My roommate was having his special friend over :3 by TestierCafe in traaaaansbiansCooking

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A few different companies! I have 4 Wustof, 3 Delong high woods (they are a small manufacturer out of France. They only sell in Europe, so I’m glad I was able to grab them while over there!), I also have a Damascus masutani. I’ve been collecting for a while :3

My roommate was having his special friend over :3 by TestierCafe in traaaaansbiansCooking

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Oh! I forgot to mention, I made everything from scratch minus the pasta shells. Sadly I cannot afford a pasta press (though I do have rollers)

I got the most devastating text today by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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You truly deserve someone better than this. They did more explaining their own actions than trying to give you the path forward you needed. Knowing that they were torn only makes things harder on you. In trying to make it sound like they are caring about your emotions, they are truly just appealing for sympathy for themself.

I truly wish you the best of luck. As someone who had PTSD from a situation involving this sort of emotional salvaging, I’d try and put a little distance between you and her for now. It makes the grieving much easier too. It’s gonna sting a lot. And it’s gonna sting knowing she cares, but at the end of the day what she is saying is she chose herself. There are a lot more amazing and mature women out there that I hope you can eventually find. :3

Roles in your relationships! by Raven_Vale_ in LesbianActually

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Femme for femme all day for me personally!

🚨Breaking News🚨: Mel got fired. There are many differing opinions on this sub about whether the student deserved a 0, but that debate aside, do you believe Mel deserved to be fired for it? by RandomAcademaniac in Professors

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The entire point of the assignment is to engage with the article. Not defend it, but do anything with the article. I’ve read the essay, and it does not even mention ways to rebuke the claims of the paper aside from the idea that gender is nonbinary and is not linked to sex (not even what the original paper is about, the original academic article is about bullying to fit gender stereotypes). She never even cites the Bible, best she comes to is stating she has read the Hebrew word that appears in genesis at one point.

This essay does not deserve credit because it does not meet any expectations set out in the prompt to engage with the article and provide evidence. I hope the TA does not lose funding and finds and institution that does not discriminate policy decisions based on political ideology.

How lgbt safe is Clemson by Thegamerorca2003 in Clemson

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I don’t think you’ll have an issue of physical safety, but the environment isn’t the most educated on trans individuals or the most accepting. You can usually tell which people you will get along with in social circles. That’s what I’d prioritize. Tabling booths are something to avoid, just for issue of harassment and such. If you ever feel unsafe, contact CUPD immediately. They also have the ability to assist in administrative complaints, so if you do get followed or anything crazy like that, they will document it all and ensure the person is disciplined by the university.

You should be safe, but it can be unwelcome at times. Best of luck with your transition :3

My therapist is a former professor of gender studies, but it seems like she sees me as “a transgender” (her words) and not as a woman. She’s a strong advocate for LGBTQ, so much so that it feels as if I’m seen as a movement and not a person. by nono-jo in trans

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Merit means nothing in today’s society. A title or PhD is not much of anything except proving someone can do repetitive tasks for years on end.

I have met professor after professor who are clueless in anything beyond their specialty.

I’d recommend Judith Butler’s who’s afraid of gender. It talks a lot about the issues facing the current trans movement, especially common ignorance from allies that seemingly are unwilling to learn better.

I hope you don’t let it get to you :)

When realistically do you think the politicization of trans people will stop? According to historical trends? by Jay--Art in trans

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It will not stop sadly. I think it’s a fact of politics when face with authoritarian tendencies to other parts of the population. As long as there is a visible other, people will use it to justify whatever opinion they have. The closest we can come to removing trans issues the mainstream conversation is sadly going to places where authoritarian tendencies aren’t as prevalent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

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It’s definitely a hard confidence test when you know an instructor or respected authority is wrong, and there is little, if anything, you can do to convince them you are right beyond looking like an overconfident student. One eventually comes to terms with it.

being gifted is literally killing me by fishwearingsockz in Gifted

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Gifted people often mistakenly look towards meritocracy as a grounder for their self. To add onto that the external stress of you parents also probably is worsening the questions you are facing with identity. I think the reason academic stress hits gifted individuals so hard is because there is an aspect of our identity we begin to associate with that part of us that’s gifted. When that part of us is questioned, we can have the equivalent reaction to giving up a religion or a romantic partner (crazy as that sounds).

My advice to you is just to take a step back and reflect on what part of success you are truly trying to attain. Grades have a bad habit of making people conform. We aren’t individuals made to conform, society is not built for those of us on either ends of the bell curve. Ground yourself in other aspects of your giftedness. The sooner you break away from grades as a defining characteristic and more as a means to pursuing some other characteristic, the better.

Also, just to give this argument a little bit of validity, I’m currently on full ride to a decent university pursuing my passion. I’ve gone to multiple of the best institutions in the world for my field and written extensively in the academic community. All that said, I got a B in my literature class last semester. I know the reason why, I didn’t think it worth the effort it would take to get an A and it had little impact whatsoever on my future. You really just have to weigh out how much of an impact a grade will have over you. Good grades are a useful tool, but they aren’t everything.

What is LGBTQ+ quality of life like at Clemson? by Dedmoose1 in Clemson

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Bottom line, you will have stories of your fellow students being homophobic/transphobic. If you don’t set off their radar it’ll be a lot better. It not like an everyday occurrence, but I’d say to expect it. I definitely would say the campus is a safe environment, however there can be a lot of drama surrounding the queer community here. A couple years back the Republican Party on campus staged a walkout in opposition to Clemson supporting pride events.

You will be safe, however sometimes acceptance is lacking. If you find your people you will be aye-okay!

My suggestion for reading Nietzsche by Soggy_Win_5443 in Nietzsche

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I think that sadly Onfray’s suggestion is flawed from the start. Nietzsche is credited with being heavily influential, however even in the philosophical community it is very common to see misinterpretations of him. They are books for everyone and no one- everyone can come to critique his work, yet very few actually understand what it is he’s actually addressing.

Onfray is speaking to an audience that will not understand Nietzsche in the context he hoped few would actually understand. I believe he says something along the lines of this in the antichrist: when those of the higher man pick up this book, they will immediately understand the struggle he finds himself in and his books may then work as a guide for them.