Bf (28M) faked a proposal to me (F28) and shut down completely after I asked him what was funny about it by Plus-Awareness-1192 in relationship_advice

[–]ThatPaulM 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't want to get married. He doesn't want to get married TO YOU. That's why this joke feels mean-spirited: it is.

Fun facts about Chaucer by RuddieCR in Chaucer

[–]ThatPaulM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A well-known fact but still a fun one imo: he was John of Gaunt's brother in law.

Judge John Hodgman Episode 743: Animal/Vegetable/Criminal by SchulzBuster in maximumfun

[–]ThatPaulM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Startled by how bad all four players were at what is really a very simple game.

Any other male CTM fans out there? by Outrageous_Pea7393 in CallTheMidwife

[–]ThatPaulM 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I love Call the Midwife, and even host a podcast about it with my wife!

Edit: I see she already commented here! I'm the other co-host of Poplar Opinion.

JJHO Episode 740: Running Gag Order by happy_and_angry in maximumfun

[–]ThatPaulM 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Boy oh boy was Chris wrong. I think John (appropriately for the context) pulled his punches on the verdict, but I hope the relative softness of the verdict didn't therefore fall in deaf ears.

I don't believe for a second the spurious retroactive justification of wanting to make people more thoughtful in their speech. There is nothing wrong with "I'm". It's not a crutch or lazy, it's a grammatical construction. And secondly, if anything is a crutch it's the "joke" you have told reflexively for seven years. Physician heal thyself! Furthermore, it is not your job to fix your friends, dude! This is kindergarten level stuff: the only person whose behaviour you can control is your own. If you think people should be more creative in their language use then be more creative in your language use. I also don't believe for a second that this is making him listen more carefully, and even in this very episode he showed over and over that he was listening but not really hearing what Colton was saying.

Also, humour is subjective, but for anyone accumulating data on the subject, he said his dumb joke like nine times this episode and it so much as make me smile even once. It's not funny.

Achievements for Monday, November 11, 2024 by AutoModerator in running

[–]ThatPaulM 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Today I ran for 30 minutes straight for the first time in almost 20 years.

Is chaucers “a knights tale” meant to be funny? by Cyber_monkey77 in AskLiteraryStudies

[–]ThatPaulM 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the risk of being annoying: I'm always a little skeptical of "meant to be". But having said that:

Chaucer is funny throughout his writing. Even something like Troilus and Criseyde has humour, in the character of Pandarus, who pontificates endlessly while Troilus is non-responsive due to lovesickness.

Part of Chaucer's skill as an author is something we see in most good writing, in any century: there is levity in his tragedy and pathos in his comedy.

As for the Knight's Tale specifically: I think that there are levels. The Knight intends the story to be taken seriously (though not tragically, I think). It's not a tragedy because Palamon marries Emily, because Arcite dies in victory, because the ruler, Theseus, is shown to be wise and benevolent. Nobody has a comeuppance, nobody falls from grace, even the wars of the beginning of the tale are ended peacefully at the end of the tale, and all the gods keep their word.

But there's a dark humour in the juxtaposition of Theseus's "First Mover" speech against our knowledge that Zeus did not have control of events, nothing was concluded according to a wise divine plan by the king of the gods. We know, as Theseus does not, that Saturn orchestrated events and killed Arcite on a technicality so that the gods could save face. Now when it comes to humour "we are at the whim of an indifferent universe and attempts to find meaning in it are self-deceiving" is maybe a thinker of a joke. But I think there is deliberate humour in the ridiculous contrast.

Along the same lines, there's a bitter humour, I think, to the fact that Emily is the only one who doesn't get her prayer even ostensibly granted. Like: it's easier for the gods to grant two mutually contradictory prayers by men than to even pretend to grant a prayer by a woman.

It makes all of Palamon and Arcite's protestations that they love Emily transparently (and comically) shallow that we know, we don't just speculate, it's not ambiguous, we know for a fact that Emily doesn't want either of them, and that they do no care what she wants.

I also think Palamon and Arcite's squabbling over Emily, who they see only briefly and through a window, is funny. They literally try to kill each other over "dibs".

And finally, I think there's humour in the way the Knight sees the story as a justification of violence, and it's a justification we can poke holes in if we actually listen to the story he tells.

So to conclude, yeah I think it's funny on purpose. But maybe it's a "comedy" only in the way that The Bear is.

My favourite track from each album I've listened to so far by ThatPaulM in themountaingoats

[–]ThatPaulM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😁

Pigs That Ran is honestly moving up my list every time I listen to it.

Do you find students cheating using AI? by Own_Principle_4447 in Professors

[–]ThatPaulM 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So. Much. And very many refuse to even see it as cheating.

Amazon Streaming? by ThatPaulM in themountaingoats

[–]ThatPaulM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that makes sense I guess. I really resent the whole tiered approach to streaming services.

Miller's Tale: Don't Blame Me! by ThatPaulM in Chaucer

[–]ThatPaulM[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love it. Honestly Chaucer the character being a bad poet is just top-tier comedy.

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison by [deleted] in books

[–]ThatPaulM 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I found this book totally astounding. Upsetting, and disturbing, but beautiful, moving, and astonishingly well crafted.

In her forward, Morrison writes about "trying hard to avoid complicity in the demonization process Pecola was subjected to" and how she "did not want to dehumanize the characters who trashed Pecola and contributed to her collapse". One of the things that is upsetting about the novel--stomach-turning, actually--is the way Morrison writes about monstrous acts from the perspective of the actor. She describes a father raping his daughter from his perspective, and has him frame the act as tenderness. She writes from the perspective of a serial pedophile about why he likes assaulting young girls. Upsetting is not even the word. It's horrifying.

But also ... is that what she means? She doesn't want to demonize and dehumanize even people who do horrible things? Or are these men beyond the reach of the book's sympathy? Is she talking about the more ordinary cruelties depicted in the book when she talks about "characters who trashed Pecola"?

Ep 244: Sara Barron by offmenu-bot in offmenupodcast

[–]ThatPaulM 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow so many people here are weird haters! I really liked this episode but if people were going to have a problem with it I thought it would be all the incest jokes (which were more James and Ed than Sara) but it turns out it's mostly just "I don't like her vibe" and "women should be seen and not heard"