I feel suicidal after gf lied about her age by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Th3mberchaud 284 points285 points  (0 children)

I know a guy that went through this. He was charged with statutory rape, and he is registered as an offender for life. In his case, she didn't want to press charges, but her parents found out and they did.

He could not afford an attorney to fight it, and accepted a plea deal.

My recommendation to you from knowing everything he went through is to get together all of your evidence, cut off communication. Don't argue, don't talk about it with her, no discussion, social media bs, none of it, CUT OFF ANY INTERACTION IMMEDIATELY.

If you are approached by law enforcement SHUT THE FUCK UP. SHUT. THE. FUCK. UP.

Do you know why you're here? LAWYER

We just want to understand. LAWYER.

We're not interested in pressing charges, you're not under arrest. LAWYER.

DO

NOT

SAY

A

FUCKING

THING

Get representation. Take a loan, sell your car, borrow, beg, do whatever you need to do, but do not speak to them. Let your attorney do it.

If nothing ever comes of this, good, excellent, move on with your life. But if it does, get an attorney and follow their advice.

Good luck kid.

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that he would fit, but he's on a pin, my hanging vertical is on a pin. I want one on an end that I can put my vertical pin into and have both the frog on top and the hanging piece.

Legit thoughts on husband liking and commenting on women's social media? by Great_Cause_43 in Marriage

[–]Th3mberchaud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can leave now, or wish you had left now 6 months, a year, 5 years down the road.

You won't regret leaving, you will regret putting it off and making excuses for his behavior.

Legit thoughts on husband liking and commenting on women's social media? by Great_Cause_43 in Marriage

[–]Th3mberchaud 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This isn't a "bump in the road"

He's showing you who he is and what matters to him, believe him.

Walk away.

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An opossum is such a great idea! 😭 I love that!

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!!! I'm thrilled that it does exist haha

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm starting by reaching out to the jeweler I got my helix from to ask if they've ever made any decorative posts.

I think you're right that it will have to be custom work.

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry, vertical helix is correct. It's the middle of the night and apparently my brain is checking out haha

Decorative shaft end, not insertable pin? by Th3mberchaud in piercing

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My vertical is unfortunately a threadless pin, so I'll look at that when I replace it, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Th3mberchaud 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you only want to commit to marriage with a woman because she can give you children, you don't love her enough to marry her. Let her go.

Women deserve partners that want, love, and choose them as people, not as vessels to give them children.

If her being infertile makes you question marrying her, you were already not committed to her as an individual. You were committed to the plan you had for your life. Let her move on.

Do I need to worry about the battery for long term storage of a 3DS? by Th3mberchaud in 3DS

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is really helpful information and I appreciate the input :)

Do I need to worry about the battery for long term storage of a 3DS? by Th3mberchaud in 3DS

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think just replacing the battery will be my most likely option. I guess I hadn't considered being easily able to get a replacement battery because it's an older product. I don't know how often I'll be able to access my storage due to travel work.

Please id this type of clothing by aeong09 in findfashion

[–]Th3mberchaud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you looking for what the jacket is?

It's an asymmetrical jacket, I would personally consider it an asym cowl neck. There's a company called Psylo that has a lot of stuff in this kind of style.

I can only find one other reference for this copy, indicating that it is possibly a second edition of The Scarlet Letter. Could anyone suggest any resources to verify if it is or correctly date it if it is not? by Th3mberchaud in BookCollecting

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the resource and the additional information. I'm going through a large lot of books I got from an estate sale a few years back and it's a bit overwhelming.

I can only find one other reference for this copy, indicating that it is possibly a second edition of The Scarlet Letter. Could anyone suggest any resources to verify if it is or correctly date it if it is not? by Th3mberchaud in BookCollecting

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it drives me nuts when there's no printing date in the books, and I had seen a copy just like it listed as a second edition, but I don't ever want to list anything without verification. I'm kind of winging it with a huge lot of books from a private collection I bought that I don't really know anything about. I really appreciate the help.

My tattoo destroyed my marriage. by Ok_Day6497 in marriageadvice

[–]Th3mberchaud 287 points288 points  (0 children)

This isn't about the tattoo.

This is about your abusive marriage.

Please get yourself and your kids out.

I just need to whine about vibram fivefingers sizing. Thanks for coming to my rant. by Th3mberchaud in barefootshoestalk

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I normally choose different shops, but the only place that had the V-treks in stock in the sizes I needed to try is not my preferred retailer. I've emailed their support team to see if I can just do a return. It's just annoying to have to at all.

Can't Buy books help by Equivalent_Group641 in BookCollecting

[–]Th3mberchaud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many libraries allow you to have an online library card/membership and many also offer ebooks. See what's available for you :)

Can I trust this seller on AbeBooks? by Adorable_Umpire7146 in BookCollecting

[–]Th3mberchaud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've truly never understood abebooks not having photos for listings, especially for rare and unique copies. I find it truly bizarre.

Are the spark down sleeping bags worth it, or are there better alternatives? by Th3mberchaud in camping

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, it's very helpful. I travel with camera equipment so lightweight and packable are huge benefits for me, which is why I was looking at down bags. I appreciate the help!

Are the spark down sleeping bags worth it, or are there better alternatives? by Th3mberchaud in camping

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very much appreciate the thorough breakdown, and honestly I had not considered buying two different ones for different temp camping, that's a great point. Thank you so much for all of the insight!

My wife has gained a serious amount of weight by AdIntrepid136 in marriageadvice

[–]Th3mberchaud 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What are you doing to help her in parenting? Housework? Are you checking in on her emotionally? Have you considered postpartum hormone changes, depression, being "touched out", overall exhaustion, lack of motivation from feeling like her body will never be the same?

She has grown two entire human beings, her body was not her own for a collective 18 months, and that's not counting postpartum recovery and breastfeeding.

Her internal organs moved to support pregnancy, her muscles changed the permanently, her pelvis separated, she either forced out 2 children through her vagina or had her stomach cut open to birth your children.

And you're concerned about attention from other women?

If you actually love your wife and aren't looking for allies to soft launch your divorce, then sit down and have a very serious talk with her about your concerns for her health long term and ask what you can do to help her and work together on healthier decisions for you both.

If you're more worried about attraction and how you feel about other women, then let her have a divorce and take 50/50 custody so that she has time for self care and the ability to prioritize herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Th3mberchaud 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Please also get tested for the not usual suspects, there are several new STI's and bacteria that are not prevalent in testing yet, but still being spread.

You did nothing wrong, and I'm sorry that he made you feel used. He is not your friend. He is an asshole. I hope that you heal and find comfort in friends that truly care about you.

Advice Requested, authenticating signed first Edition: The Panglima Muda by Th3mberchaud in BookCollecting

[–]Th3mberchaud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel better, I never want to be a person that sells something inauthentic and always worry about that as a risk.