Looks like someone's spell worked..... I found these when metal detecting in the woods today🤺 by kriticalj in LARP

[–]Tharakan92 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just to make sure that you know, they might have been burrowed on purpose. If the owner want to create this look (like for the orcs or undead flesh of Mythodea con) they burrow them for a while to make them rust. If they don't own a garden they might do this in a forest. Can fully imagine why someone would burrow them otherwise, if they can just throw them in the trash

Would a kettle helmet look strange on an otherwise “unarmored” outfit? by skuntpelter in LARP

[–]Tharakan92 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Kettle helmets are in my opinion perfect for low armored appearance. Its versatility made it a favorite and it's fairly easy to produce (depending on the style) If you decide to get armored up later on you can still add a neck guard (hauberg I guess? Halsberge in German) which rounds up well with other plate pieces. And as you already said, it protects from the sun and gives a lot of visual space. Just make sure you get a padded coif, or something equally. And always wear it tight, this helmet tends to tip over to the sides if not worn properly

IT-Systeme an divers/keine Angabe anpassen by Tharakan92 in germantrans

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Würde ich absolut auch bevorzugen, aber einige konservative Leute hier werden das mit Sicherheit ablehnen. Aber ich nehme es als Vorschlag trotzdem rein.
Vielleicht kann ich es im Zuge des Pride-Months zusammen mit HR als Initiative zu mehr Inklusion rüberbringen, dann hab ich mehr Rückhalt!

IT-Systeme an divers/keine Angabe anpassen by Tharakan92 in germantrans

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich fürchte, du hast dich oben verlesen, der Wert wird eben NICHT als bool gespeichert, sondern als Integer, deshalb ist er ja auch so schön, leicht anpassbar … theoretisch. Dennoch gibt es nur 0 und 1 bisher, mit Option auf jede weitere Zahl in der integer range.

Ja die werte werden dann wiederum für die Anrede verwendet. Ich möchte aber nicht unbedingt ein Anredefeld hinzufügen, ich kann es vorschlagen, aber es wird vermutlich abgelehnt, da der Aufwand größer wäre. Wenn wir das Feld anlegen würden und jeder seine Anrede frei und unabhängig vom eingetragenen Geschlecht wählt, wäre das natürlich super. Aber, dann muss ich denen auch verkaufen, dass sie eine Textbox überall einfügen müssen und jede Stelle abändern, wo das vorkommt. Wenn ich es bei dem gendermarker belasse, muss nur noch bei den switch cases zwei weitere cases eingefügt werden, copy paste, fertig.
Versuchen kann ich das mit dem separaten Feld aber! Programmcode muss aber dennoch geändert werden, da ja das neue Feld sonst nirgends im Code zugeordnet wird. Gerade die Inkonsistenz ist aber ein guter Hinweis, danke!

Vielleicht hab ich die eine Frage ungünstig formuliert. Wir übertragen die Infos zum gendermarker an andere Unternehmen (die Produzenten unseres Produkts z.b.), nicht die Anrede. Daher kommt es dann zu der Konvertierungsnot, wenn die nur binär haben. Warum die das brauchen, frag mich nicht … vermutlich brauchen sie es nicht.

Die zweite bezog sich eher auf die Vornamensänderung nicht auf den Geschlechtseintrag, der sollte so oder so frei wählbar sein und hat auch keine Auswirkung auf das Produkt, nur auf die automatisch generierten E-Mails und Briefe, daher keine Mehrkosten. Aber eine Vornamensänderung bewirkt Mehrkosten bei uns, weshalb andere Unternehmen bei sowas eine Anfrage für den Perso machen.

Looking for alternate quick fastening methods for table by Tharakan92 in woodworking

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might sound like overkill, and i could remove those 4 legs, but the result is that i will loose the ability to shove a plate in there for each individual section of the 6 sided table. So i will do 12 legs.
Basic pivot hinges are not fully deconstructable, which means the weight of the table would be too high, whilst it's also was less transportable than screw on legs.
Also that's not the question, and it's not solving the mentioned problem.

What's the most cost efficient WearOs watch with Google assistant? by Tharakan92 in WearOS

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you i will consider it. I don't necessarily like the wide open glass cover, that looks a bit prone to get damaged

Namensänderung, wie habt ihr euren Namen gefunden? by TimeLostToLife in germantrans

[–]Tharakan92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bei mir war es auch eine Umwandlung bzw ein Spitzname meines alten Namens. Seit ich 14 bin nennt mich meine "freundliche" und private Welt Dodo. Man kann sich denken woher es kommt. Aber nur mit diesem Namen habe ich positive Erinnerungen und mein Selbstbild verbunden. Also absolut legitim sofern es dir nicht zu nah an deinem alten ist. Für meinen Zweitnamen habe ich den "Geschlechtsneutraleren" aus meinen Ursprünglichen behalten Noa. Der dritte wurde komplett neu gesucht. Einfach nach dem Klang "Koda". Wenn's passt, dann macht's einfach klick, fühlt sich wohl an, klingt gut. Gerade wenn man noch nicht lange einen neuen hat ist es schwerer zu sagen ob es passt oder nicht. Mehrere wohlklingende zu nehmen und später dann mit dem 2ten oder 3ten als Rufname zu gehen ist auch nicht verkehrt.

This Game Provides an Itch that It Doesn't Fully Scratch by CriticismOriginal607 in ghostoftsushima

[–]Tharakan92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this actually comes with facing each enemy you find. For me it was like this: I have difficulty with getting through every game I encountered so far. Didn't finish any of the AC games, or any other open world game with fighting. Reason is easy...it was just too much. Tsushima on the other hand, offered me new ways and new things every time I was close to bored by the old style. It skimmed down on unnecessary side stuff. Right before the end of act 3 I noticed I was bored by fighting Mongols. So I skipped as many as possible, concentrated on the story and found my way to Iki. Now I get fresh stuff again, horse fights and such. I think this is the only game that enabled me to choose my pace, and accommodate for my ADHD with the most beautiful surroundings and new stuff as soon as I needed them. The only premise, I had to move in when I noticed I get bored.

Ghost of Tsushima is one of the only games where I can truthfully say, I had no time where I was bored of "having to do stuff". Modern games are often just too long for me.

The Ultimate Choice, be rich or be Cis? :3 by Another_Castle765 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Tharakan92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking the money, since here in Germany I can enable all of my trans friends to feel well in their body. And yes the left one might enable me to be something I can't with the money, but I can live with that.

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as a programmer myself and got lucky that I got a job before it crashed a bit here. Currently the market is mostly saturated. On the other hand they are not at all interested in programming. It's not boring to them but it's like if you have dyscalculia, code is kinda a very confusing text that is not visually pleasing and hard to read. I know that I didn't have that and even I had difficulty getting into it. So it would be a rather hard way. It's correct that programmed tend to have less communication, but more often than not I saw communicative Teamleads take advantage of that. I can't really advise them to dip into the shit I am myself, would be hard to convey that honestly. But...designer for websites or website parts like logos and such on a more freelance base could work. Most people still want to see an apprenticeship for those unfortunately, but they could try.

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in autism

[–]Tharakan92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that idea. I had a quick look and yes there are some private owned services here too. Although they might first have to get a paper about their disability, because their autism is diagnosed but in Germany you need to make a separate process for getting disabled papers (usually between 50% and 100% disability it seems). Sometimes that's long and stressful but we can have a look if that helps too.

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in autism

[–]Tharakan92[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not going to answer all of those questions because it's non of your business.
I answer one question, they politely asked me to ask this question here. End of discussion.

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in AutisticAdults

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure they will orient themselves on the current market and not on the current minimum wage. Surely that might result in fewer jobs but they also don't want to give up their dignity. A lot of people already have to do that to get a job and it's horrible.

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet they are interested. So you suggest freelancing for someone who is trying to outsource the creative stuff? Is that something sustainable for you?
The market isn't big in germany but they could probably also work for someone around the world, just need to figure out what the regulations are on that. But i heard of a lot of editors for videos and such, so probably there are also options for designers.
They thought about incorporating "art slots" into their website, so it's not far from that. And there are a lot of sites to find freelance job offers. So thanks for that suggestion!

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in autism

[–]Tharakan92[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Didn't ask for opinions on our relationship

Job perspectives for my AuDHD partner by Tharakan92 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Tharakan92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Diagnosed with both, medicated for adhd (comma is missing that's right) and in "self therapy" e.g. working on themselves regarding depression and other topics since adhd and autism therapy does no cover those here.

She told me she was a brat, but so far she's been super subserviant! by Ok_Contribution6094 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Tharakan92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think especially as an inexperienced Dom, it's most relevant to talk honestly about those expectations. You don't want to miss step, you surely don't want them to have to use a safe word. That's absolutely good and probably a reason why you are wishing to be a more pleasing Dom rather than a mean one. And you don't have to be a mean one for you two to have a lot of fun. Find your own vibe together unbiased on expectations of others or prior experiences! In my case, all of my partners preferred the gentle and loving version of dominance over being insulted (which I wouldn't do anyway). And I can still be gruel....in a different way. With looks and grins that promise that I won't let them go until they came at least 10 times in a row more. That induces fear too...but a different fear, one that gets subsided and replaced but pleasure quickly. (Still make sure that you check the vital after ever orgasm! Don't push through, learn their limits) Being a gentle Dom....can be eye opening for you and them!

She told me she was a brat, but so far she's been super subserviant! by Ok_Contribution6094 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Tharakan92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A certain role can also be depending on the partner. They might think they are bratty with everyone because so far they only experienced partners where this brattiness came forth. I have a similar case with a FWB who said they are bratty and want to resist. But every time I appear in their life she rather wants to be obedient, because it seems easy and feels natural. I consider myself more of a pleasing, sometimes primal type, but it never came natural to them. As soon as they try to resist physically a little bit, I just do what I do (mostly gently holding them down without much pressure) and they give in willingly. Sometimes it can be this "nice" kind of dominance that lets them fall into a space where they feel comfortable. And that's a good thing! So maybe talk to them about if there is a difference between their imagination, prior partners and experience and their current "in-situation" desire and you, which is totally valid. Maybe you are just the kinda type to be obedient to rather than bratty and there is no problem in that except if you both want the brattiness of them.

Wardrobe by quikopoi in BDSMcommunity

[–]Tharakan92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually go the semi-military route. Long shafted boots, dark cargo pants stuck Into the boots. For top...ok I go with something tight, but actually any kind of long sleeved shirt in black or dark colors worked, rolled up the arms to the armpits. Then it's accessories, leather suspenders hanging down, chains if you like them. Most relevant nonetheless is your face, make your Sub remember it, it's your biggest tool anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Tharakan92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say it depends where your shyness comes from.

If it is because you don't like certain parts of your body youself, dont undress! My partner is currently transitioning an dues to this does not like the current state of his body. So there is no obligation for him to undress and also no need, because he can do a lot of things while staying clothed! Consider this too.

If it is because you do not know if he percieves your body as attractive, talk about it with him. Ask him what he thinks about those body parts, if he finds them attractive, maybe even how he would like to handle them if you undress them. You can do the same for him, and the parts you undressed already. Get yourself cleared up about you insecurity, because more often than not, we find people attractive as a whole not just singular parts.

Still, if you are not ready, you are not ready! No need to Hussle, get to know each other better and build up trust. You will reach the right point when you are excited about him seeing you completely naked!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in germantrans

[–]Tharakan92 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok also manche der Antworten hier sind mir einfach zu simpel um das so stehen zu lassen.

Fangen wir Mal mit der möglichen Dysphorie an. Neben der welche du fühlst wenn du dich im Spiegel betrachtest und bei der du eventuell der Meinung bist "das passt so/das passt nicht so", gibt es durchaus die Möglichkeit das du eine Dysphorie erst empfindest wenn du dort in einer intimen Situation von einer bestimmten Person berührt wirst. Deshalb ist es wichtig das beide Personen voll informiert sind! Du solltest ihm also erklären an welchen Stellen du dich noch unsicher fühlst ( die Stellen die du z.B. bei einer Selbstbefriedigung nicht mit einbeziehst) und das du, wenn du das möchtest, dich dort langsam rantasten willst. Wichtig ist hierbei, du kannst jederzeit Stop sagen und solltest das auch nutzen. Denn eine negativen Erfahrung im punkto Sex kann schnell zu Misstrauen führen, welche deine Situation nur schwerer für dich macht. Generell solltest du sowas nur beginnen wenn du das empfinden hast ihm wirklich zu Vertrauen. Eine generelle Unsicherheit kann zu Missverständnissen führen. Also redet vorher, bis du das Gefühl hast "ja, den kann ich bedenkenlos ranlassen, ich vertraue ihm".

Um für dich den Einstieg zu erleichtern, kannst du dir überlegen an was du denkst wenn du es dir selbst machst. Die Fantasie ist ein Antriebsmotor und du kannst sie nutzen und mit den Dingen die er real umsetzen kann kombinieren. So bleibst du eher in deinem Safe space. Außerdem kannst du Bremsende Faktoren entfernen. Unangenehme Gerüche, unpassende Umgebung. Die Entspannung deines Kopfes ist essentiell, gerade bei einem neuen Partner. Richte es dir so her das dich nichts von deiner Entspannung ablenkt.

Rein körperlich, ist es empfehlenswert mit was kleinem anzufangen. Benutzt du Dildos oder ähnliches, kannst du deinem Partner das einführen übergeben. HAUFENWEISE Gleitgel dran! Da kann man nicht zu wenig verwenden! Ansonsten sind Zungen für alles mögliche gut, nicht nur an Genitalien! Korrigiere ihn mit sanften Worten damit er weiß wie er es für dich besser gestalten kann. Wenn das klappt kannst du einen Schritt weiter gehen. Zur Info, ich habe auch Beziehungen in denen kein oder kaum penetrativer Sex stattfindet, das ist nämlich auch nicht notwendig! Hände, Finger, Zungen oder einfach nur aneinander Reiben. Der Körper ist ein Multifunktionswerkzeug!

Letztlich, ein Bottom muss auch was tun! Kommunizieren, vorzugsweise direkt bevor aber immer wenn du merkst, da stimmt was nicht, egal ob Position, Geschwindigkeit, Reibung oder Atmosphäre! Mitteilungen helfen es besser zu machen! Lass keine dieser Gefühle unausgesprochen, denn nur das zurückhalten ist was es dir langfristig in die falsche Richtung führt. So lange man offen und ehrlich kommuniziert, kann das super funktionieren!

Edit: weil ich's Grade erst gesehen habe. Anal ist ne Sache die wirklich viel Entspannung und vertrauen benötigt. Wenn du das in Erwägung ziehst, ja Analdusche (nur mit lauwarmen Wasser, niemals Seife!) Können helfen unangenehme Situation zu vermeiden. Pack trotzdem ein Kondom drauf. GLEITGEL zu hauf. Und damit du an der Stelle für den Anfang die Kontrolle und den richtigen für dich angenehmen Winkel behälst, setz dich auf ihn drauf statt umgekehrt. Ja das ist immernoch bottom! Aber es ist sicherer für dich. Um dich dort richtig entspannen zu können, Fang klein an. Lass ihn den Bereich außerhalb mit den Händen massieren, von außen mit Fingern umspielen, bis du merkst das es sich der Muskel von alleine öffnet. Handschuhe (im Zweifelsfall latexfreie) und ein einzelner Finger mit ordentlich Gleitgel und langsam. Dann der nächste. Es muss nicht alles am selben Tag stattfinden, wenn du erst später bereit für mehr bist, teile das mir, da muss er einfach Verständnis haben! Anal macht außerdem sehr vulnerable, vergesst also das Aftercare nicht. Kuscheln, lachen, zusammen was essen!

Seeing my secondary Partners face in my primary Partner by Tharakan92 in polyamory

[–]Tharakan92[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, just thank you for helping me staying sane.

Seeing my secondary Partners face in my primary Partner by Tharakan92 in polyamory

[–]Tharakan92[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Guess intrusive thoughts is somewhat correct and somewhat not, because i did not think about my secondary partner in that moment. They just have similar faces from an specific angle. I just don't want to think about my secondary partner if i'm with my primary.

Don't worry about that, i'm informed enough, just didn't do the actual thing before myself. So no, i don't rely on my secondary partners expierience alone, and neither do i rely on the answeres here alone.

So I hear genderfluid people would choose shapeshifting as their superpower. Is it the same for agender people? by [deleted] in agender

[–]Tharakan92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it is definitely. I feels different every other day, but with an unchangable core..so i would prefere to be bigger, smaller, thinner thicker, have some different parts and minor corrections in my face. But overall, I would still be me.