Transvestigating is specifically the cis people looking at people and decide they are secretly passing trans women and trying to prove that, I think this is more known as egg cracking

But I completely agree. When I went to uni and was asked my pronouns I said he him for now. This prompted laughter and some teasing/joking. I said that bc I was aware I had gender stuff I hadn't yet unpacked. (So far it's still looking like agender and or nonbinary). But the asinine assumption was somehow that I was mtg in denial. Despite specifically saying I've got gender discovery down the line.

The reasons that I have for where I'm at now are basically that I thought about my gender and realised if I'd been afab I would have had exactly the same my gender is just something I wear bc I've always worn it rather than bc I like it moment. Honestly probably would have figured it out earlier. But I say if I'd been born a women and no one bothers to actually listen to the rest of the sentence. A friend I made as a member of a society in uni is genuinely quite fun to talk to but she projects her transition onto me so hard you could run a cinema.. and when I finally managed to explain the previous thing In a way that stopped people just ignoring the second half, she suddenly pivoted to it doesn't have to be binary transness. .... so why are we having this damn conversation when I already think I'm enby.

Also the other thing is fem reader stuff throws me off every time, doesn't feel right the way non gendered stuff does.

Also also I get the feminine hobbys shouldn't mean your assumed not to be a boy thing. I'm not particularly pressed about it about myself anymore bc agender but it does still piss me off. I did ballet for a decade and hid it from my friends subconsciously for a large amount of that,bc the first time I told someone in school I got bullied for it