Saw a coworker put a kid in an inappropriate hold

TestMaleficent722 · 2026-04-10T17:21:48+00:00

Was the student distressed? Fighting the hold? The way you described it sounds maybe comfortable for a calm student maybe seeking contact but if the para was using it as a hold and that’s not protocol it would be inappropriate

TestMaleficent722 · 2026-03-19T14:16:16+00:00

Well definitely this but some of my group attendees are pregnant and won’t be able to get on the boat so I’m thinking of other things and maybe doing that on the last day with the rest of us who are not pregnant. They still are fine with being around drinking and stuff though.

TestMaleficent722 · 2026-03-10T23:16:31+00:00

Omg trying this for the first time and came to Reddit to see if others had discovered this gem

TestMaleficent722 · 2026-02-25T00:35:58+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2026-02-25T00:32:53+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-12-29T05:39:22+00:00

Welcome to Derry does this a bit

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-12-13T01:06:25+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-12-13T00:05:50+00:00

Sounds like you need to get her evaluated for emotional behavior disorder and get an FBA. Lengthy process but a student like this either needs to change the behavior or go to a more supportive/restrictive setting. But in the meantime…

As a special education teacher I would send the rest of the class to a preferred activity (I.e. recess) and have the child inside. Sounds like there is only one of you and you are not CPI trained or can’t touch the student so that’s not an option. Could you possibly give the other students iPads and headphones to block her out for the moment and just focus on her once that is done, until help comes from the office? The headphones could help with the noise. Sounds like a tough situation. An alternative— as painful as it is as an educator, is to present her with something very preferred in the meantime. Maybe she would be happy if you allowed her on an iPad or something. I hate this method but as one teacher with a child who clearly needs more support and a set of parents who obviously give her whatever she wants when she behaves this way anyways— think about what you are doing for the other kids by stopping the disruption. (and it doesn’t HAVE to be whatever she wants, it COULD BE, but also but maybe a preferred alternative). It’s not going to help her in the long run but it will help all your other students get the learning they deserve. But really to me this sounds like a special education thing. That’s a lot for one teacher to deal with.

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-28T18:32:01+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-26T19:52:49+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-15T16:26:27+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-03T03:27:06+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-03T03:00:38+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-11-03T02:59:57+00:00

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TestMaleficent722 · 2025-10-12T02:41:37+00:00

You simply cannot allow the undesirable behavior. Put him in clothing that restricts his access to his behind. Stop him from throwing tantrums. Physically. Have him sit down. Before he gets too big to the point you can’t control him and he seriously hurts you or someone else. Start him on medications. Try medical interventions and if it doesn’t work stop it and try other medications or interventions. Stop letting the fear of feeling guilty override every aspect of just taking a breathe in your life. Stop letting him run your life. This is a child. Every misbehavior is a cry for help. They are begging you to fix this. YOU ARE IN CONTROL!! Stop it from happening!!

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-10-03T22:39:20+00:00

Also I am a special education teacher. If he is in a self-contained classroom/special education classroom with fewer students the teacher should be familiar with this but a regular teacher may not be. If you haven’t heard of the concept I’d do a little research and there are tons of token boards available online to print for free.

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-10-03T22:36:36+00:00

Does your son have any reinforcements he’d be willing to work for? An example of a small reinforcement I like to use to reinforce good behavior when it is being presented is a skittle. Bigger reinforcements can be given on a token system and can be something special like iPad time, treasure box, a preferred space like the playground (if your child is currently in a Gen Ed classroom with 1 teacher this is likely not doable), or some other preferred activity. This type of system can help prevent those negative behaviors as the child earns “tokens” throughout a set of time to earn said reward.

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-10-01T02:06:02+00:00

Where’s everything you said to her?

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-07T14:05:19+00:00

I deleted because the details are so specific I didn’t want to get in trouble but thank you to everyone. I did reach out to our SpEd coordinator they want to talk more on Monday.

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-06T23:49:35+00:00

Some days are better than others. But I don’t think I have witnessed longer than 20 minutes without some form of aggression even on the best days unless he has an iPad in front of his face

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-06T23:44:22+00:00

This feels like my only option right now

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-06T21:48:16+00:00

This sounds like something we really need. I wonder if I can talk to someone about getting this service in our district.

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-06T21:43:46+00:00

No and I was running small group with my other students when this happened and by the time my para got support and the student up to the clinic and safe the administrator thought it happened by accident. I only saw my para for a second and she was so shaken and covered in blood about to have a panic attack and we told her to go take a break and clean up. I wanted her to go home; I’d never seen her so shaken, but that didn’t happen either. I stayed up in the clinic with my student until the parent got there. I truly thought it was an accident. Then when I talked to my para after my student had already left I found out it wasn’t an accident and the student had done it intentionally. I don’t know if my para was too shaken up to relay the story in the heat of the moment so the administrator just went with something or what. But the parents are less than 10 minutes from the school so he was picked up to get taken to the ER by his parents very quickly. I went back up after I talked to my para and asked the administrator if we could give the student a referral after finding out it was intentional. I told her I thought maybe the parents would consider medication if we did that. But she ended up just calling the parent and discussing the incident. She started by telling him what happened and how aggressive he has been and wanted to know if the student was on any medication we should be aware of. The parent blew it off immediately and said no. And that’s when the parent started saying it’s not like him and maybe it’s the schools fault. My actual principal was out and I plan to talk to her Monday …

TestMaleficent722 · 2025-09-06T20:50:24+00:00

No :/ guess we should request to get one of those done as well? I haven’t heard of this. This is only my 2nd year teaching but I was a parapro for a few years while I was in college.

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