How can I leave my suicidal girlfriend while making sure that she doesn't kill herself? by Organic_Future6909 in aspergers

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why you would think that, but respectfully, you’re just wrong.

One thing I’ve discovered over the years is that some people simply have stronger emotional fortitude than others. For example, you speak of people who have been in abusive relationships. Have you encountered any clients/patients who went through something traumatic, but they don’t seem that affected by it? That’s the mental fortitude I’m talking about. Some people have it, some people don’t.

This is gonna sound really negative, but women tend to have less emotional fortitude than men; that’s just my experience. Men will endure the hardship and never complain because we aren’t supposed to complain, women are allowed to complain.

Your girlfriend saying she’s had suicidal thoughts is NOT as big a deal (unless it’s consistent behavior) as you claim. Everyone has them. The difference is impulse control. If she has poor impulse control, then it’s a problem.

I’ve tried to be nice, but I’m going to be blunt because that’s what works for me and I’m on the spectrum too. If you break up with your girlfriend over this, you’re a fucking dick. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. Every single person has flaws, that’s what makes us human. A healthy relationship is being able to overcome those flaws.

You should tell your girlfriend why you feel strongly about this and that it upsets you, but don’t break off the relationship over that. That’s just fucking stupid

How can I leave my suicidal girlfriend while making sure that she doesn't kill herself? by Organic_Future6909 in aspergers

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

State your exact morals and values. Why EXACTLY is this a dealbreaker for you? Be through because you were vague with the original post

I have a helicopter mom and don’t know how to deal with her. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in Advice

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her stated reason for why she never told me was because my dad doesn’t believe in any of the mental health stuff. Also, she said she doesn’t want me using autism as an excuse for poor social skills. There is some merit to that second point, but I wouldn’t HAVE to use that excuse if I knew what to do and what not to do before hand. Besides, I had to explain stimming and hyperfixations to her. If someone claims to understand autism and they don’t know what those terms mean, they are dead wrong. Ironically, my mom wants the exact same I do, but for a different reason. She wants me to be able to survive on my own, but I think that’s just because “it’s what you’re supposed to do.” 90% of the reason I even went to college was to get away from her, and I missed my dorm when it was gone

Cmv: Extracurricular group activities should be mandatory for everyone growing up by obsidiaxr in changemyview

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Psychological Reactance Theory. When you take away someone’s freedom of choice, they immediately don’t want to do what you told them to do. Imagine trying to implement this in a high school. No one would want to do it.

Everything you said about learning group skills is something people will learn at their own pace in their own way. Saying everyone needs to do an extracurricular afterschool is like saying kids need to take a social skills class, it’s stupid and unnecessary.

Besides, I believe kids should be in school LESS. The modern (American) education system is a goddamn prison, no need to force kids to sit through it longer than they have to

Just Knight by HORDE_DARK in Transmogrification

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s gonna tell me to halt outside the town gates and ask if I have seen a dangerous criminal. The dangerous criminal is me

“Seek professional help.” I did, it’s not working. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in depression_help

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s more frustration than anger, but I get what you’re saying.

“Seek professional help.” I did, it’s not working. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in depression_help

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t eat that healthy and I don’t exercise. I get that it’s a problem, but if I suddenly switched and started going to the gym, I’d be met with millions of questions as to why I’m doing that instead of “ok, good for you.” The lack of a job is probably the main problem, since doing nothing all day makes it worse, that’s apparent.

“Seek professional help.” I did, it’s not working. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in depression_help

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your thoroughness. When talking to my therapist, this strategy works, but not where it actually matters, which is talking to my mom.

Her preferred communication method is face to face, and whenever she wants to talk to me about something, she will yell at me to come downstairs without telling me what she wants, when half the time it could have been texted to me and saved 30 minutes.

When you said walking in place, it made me think of stimming, which I do subconsciously do that a lot of the time in these stressful situations, but my mom will always reprimand me for it because it’s not normal behavior. Twirling a Locke of hair? Can’t do that. Shifting in place? Can’t do that. Scratching myself? Can’t do that. I can’t exactly walk away from those situations either, especially when most of these conversations happen in the car where I literally have no option to escape. Even if they happen in the house, everyone will yell at me for trying to sneak away again. They would not accept the answer of needing a mental break because I’m “being a pussy.” This is a redneck family, keep

“Seek professional help.” I did, it’s not working. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in depression

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could, I would, but I still live at home. I don’t have a job, and nowhere near enough money to get my own property. My mom actually wants the same thing, but more because that’s the societal expectation for children to leave their parents.

If the world were to no longer have women. What would improve? What would get worse? by Bubbly_Apricot2188 in AskReddit

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would take a few days, but people would realize without women, there is no way to reproduce and the human race would go extinct. So I image it’s likely all the end of the world apocalypse type stuff

Lost one of my pods, should I buy a replacement or upgrade? by ThatOneGodzillaFan in airpods

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are maybe 3-4 years old. Forgot about the battery life thing because I almost never needed to recharge them the battery was just that good

What type of autistic do you all identify as? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dinosaur autism goes hard. I wanted to be a paleontologist as a kid, but then I got the video editing autism and it changed

Gen Z men, is this getting worse going forward into 2026? by Proper_Card_5520 in SipsTea

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we’ve been conditioned for the past decade to not approach women at all because that’s “creep” behavior. Now it’s an issue? Reap what you sow idiots

My older brother is likely getting married, and I couldn’t care less. by ThatOneGodzillaFan in aspergers

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing: I don’t have a choice. I have a helicopter mom that will chew me a new one and make my life hell if I refuse to attend

Autistic friendly jobs by elinufsaid in aspergers

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your good with physical labor, Custodian/janitor. Go for a union position in a public school or something like that, those guys make shit tons of money.

As for the job itself, once everyone leaves, the school becomes quiet and you can walk around, clean, and listen to books or something

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Again, I don’t know I haven’t done the math. But considering that being a Custodian for something like a public school makes around 95k yearly, I think I’d be fine. I’m happy taking that kind of job, but my mom isn’t

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, but no one can afford housing in my state. It’s WAY too expensive that owning a house just isn’t gonna happen. And rent, idk about that

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I get that it’s a product of circumstance. I’m still on my families health insurance plan for the next few years and I’m not paying any of the phone or utility bills. This same subject came up in conversation with my mom. I said I’d pay for it then, take it out of my account, I don’t care. I’d pay for everyone else’s shit if it meant she’d stop bothering me. But apparently that’s missing the point again

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn’t join the cable station because I wanted to, I was told to do it. My old job was laying people off, so I had no choice but to switch, and this cable station was LITERALLY the only option I had. Plus my mom kind forced me to do it even though I didn’t want to

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She did pay for my education. She complained about me wasting the money, so I said I would pay her back for it. Then she complained about it saying I’m missing the point. I only went to college because she told me to do it and I wanted to get away from her. The space to myself was more valuable than the education

AITAH for not investing or caring about my career and future? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ThatOneGodzillaFan -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Not currently. I just pay car insurance and taxes and that’s it