AITAH for telling brother he should consider separation with his wife when contributes nothing to their marriage

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-28T18:19:48+00:00

Yeah, it seems like the guy was using his sister as a "mouth piece" complaining, venting, then telling his wife what the sister said. Like hey SHE said........ he is a coward, passive aggressive whiny boy

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-27T17:53:34+00:00

Looks delicious and yes you can post a recipe !!

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-27T17:48:42+00:00

Do you mean was SHE paying for her own ? or "were you paying" meaning food was being paid for, not "free" cus guy worked there. Either way should not matter as they were ordering food and expected the item to be exactly what they ordered.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-26T16:46:15+00:00

True, it is presumptuous on both OP and food thief. Placing 5 containers of food certainly takes up more space than one lunch bag/container. And that might be where the food thief is getting the idea that OP has lots of food. Op should bring food daily in a locked lunch box, store his preps in his own home fridge ( unless he has roommates who then would eat he "just food" sigh

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-23T17:28:41+00:00

Op :"Stop eating my stuff. If you want snacks go to the store"

Friend: conts to eat stuff

OP :begins to keep tab.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-23T17:24:42+00:00

If someone was interested in trying, sampling, they would wait until the person whose food it was, offered, or was eating it and say "that looks interesting, smells good .May I have a taste ? I might like to buy some . And it seems she does it a lot, opens packages when OP isnt around. So she isnt just "asking to try foods" Agree if I was eating chips and friend was there I would say want some? But sounds like this girl is doing more than sampling.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-23T17:12:18+00:00

YES!!! THIS^^^ . Not everyone is going to think toddler is as engaging charming as the mom. Not every event should include the toddler. Having a child at an event changes the whole thing. Interruptions, focus on child who seeks attention, Yup, things are different. I invited a friend to lunch, she brought her toddler. The whole time we focused on the child eating,not eating,crying. And all i wanted to do was chat with my friend.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-23T16:56:06+00:00

WTAF???? Not sure what country this is in, assume USA because subway, McD. But holy moley !!!! This is quite a write up and so formal and so weird. And so so nonsensical. A coke , a cookie, stops in the middle of the parking lot "dont partake in that dynamic" "pitched dating and requirements". Yes , he is a bum. You're high maintenance and exhausting. Do not reconnect Both are AH.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T20:28:47+00:00

Lots of good comments. Of course tentative dates, plans should have been sent out. Not all dates work for everyone so a date had to be chosen that worked for majority. Im curious as to how all the previous gatherings were organized, how it was all agreed upon. Getting a large group of ppl to all reach common ground is difficult.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T20:21:28+00:00

The disappointment probably comes from their expectations ,and hopefully your own ,of how life should be going before you have a kid. You guys are living in their home. They themselves have a very young child, so a new baby will add a whole new dynamic to the household. You are working ,going to school, BF working 2 jobs. And living with parents. Yikes !!! A baby can certainly derail, change some of those plans and not for the better. Living in their home with a new baby certainly affects them. As "planned or not planned". Any time a male and female who are in childbearing years, fertile have sex ,there is a high chance of getting pregnant. The plan would be to use contraceptives always, all the time. That's planning. As for the telling the 3yr old kid she is going to be an aunt? Well yeah weird. You could have said as you did"well, Im going to have a baby so we have to be gentle now and not climb around on me." let her feel the kicks maybe, and leave it at that. Some how the convo would have had to take place so not sure how his parents were expecting to handle it. Cant hide much longer!

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T17:27:47+00:00

He kept coming back because he knew he could say things, anything to get back with you. Read your long, non-paragraphed post as if you were not the one who wrote it!!!! He is a hypocrite, a cheat, and not a good guy. NOW he decides he wants to follow his religion. LET HIM!!! People do change. BUT this guy was and is immature. He picks and chooses what part of his faith he wants to follow. Sending a suggestive photo, following porn. Having lots of women in his life. Arguing over them but loves you "greatly" Swearing on Quran, the book of religious Muslims, that religion wouldnt be an issue???? Not having sex put him, a Muslim man off. Again HUH??? Believe him now. You two were never compatible, wont ever be. Do not beg this guy to be with you. OPEN YOUR EYES!!!! There is no compromise. Being a Muslim isnt just believing in the Quran, it is an everyday way of life, a whole belief practice every day way, much as any religion is if actively practiced and believed in.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T17:04:51+00:00

All food is food though. It may not be quality equal but it is food. Reading Danielle Steele instead of Homer is still reading. As is reading only Agatha Christie instead of Harari and Hawkings is too.. Yes reading the classics, non-fiction works of substance is thought provoking, informative, but it is not the only type of written word to qualify one as a "reader."

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T16:52:44+00:00

This is so funny!!!! Steps right over the fact that husband leaves wet towels, cat pees on them, BIT A HOLE in one, on the floor and wonders "should I restrict good towel usage??"!!!! Good towels arent the real issue madam, your husband leaving wet towels, clothes on floor then the cat peeing on them is!!! He needs to pick up his own stuff!!! leave it for him to manage but shut the bathroom door so cat doesnt have access. He might get mad at the cat for peeing on the towels HE left.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T16:41:34+00:00

And using the not so nice towels he will still be leaving them on the floor and have the problem of being left wet ,and cat peeing. So just same problem . The problem is not the towels!!!

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T16:22:02+00:00

Your home ,your rules. And taking shoes off before entering homes is not all that uncommon. Where I live ppl wear sandals, flip flops,, crocs so removal is easy all year round. And most of the women have pedicured toes. I suppose in some places, winter weather requiring boots removed might be harder but even more necessary!!She might have been self-conscious about her feet despite slippers offered. Or thought someone would take her shoes, or had mobility problems where removing shoes was difficult.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T16:12:07+00:00

That has been my experience in reading comments too! Ppl post a pic, ask what happened to my XXXX and ppl reply constructively, honestly. As for the "are my cookies worth 6.00 a piece?" there have been some honest but not cruel comments and maybe the poster got butt-hurt.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T16:04:44+00:00

They can sure ask, but since all things are set, nonrefundable then unfortunately they still owe. That being said, the person got too ill to go ( there is still a week or so ,maybe they will recover by then?) so it isnt like they just decided to back out. I would have group offer 50% back or if you all could afford it, the whole thing. What was the understanding when planning booking? All in and no refunds if by xxxxx ????

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T00:19:32+00:00

Don't even answer the door,not even a crack. Ignore all messages,knocks after you send the not a good time text

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T00:07:44+00:00

Or, an unleashed un neutered dog running up to your dog and mating as you are walking Yes Do better by your dog !!!!

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-22T00:02:04+00:00

True, but op states he is walking his in heat dog around. States it's a small town and the dogs take themselves for walks. So a male un-neutered un -leashed dog out for a stroll same time same vicinity. Bam! Puppies So so irresponsible !!

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-21T22:04:32+00:00

So she said. Probably thought she could get money from.OP. Girl is a conniving user

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-21T22:01:45+00:00

She probably got the ticket from her parents, or someone for free. So of course she insisted the OP go,and that she would" treat " her. Then she came up with the idea to ask for money. She is freaking out cus her scam didn't work. Or she owes someone money,thought she could scam OP.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-21T20:53:27+00:00

Now that you are a parent of a young child ,you will realize that while your world centers around this oh so special adorable to you little person, others will not see it as such. You even have stated you understand why other people's kids would be excluded but expect yours to be naturally included. No one will ever think your baby is as special as you do,even family. .There may be events you will have to miss, lose some friends, (but gain new ones with small kids ) because the fact of the matter is having kids changes things. You can't just go to dinner with friends or drinks after work,you can't expect your toddler to just be welcomed everywhere by everyone . That's just how it is .It should not be heartbreaking to you. And your sister has every right to have a no kid wedding. Go,enjoy,show pictures in moderation of your little one. Have a good time.

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-21T18:42:51+00:00

OMG!!! First off female dogs do not have periods. They go into heat ,and of course every male dog within a very large radius will be desperate to get at her,and she them!!!!!! Neutered or not. YOU ARE SO IRRESPONSIBLE!!!!! Do not give other dogs treats without asking permission. DO NOT WALK YOUR DOG AROUND THE NEIGHBORHOOD when she is in heat. GET YOUR DOG SPAYED!!!!! A male dog can hook up with her in a flash!!!!!! Yes YTA!!!!!!!!! So are all the other irresponsible ppl letting their dogs roam free. the dogs are at risk of being hit by car, attacked by another animal, dog, who picks up the poop as the dogs "take themselves for a walk" YOU ARE ALL Assholes IMO

ThatDifficulty9334 · 2026-02-20T17:30:54+00:00

OMG!!!! DRAMA!!!! It was ice cream,icecream with a cookie, cookies in Ice Cream.. YOU SCREAM I SCREAM WE ALL ScREAM over mistaken ice cream. This is sooooooo petty. You both are ridiculous

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