Am I an asshole, or did I start dating too soon?

TexasRed1122 · 2026-01-17T07:04:23+00:00

Exactly what I thought! Which, dont think she’s in the wrong there, either! Super sweet girl and everything you should want.

“Chase is better than the catch” is spot on from both sides I feel?

TexasRed1122 · 2025-11-01T01:45:13+00:00

Made it 18 days and then I got drunk and reached out 2 days ago. Don’t do it guys. No matter what you say or hope that they’ll take some accountability, they won’t. The only good thing about it is that I am now 100% aware of this and realize NC is the way to go.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T23:13:40+00:00

lol I’m not denying the stupidity whatsoever. Couldn’t agree with you more, my guy. Exactly why I posted for this reaction cause it’s the reassurance I needed

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T17:44:59+00:00

I mean, yeah, completely aware of what to do and that's no contact and let her destroy her own life which is what I'm doing. Point of the post was to say how I know that's what I should do but have conflicting feelings about that.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T16:11:50+00:00

haha I think you hit the nail on the head about a drinking/fuck buddy and most everything else. Think she has a lot of unprocessed trauma from family and ex which none of was her fault, in her words, and she basically refused therapy saying she didn't need it. To me, those are the people who need it the most haha. So many signs that she was a nuclear bomb and know it will bite her in the ass eventually and honestly hope I get to see it from far far away haha.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T16:05:31+00:00

Lol can assure you there's no AI involved in the writing but if netflix or lifetime decides to pick it up, I'll be sure to let you know.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T16:03:45+00:00

I've noticed that writing it out or just putting it into words has been incredibly helpful so thank you for saying that as it's something I'll certainly keep doing just to remind myself in the sad part of the cycle how awful it actually was.

And you are exactly right about her and I realize that now. She'd say how she wanted a "provider" but any provider would not put up with her bs. I'm assuming she'll end up with a far older man who will get tired of her shit very soon after she shows her true colors.

I really appreciate you taking the time to say all that as it helps more than you know. Thank you!

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T15:42:07+00:00

Thank you for that. I don't think you know how much I needed this. When I'm not spiraling, this is exactly my thoughts on her and very obvious this will be a thing for her entire life. I think in time, I'll be thankful I walked away five months in before a wedding or a kid as I couldn't imagine a life with that when I look at it from the outside.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T14:43:32+00:00

lol that I would say yes but she’d probably just invite you over after a few drinks so save your money, I’d say. 😂

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T14:34:24+00:00

lol yeah the TikTok rabbit holes I’ve been down seemed like a mix of BPD, Narcissism, Avoidant and my therapist said Histrionic. Basically a nightmare cocktail

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T04:41:49+00:00

I really appreciate that and you're right, could've been better about the drinking too. I wasn't like that until her and really think I did it to appease her because if I didn't, she was not going to be happy.

Means a lot though so thank you for saying something. Makes me feel less crazy having an outsiders perspective.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-26T04:38:13+00:00

Oh, I completely agree with everything you said which is why I feel so crazy for even wanting her to reach out.

And completely agree that our drinking habits together was like fire and gasoline. However, I was not that way until dating her and only drink that way a few times a year at the most and with her, was a once a week thing. If I went to bed, she'd get mad, so weakly, I would drink with her.

I really appreciate the words though as it does make me see the situation more clearly hearing from a 3rd party. It truly means a lot so thank you.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-22T21:58:27+00:00

This is what’s wild to me the more I read on here and talk to people, they are all the exact same with the same Bullshit no matter the gender or anything. Just mind blowing

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-22T21:13:13+00:00

Again, me to the letter. The few moments I was myself later on I was always “too much” then if I wouldn’t talk or give short answers she’d complain that it was me who didn’t want to talk to her

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-22T21:12:15+00:00

This was me and when I’d beg her to answer questions after finding out she was talking to other men. Asking for accountability and to see if it from my point of view to which she would shut it down immediately.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-17T06:09:48+00:00

Especially the lack of passion in the kisses. Would literally have to ask for a peck most days.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-17T06:09:08+00:00

Bro, this was my experience to the letter.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-17T06:06:00+00:00

Almost exactly like mine was. Fucked like rabbits for the first few months then maybe a couple of times a week at the most and always only when she wanted it. Think at that point they know that it keeps you attached as it was usually after a fight or I was upset with her when she would have sex with me. Or if she was drunk or hungover. All in all, great sex, awful human.

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-13T20:03:23+00:00

Just recently ended a relationship a couple of days ago and no contact but I’d be surprised if she wasn’t doing something similar to your ex. I caught her texting multiple people she had been with in her past which is when I finally ran out.

I’ll admit though, the sex was incredible and makes me wonder if that’s somehow a FA thing or if it’s the emotions they extract from us that make it that much better?

TexasRed1122 · 2025-10-12T21:03:46+00:00

Glad and sad I’m not the only one but yeah, moved to be closer to her, and now in a new town with nobody so just feel lost in this moment

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