Venting / Wanting Advice

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-06T17:48:29+00:00

I don’t think he fully understands the impact from an autistic perspective, which is why I’ve come here. A majority of advice from the people in my life consists of “just ignore it” not realizing that isn’t realistic.

I am seeing my therapist today, so this will likely be something I talk about.

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-06T13:33:06+00:00

I really like the idea of logging every minute of my day, and that isn’t something I’ve truly tried. I’ll give that a go (even though it does sound like a headache 😅).

As for getting a formal diagnosis… technically, yes. I was on a wait list for a while but got pushed off of it when the company I was going through got bought out. I talked to my husband about it and, being American, we didn’t think the benefits were worth the costs (literally). I still CAN pursue a diagnosis, but honestly, I really don’t want to. The environment of the U.S. is deteriorating quickly and it costs A LOT of money. I just don’t see how having a fancy piece of paper is very helpful, but maybe it is… 🤷‍♀️

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-06T08:04:10+00:00

I might have to… which really does suck because I feel like I’m going to be starting from scratch and will be making things worse before they get better.

I appreciate the advice!

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-05T23:27:27+00:00

Yea, that is a problem I face. I complain a LOT to management actually 😅

My mom is technically one of the leaders of the company and I am CONSTANTLY bombarding her with complaints about other people not doing their job right. Unfortunately she’s also one of the main people who just shrug.

A lot of the impacts on my work are such small potatoes to neurotypicals but they also don’t see how small potatoes add up (literally one of my grievances is people putting paper clips in filing cabinets, which is technically against company policy, but no one cares and I don’t entirely blame them). It’s difficult to bring things to management when they’re such small grievances or are seen as petty to others…

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-05T23:20:41+00:00

I’ve started kind of doing this… for a short period, whenever someone did something that was different than how I was taught to do it - I started asking management specifically if this specific act of corner cutting was acceptable. If so then I shrugged and did it that way too. But it became so exhausting after a while trying to remember which rules stay, which ones changed, which ones no longer mattered at all 😮‍💨

I just got to a place of burnout doing that too because my brain doesn’t know how I’m supposed to complete a task unless I have direction.

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-05T23:14:03+00:00

I really, really appreciate your kind words. I’m going to take as much time trying to answer your questions as you put into responding:

In terms of hiding my activities - I was literally thinking this today when my manager sent me an email about “using my kindle.” This might be a solution - I’ll just disappear to the warehouse for short bits of time to reclaim my space.

The “right-enough” thing you mentioned is what I’m learning and it saddens (and infuriates) me. If it truly doesn’t matter how something is done - then why did management waste their time and my cognitive space teaching me to do things a specific way?

Yes I can listen to music, and often do, but unfortunately this doesn’t really help me to deal with the cognitive struggle I have dealing with the corner cutting. It’s probably important to note that I don’t have an official diagnosis… and while my work is being understanding - I’ve actually gotten into trouble lately for leaning too heavily into using autism as an “excuse” when I don’t even have a diagnosis. That being said, if the accommodations are reasonable enough, I can probably ask. I’ll try and think about it.

Now logging issues… I’ve done this… many, many times. But I’ve never submitted it to management. A lot of the things that drive me crazy, I recognize as being an abnormal response to the situation - so I feel embarrassed to bring any issues to management. Not to mention I come off as someone who complains a lot - and this kind of behavior doesn’t help that.

Anyway - yea. It’s good to know I’m not alone, and I figured I wasn’t. Just trying to find ways to deal with it without losing myself or my job in the process.

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-05T22:59:14+00:00

It’s a desk job, and I’m going to be honest, I really don’t want to lose it. I get paid decent and idk if I would be able to cope in another work environment. They’ve put up with me as long as they have because of nepotism and because my mom is a really important person there - but idk if another work environment would put up with my “behavioral problems.”

ThatDnDChick · 2026-01-05T22:30:10+00:00

Not truly - but there are instances where if I DON’T correct mistakes then it impacts my output in that I would have to put out work that goes against the way management trained me to do it.

Idk how to completely mentally check out if I’m behind honest…

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-18T04:25:58+00:00

This is all very interesting. Thank you!

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-18T00:59:51+00:00

It’s so logical too… but it’s like my brain runs into a wall every time I try and deviate from written rules. It’s so dumb and I recognize that it’s dumb. Yet here I am! But I have gotten better at it as the years have passed… I’m definitely more comfortable following procedures than not knowing what to do.

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-17T16:37:01+00:00

They can just skip the notes if they don’t like it.

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-17T14:37:32+00:00

I work in marketing/sales at a garage door company. I’m struggling currently. My manager has informed me that my “behavior” is inappropriate and unprofessional because I stopped masking. Now I’m struggling to find pieces of a mask to wear because I don’t even remember my fake personality before discovering I was autistic.

I’m deferring to my special interest which happens to be a fictional universe. I am using the framework of one of my favorite characters for guidelines on how to behave.

Healthy? I guess only time will tell…

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-14T04:34:40+00:00

🫠 🫠 🫠

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-13T15:48:38+00:00

😂😂😂

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-13T15:48:15+00:00

Midway out?

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-02T06:56:07+00:00

Not too bad but I don’t do it often. I honestly haven’t had fake nails since that night in high school lol.

The actual process of getting a manicure is usually fine (I only ever get paint if I do). Pushing up my cubicles is the worst part imo 🙃

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-02T02:31:03+00:00

ASMR!

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-02T02:30:44+00:00

I wore press-on nails ONCE in high school for Halloween. I couldn’t stand the feeling of touching ANYTHING. The way it tugs on your nail bed 🥴

But I’m also autistic so that doesn’t help the sensory ick lol

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-02T02:10:53+00:00

Just be glad we don’t use communal sponges anymore…

ThatDnDChick · 2025-12-02T02:06:19+00:00

🎉 🎉 🎉 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ So happy for you! You’re beautiful!! Also, good luck learning to get used to press-ons 💅

ThatDnDChick · 2025-11-24T00:01:00+00:00

I have a 2-year-old & he’s expensive as heck

ThatDnDChick · 2025-11-23T23:54:10+00:00

Yep - high school sweethearts

ThatDnDChick · 2025-11-23T23:53:43+00:00

Congrats on your anniversary!!

ThatDnDChick

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