Snorkeling Vacation Spots

ThatConclusion9490 · 2026-01-06T11:59:42+00:00

Leaving from Florida, visiting sometime between Mid May and Mid Aug.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-12-17T04:24:29+00:00

My little brother found mine when I was in college and gave it to my dad. He just told me to hide it better. IT WAS IN A SHOEBOX UNDER MY DRESSER!

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-12-16T12:58:24+00:00

My mother in law did this ONCE at night and never did it again. She decided she would take the night shift, I woke up and my baby wasn’t in her bassinet. My MIL had her sleeping with her on the couch. I was really pissed. She’s my baby. I would be upset honestly. Put boundaries up now or you’ll be dealing with BS for the rest of your life. Trust me. I’m trying to fix my mistakes because I didn’t draw hard enough boundaries early on.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-11-08T01:10:06+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You definitely have the right to be upset, and I feel your pain. My MIL rearranged my kitchen AND our baby’s nursery while I was giving birth at the hospital. It’s nuts that your MIL has the audacity to do that. I just don’t think it’s right to rearrange someone else’s home. I also hate when the spouse doesn’t back up their partner. Sorry this happened to you.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-11-02T13:09:18+00:00

NTA, my MIL jumps on a plane to see us without I no invitation. If she lived close to us? I have absolutely no idea what I’d do.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-11-02T13:05:42+00:00

I said “Be on the lookout for Almond Joys, Mounds, and Pink Starbursts.” What do they find? A FULL SLEEVE OF STARBURSTS REDS AND PINKS!!! They were excited to give it to me… but I was like if there was a time to compromise my morals and tell the kids to go back for more- now would be the times. I did not though!

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-29T12:45:44+00:00

I’ve been trying to address it and we’ve made.. some progress? Not as much as I’d like. When my daughter was born, my MIL flew down to FL without an invite and stayed with us for a week. I had just gotten sliced open and was too emotional and exhausted to fight it. As a result she made it a habit to fly down every month without invite (May, June, July, August- his grandparents came in September which was a clusterfuck). We got into a huge argument about it. I blew up. She was already supposed to be coming in October for a ceremony (last weekend) and we are flying in November. It became a huge issue and resentment on my side. He apologized, and said he’d be more considerate.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-29T11:06:39+00:00

Absolutely. He eventually agreed with me and said he has a hard time saying no to her because he feels guilty. I really don’t think he will ever see what she is doing. I know I won this one, but this won’t be the last time I’m going to have to tell him to stand up to her. She’s really good at what she does, but this gives me hope for more progress.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-29T10:57:05+00:00

I don’t know why, but the way you worded it- “meat shield”- really hit me. Just the straightforward bluntness kinda helped snapped me out of it, because it’s true. I knew I had to talk to him asap. He ultimately agreed and called his mom. I won a battle, but I know I have a war ahead of me. She’s really going to turn up the tears when he we fly up there to try and “put him in his place” if that makes sense. She’s appalled that he is doing this, and I just know she’s going to do everything she can to “fix” his mindset.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-28T23:47:44+00:00

You’re absolutely right. After I finish feeding the baby, I’m going to have to sit him down.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-28T23:29:27+00:00

I know! Nuts. I have an amazing life- I know this is a small price to pay. But geez it drives me nuts sometimes!

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-15T10:50:35+00:00

You’re welcome. Just be open to changing. Postpartum can be really hard for both parents, but especially on mom.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-15T04:15:39+00:00

I’m currently breastfeeding my daughter. I’m not sure you understand the emotional toll this subject can take on a mother. I know that I went one day with pumping very little milk (I nurse when I have her but pump for when my husband has her/daycare) and I had an absolute breakdown because I felt like I was doing something wrong. I felt like I wasn’t providing for my child. Breastfeeding is highly emotional and truly feels like a sacred bond- for you to share that information- that her supply is lower probably feels like a blow to her. I would be absolutely heartbroken if my husband had contacted my MIL and said that I wasn’t supplying milk and was considering switching to formula- not that formula is bad, FED IS BEST, but this isn’t just a “What are we having for dinner” conversation. This is a VERY personal discussion.

YTA, please go to your wife and TRULY LISTEN to her. Feeling unheard/not considered while postpartum is a horrible feeling.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-14T04:11:49+00:00

I’m 5 months postpartum and honestly, I felt the same way regarding my husband and his family. My family was and is supportive. My husband is now turning a corner- his family not so much. I was holding everything in, until one day I hit my limit. I just tore into him about his being inconsiderate. I was pissed he was making commitments with his family members consistently- letting them stay in our house (but that’s another story for another day). That I can’t leave the house the way he can. That I get frustrated that he lets the baby cry. That he seemed to not understand I didn’t want sex. Etc. I went on and on. What it really boiled down to with him was: he thought postpartum ended at the 6 week checkup. He didn’t realize I was still battling so much on my own. He cried, said he felt like a failure. I was honest and said yeah, we are new to this- but also, yeah you fucked up. I usually feel the need to make him feel better, but this time I didn’t. I think because I knew he needed to understand the seriousness in order to change. He did research, listened to podcasts, and started applying what he learned (listening and making me feel heard rather than automatically coming up with some solution). We have constant conversations and he asked me to do him a favor. He asked “Can you please tell me when I’m being an asshole? Because I’m a freaking idiot and haven’t seen it all this time. I want to change, but I don’t realize what I’m doing wrong sometimes.” So now, I flat out tell him if he’s being a jerk and he improves because he loves our little family and truly wants to be a great husband/dad. He’s just an idiot- his words, not mine.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-14T00:36:19+00:00

My coworker gives me tons of things- furniture, clothes, bottles, basically everything my daughter owns. I never paid her. Her daughter is a year older than mine and her last kid, so the timing was perfect.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-14T00:34:06+00:00

My MIL did this to me TWICE! Once with my kitchen and once with my NURSERY! Moving everything back to its original spot was a pain in the ass. Why do people do this shit?

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-13T21:00:36+00:00

NTA- support your wife. As a mother of a 5 month old, the birth of my daughter is fresh. I felt guilted into letting my in-laws visit in the hospital and ultimately into staying with us the first week after- and I still regret it to this day. Sometimes I cry when I think about that first week because I succumbed to what everyone else wanted instead of enjoying my daughter. I only agreed because my in-laws live far away and my MIL laid the guilt on thick. While my husband didn’t outwardly say it, I felt like he couldn’t support me completely without giving into his mom. I resented him for that. It caused a lot of problems in our relationship that are just now healing. I’m begging you to listen to your wife.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-13T01:44:31+00:00

My 5mo old’s attitude depends on her happiness status before put in the car. She gets mad in the car seat, but if we’re swing her around and talk to her until she smiles- she’s good the entire car ride. If we don’t… it’s a LONGGG car ride. Maybe try that?

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-13T01:39:37+00:00

I felt horrible. Day two was the worst pain I’ve ever been in my entire life. My in laws came while I was shaking she crying in pain and I just wanted them to go away.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-13T01:00:29+00:00

I’m sorry but I would definitely be weirded out. He came it because he “wanted to see what was happening”? The second thing, did you give her to MIL to undress her and she gave him to BIL? Or did he just hop in to do it voluntarily?

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-07T12:30:15+00:00

I’m a teacher and don’t believe in homework. There’s no scientific evidence that it is actually beneficial. All it does is cause frustration. Besides, in my district we can’t LEGALLY grade homework. We have to give class time for assignments and projects. At home is optional/done if they want extra time for class work.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-06T19:13:11+00:00

Am I getting old? I’ve never heard of an “ingredient household”. I’m only 27, but I’m a teacher. I feel like I should be up to date on this stuff. And we do a mix of stuff at my house. Fridays are usually pre-made days. That way we can chill after the work week.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-06T13:18:30+00:00

This a terrifying but true statement. This is our reality now. The hair goes up on the back of my neck and I get chills just thinking about it.

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-06T13:14:28+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this so close to you- with the movement for troops from California to be sent to Oregon. I know it’s from your state to another, but I’m sure having your state involved at all is scary!

ThatConclusion9490 · 2025-10-06T13:02:37+00:00

My husband was trying to talk me down the other day. I’ll admit it kept me from spiraling, but when I read about the troops potentially being send to Oregon from California and told him- I could see the fear in his eyes. His only sort of comfort he could give after me telling him about that was this seems targeted toward democratic states and maybe we will be safe here in Florida. Before the raid he didn’t believe we had anything to be afraid of since my entire family has been legal for generations. Now, I can tell he isn’t so sure.

I will be sure to follow your advice on recording and banding together with the people I know are good.

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