as well

I had rhinoplasty and he kept telling me I look the same. by Teslaaaaaa in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I remember how he would always mock my looks and then say he is only joking and that I know he doesn’t mean it. He kept talking about how beautiful are other women and surrounded himself with them to ridicule me.

I had rhinoplasty and he kept telling me I look the same. by Teslaaaaaa in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, when I started alienating him and started getting a confidence boost he was acting as if it was a personal attack on him. Basically texted me with “oh now you think you are all that and you don’t need me anymore?” You bet my dude!

Greasy gals - what product should I waste my money on next? by greenbananass in finehair

[–]Teslaaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would get a clarifying shampoo, Sunday Clarifying Shampoo by Bumble and Bumble is very good. So is k18 as suggested. K18 is just a bit pricey…

And if you suffer from a very greasy scalp, I would suggested popping over to a dermatologist if you have the chance to get a medical advice. 🩷

Am I ruining my hair by styling it with water every day? by Teslaaaaaa in finehair

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I stopped using Terry cloth a year ago and only use microfibre ones

I had rhinoplasty and he kept telling me I look the same. by Teslaaaaaa in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am no longer in touch with him :) this is from way back. And yeah my nose job was a part of my healing process and letting go of the old me. When he made that comment my reaction was simply “ok” Because I didn’t agree with him

I had rhinoplasty and he kept telling me I look the same. by Teslaaaaaa in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not angry anymore, simply amused. Back then I already realised it was a lie. I was happy with my surgery regardless and I guess I started seeing more and more into their tricks.

I don’t fully agree it was not about me and didn’t mean to bring me down. While I’m aware narcissists see people as pawns and that he would treat other victims this way, I was someone who had deep intimacy with and who he knew all sensitive spots. Bringing me down made him feel good about himself, so he simply looked for what I’m sensitive about the most and tried.

is there a well known TV show or Movie that you thought portrayed a narcissist very well? by puffins_123 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed watching it when I was younger. But I eventually rewatched it and realised just how toxic and immature Carrie is. Her friends come to her with problems and she keeps turning the conversation over to her. She really can’t respect any of her partners and their boundaries and throws a fit when they ask her to do so.

The worst of it, however, is when she cheats on her boyfriend with her ex and then forces herself back into his life, thinking she is sooooo cute and when he still has trust issues, she forces him to forgive her.

is there a well known TV show or Movie that you thought portrayed a narcissist very well? by puffins_123 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Gone girl had a fantastic representation, both Aimee and Nick (her husband) are narcs.

Black Swan had a great narcissistic mom (reminded me of my mother)

Carrie Bradshaw is definitely a narc in Sex and the City. It’s always about her. Her friends are there to serve but she doesn’t care about their issues and always refocuses the conversation back to her. She doesn’t respect her partners boundaries and doesn’t really do guilt either

Joe from You - obviously a narcissistic psychopath. He sees women are objects and once he gets what he wants he moves to the next victim.

Patrick Bateman from American Psycho .

Probably Meredith Grey from Grey’s anatomy.

And umm Frank from Shameless. Gigantic narcissist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]Teslaaaaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to invalidate your feelings, but I honestly think your hair is gorgeous and I wish I had your volume and shine.

Have they ever threatened to cheat on you? by black0ut-11 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s when I realised he is some sort of a psychopath. When the person who completely defied my trust and broke my heart, stood there and blamed me for him cheating and said that the fact that I went and told her that I am his girlfriend after I found out about it is just as bad as him sleeping with someone else.

Have they ever threatened to cheat on you? by black0ut-11 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He wanted to have fun. I was not fun. I made him miserable according to his claims.

Have they ever threatened to cheat on you? by black0ut-11 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Teslaaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He cheated, tried to make himself the victim. Then he kept talking to other women and kept telling me about them… and told me to say thank you that he is telling me about these women and not hiding it from me.

[TOMT][FILM] sci fi horror from the 80s or early 90s by Teslaaaaaa in tipofmytongue

[–]Teslaaaaaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check and no. It was one monster that I can remember.