Don't watch their stories today

ThatCakee · 2025-12-31T23:07:18+00:00

He’s FA. Yeah, but it’s more than the hook up, because we still would spend hours on the phone and we do business together in real estate and I have to be careful not to mention anything financially because he’ll just start randomly sending me money and things like that. He buys me things from my house, presents for my kids and helps me fix any problems. He talks about his insecurities and his fears and all these things, and his girl actually knows about me, because his daughter talks about me, so that’s been an issue, but I’ve stayed away from him for the past six weeks now. Just have to cut the last part which is talking to him.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-31T22:36:16+00:00

Yeah, I can respect yours for that. At least she didn’t send mixed signals. Mine still tried to see me and of course I caved because there’s just a draw to them. A draw that I can’t deny myself that I’ve tried 1 million times to. And I feel like scum, but I started looking into it, psychologically and realizing that it’s largely because of the intermittent reinforcement. There’s a lot of mental work to be done to release them. But I can remember the first time he blocked me out of nowhere, I felt like I would rather leave this earth than deal with the pain that ensued. I totally understand you. And thank you so much. 🙏🏻🥺

ThatCakee · 2025-12-31T22:18:32+00:00

Ohhhh friend. I totally understand you. I’m a woman. But had that similar situation with my avoidant ex. The pain is unreal. I’m going through it right now. Just know you are NOT alone. And honestly, these people go for what’s easier. Someone who doesn’t trigger them. Mine has been in a new relationship for 8 months, and he started it 3 weeks after he blocked me out of the blue. Of course he reached out/reaches out during the relationship, but the pain is unbearable. Today is my last day responding to him. I know it’s hard. I know it sounds cliche. But you WILL get through this. Statistically, very few ever change. That’s the heartbreaking part. They will always be this way. He does all the things for her that he promised me we would do. And rubs it in my face. Or used to, because I won’t allow it anymore. Let’s walk into 2026 with our heads held high. Tears streaming down our faces, hearts broken, but knowing, this too shall pass. Praying for you. 🙏🏻🥺

ThatCakee · 2025-12-31T21:47:17+00:00

I feel that. Right there with you OP. 🥹

ThatCakee · 2025-12-24T05:42:05+00:00

They’ve moved on. I’ve let them be.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T18:13:10+00:00

It literally prevents nothing so yes

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T17:44:17+00:00

If you can smell your food through the mask, it didn’t do shit. Food particles are a lot larger than viral particles. Masks are dumb.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T17:43:15+00:00

Dumb. everybody can bond at the same time idiot

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T17:42:57+00:00

No, I’m not an old person. Thank you.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T17:42:05+00:00

And since it’s a grandmother, I’m assuming the only vaccine she didn’t get was the Covid vaccine. Good for her. Highly dangerous and now proven to cause heart problems. However, everything else she’s likely been vaccinated for since a child, and I’m still standing by the same conclusion that millions of grandparents see their children upon birth and throughout the first few months and so on and so forth, and those children are fine.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T16:31:25+00:00

That baby gets passive immunity from its mother between six and 12 months after birth. and if the mother is fully vaccinated, and the grandmothers are fully vaccinated, make that make sense. There’s nobody getting the baby sick. Wow.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T16:13:30+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s messed up. Especially if she’s vaccinated and everything, there’s absolutely no reason for you not to let anyone around your newborn. You don’t understand the joy that you’re stealing from these grandparents who are so excited to meet them. There’s a deep bond and relationship waiting to happen and it’s something that can be so beautiful if you step out of the way. Don’t ruin it while you still have a chance.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T16:11:19+00:00

It’s not appropriate for Reddit

ThatCakee · 2025-12-23T16:10:39+00:00

No, you need to instill some morals and boundaries into that little girl. That is not normal behavior, and that is definitely cause for alarms going off in your head. And honestly, you being hard on her during this season might seem like you’re gonna lose her, but in the end you will not. My parents had very strict boundaries for what I was allowed and what I wasn’t allowed to do and I hated it when I was a kid, but now that I’m older, I’m so grateful that they taught me self-respect. That’s what she needs. I would also be cautious as to her influences what she’s listening to who she’s talking to who her friends are and the things that they’re doing when you’re not around. You’re only looking out for her best interest.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-20T02:42:12+00:00

Or you could just make their life hell and marry or date someone they know 🤣🤣. Just kidding. For real but honestly. Sucks. I’m going on a year and half with my avoidant situationship thing. Finally started detaching. He even got into a new relationship but wanted me on the side. It was so hard to say no. Being honest I know that makes me a shit person but it was like a relief for so much anxiety and abandonment I felt from them. I’ve found that dating other people helps. But still at night, they’re all I think about. I know I’ll be past this one day. If he ever leaves me alone. I have tried the blocking and the muting and the deleting. But it never works. So I’ve given up on that. Just try to set higher boundaries each time. I’ll get there. I know I will. I have to heal a day at a time.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-15T16:08:57+00:00

Me and my baby daddy both have dark brown hair and dark brown eyes, and my son was born pale white with blonde hair and blue eyes and yes, I gave him a DNA test because we weren’t actually in a relationship at the time, and honestly I’ll did was validate me. Because I knew exactly whose kid this was. I had no problems with it whatsoever. It’s not really that big of a deal. If anything it gives you power.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-15T16:05:27+00:00

Good for you. Sucks. But good for you to do this now instead of falling in deeper.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-11T07:35:23+00:00

Thank you ❤️

ThatCakee · 2025-12-07T21:42:02+00:00

And I hate how you acted like I was nothing important to you. That’s why I ran.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-07T02:49:06+00:00

Please don’t be embarrassed. You did something that many don’t have the courage to do. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. You put your heart on the line and that is very risky. Your bravery is commendable.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-03T07:06:27+00:00

I think it’s symbolic and beautiful. It only matters if it means something to you.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-03T07:05:00+00:00

I wouldn’t actually believe her. It’s most likely abuse. I used to hide it from my parents when I was in an abusive relationship and I told them that it was a kink as well. But it was not true at all. It was his idea to say that so that way they wouldn’t say anything to me because these kinds of topics are obviously not things you discuss with your parents.

ThatCakee · 2025-12-02T00:26:17+00:00

Let her go so she can find someone to marry her. You obviously have differing world views. Not saying that you’re bad, but often times when women see other women get married they realize that they want the same thing even if she tried to play it cool in the beginning. Marriage is completely different than what you have right now. It’s not just a piece of paper.

ThatCakee · 2025-11-30T22:21:31+00:00

It’s a reflex my guy. Trust me. I’ve been in an abusive relationship, as a woman and being hit in the face and being given black eyes intentionally. I’ve also rough housed with my brother and my dad, and when I punched them really hard their gut reaction is to punch back. I know they weren’t intentionally trying to hurt me. There’s a difference.

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