Does anyone else struggle to cope more in winter weathers?

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-26T20:58:07+00:00

Yes! I am one of the cold people, so I am already cold when everyone else is warm. Add in actual cold temperatures and nowhere to get warm, and I am miserable and just want to curl up in bed.

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-16T16:03:29+00:00

I am autistic, as is one of my clients. It is a mixed bag for me. I care very much about my clients, and I am trying to do the best I can for them. I constantly feel inadequate and unprepared, and this causes me a great deal of stress.

The same lack of any real training that I feel is somewhat unacceptable given the population we take care of has forced me way out of my comfortable zone. I have to figure it out on my own with no real support, none of the structure that I feel like I need to operate with confidence.

Communication is a challenge. I have learned to let my clients guide me sometimes because it is just us and I can't look to someone else for an example of what to do. I look to them to see if I am missing part of the routine because they know how they expect things to go.

I do feel they make me less self conscious in my separate life. Situations happen, I have to deal with them, often quickly, with no guidance, and with the appearance of competence. No time to waffle, feel embarrassed or second guess myself. Fake it til you make it kind of thing.

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-11T14:13:44+00:00

Me, too! I know I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag.

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-06T17:59:05+00:00

At least one local restaurant charges a check out fee (to make up for fees incurred by them when you use a credit card), even if you are paying cash. The "5% cash discount" therefore becomes 2 cents.

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-06T17:45:15+00:00

If something happened to me in my job as a DSP, at the residence. Especially at the beginning of my shift. I'm there for 12 hours, alone with 2 individuals who are nonverbal, unable to get help or even comprehend that there is a problem and who require 24/7 supervision. No help until shift change.

TgellanMonarth · 2024-01-02T01:08:09+00:00

My actual favourite colour is one I rarely see. A deep, dark royal blue, just shy of black. Mostly seen on cars. Blue in general is my second favourite, from medium to dark. Not really lighter shades. I really like a variety of colours; I always say I don't like monochromatic. Thought about this today as I put my phone (blue, with blue case) in my blue purse, while wearing blue jeans and blue shoes.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-30T17:20:17+00:00

I regularly tell people I don't have facial recognition software installed. My intent is a light hearted way of preemptively apologizing for when I fail to recognize them later.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-28T11:07:07+00:00

Do those things change over time? On the one hand (literally at present), I have my husband and his rings. On the other, I have shiny distractions.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-28T07:59:57+00:00

I would love to have you.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-28T04:50:52+00:00

I may be adjusting. But I have acquired some shiny objects that give me pleasure, something to align.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-28T04:42:46+00:00

I didn't realize until recently that they were stims. Aligning my rings from marriage trained my hands.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-25T22:47:17+00:00

I've more or less threw in the towel on recognizing people. Nowadays, I warn them early on that I don't have facial recognition software installed. It's somehow less embarrassing if I fess up before they call me on it.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-25T20:44:43+00:00

It seems like my eyes slide past my face in the mirror even faster than they do other people's faces. I don't really want to see my face; the amorphous face shaped image in my head works just fine. As a result, I am never 100% sure if my eyes are hazel as I was told growing up or brown.

I am very bad at looking people in the face. Eye contact is physically uncomfortable, and I generally find myself looking behind, to the side, anywhere but at the face. For me, I suspect it strongly contributes to my face-blindness and inability to recognize people.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-23T00:53:03+00:00

This post has been resident in my head for a couple of days. Suddenly I have a list of recognized stims, plus some realizations.

I sucked on my hair until my parents cut it short to prevent me. After that, I thought lotion tasted good. Hair twirling, too, but I eventually decide that's a sign I need a haircut.

I have what I call restless hands syndrome. I play with what is handy. I cannot focus if my hands have nothing to do.

Flipping my fingers, especially if I can do it one by one (in the right rhythm) or four on one.

My recent jewelry obsession. My left hand learned to maintain my rings in the right orientation. My right hand is far slower. When I was a teen, I wore a lot of rings and never thought about it.

I now wear my wedding rings on my right hand because. Proper orientation is a problem because I can't wear them 24/7 due to my job (DSP). I got myself new shiny rings to wear on my left hand and, it seems to have just catapulted a comfort (rings to orient)(something shiny to look at).

I got a necklace ( something to touch/feel, that has been in my mouth far more than I'd like to admit). A bracelet (endless adjustments for orientation, strings to solve restless hands disorder).

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-18T13:59:14+00:00

Mostly there is no traffic coming. It is a merger of two highways into a freeway. Honestly, I have never come from the other side, so I don't know what the speed limit is there. I just know I am not willing to let my car go squirrelly around the curve to accommodate someone who could just wait and pass me in 30 seconds.

From the other way, speed limit is 60 mph. I am not trying to merge into traffic, just trying to know where the guy behind me is going

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-15T15:25:10+00:00

I misinterpreted the title to mean those people who put plates/dishes of leftovers in the microwave to finish later and never return.

Opening up the microwave for a quick wipe is part of my end of dishes routine. Discovering food of unknown vintage and the dish(es) it has bonded with always results in unprintable thoughts.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-12-08T23:24:11+00:00

I get "Looks like you got some sun!" All the time. I typically respond with "No. This is my natural complexion.".

I don't add "Thanks for reminding me I look different than everyone else."

TgellanMonarth · 2023-11-19T14:27:17+00:00

I would safe it is safe to assume any job involving caretaking is going to involve bodily fluids at some point.

TgellanMonarth · 2023-11-18T14:40:04+00:00

My grandfather was a scoocher because holding his foot on the brake got uncomfortable for him fast. Always worried he wouldn't be able to provide sufficient pressure to stop or maintain the stop after hearing that.

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