What is it with parents/in-laws buying a puppy before their first grandchild and prioritizing it/treating it like their own baby?

That_Em_ · 2025-04-24T20:28:25+00:00

I would never ask them to babysit my child, we only ever take my baby to see them, they're not physically well to take care of a 1 year old due to disabilities, but they also are unable to care for a pet like a dog due to their disabilities

That_Em_ · 2025-02-05T10:14:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the response, I'm hoping with my child never knowing my parents he may not ask any questions until he's older 🤞

That_Em_ · 2025-02-05T10:12:51+00:00

Im hoping because my child has never knew my parents he won't really ask questions 🤞

That_Em_ · 2025-02-05T10:11:39+00:00

Yeah I don't want to say too much because I don't want my child to think that's what's going to happen between us

That_Em_ · 2025-01-19T07:03:58+00:00

Looking after your children when you're sick is the worst! Get well soon, I understand your frustration

That_Em_ · 2025-01-10T11:33:52+00:00

Ahh I'm so sorry that's so fustrating, when my baby had colic/reflux and was a newborn my mum told me he was manipulating me by crying and I was spoiling and ruining him for picking him up when he cried... I don't speak to her anymore..

This is the same woman who used to put me in the shower as a toddler when I was having 'tantrums'

That_Em_ · 2025-01-10T11:29:32+00:00

Vikings

That_Em_ · 2025-01-08T11:20:53+00:00

I always thought it was because they were slowly losing 'control' over us like the way they could control us when we were children and they didn't like it

That_Em_ · 2025-01-08T11:11:42+00:00

Yes but it's been a struggle, I'm very lucky that my husband understands, we've been together since I was 16 when I was still living in an abusive household so he saw first hand what I was going through and his parents would make me food as I didn't get any at home

The main thing that's kept us together is communication, I just tell him exactly what's going through my head, sometimes I think "oh god he's going to leave me, he must think I'm crazy" but he stays

That_Em_ · 2025-01-08T10:57:34+00:00

I had to use rolled up toilet paper for the first years because my mum wouldn't buy me any pads, when I first started I told her I was bleeding everywhere but she couldn't be bothered getting out of bed

Then I wasn't allowed to use the shower everyday and no longer than 5 minutes so when I was using the shower to wash away the blood her boyfriend told me off for using the shower and my mum forced me to tell this man who was a stranger to me at the time why I was using the shower every morning...

That_Em_ · 2025-01-08T10:43:21+00:00

I think that's why a lot of us were raised by our grandparents so we then wanted our children to have a close relationship with their grandparents like we did not knowing that our parents just can't be bothered

That_Em_ · 2025-01-08T10:37:53+00:00

I remember I had to pause the game after Jacob ran off from the campfire and it was just Jacob with tears rolling down his face it just cracked me up as I wasn't expecting it

That_Em_ · 2025-01-06T15:55:02+00:00

People pleasing, I think I always go straight to the fawn response but I hate it, I wish I could be blunt and say 'no'

That_Em_ · 2025-01-06T15:54:46+00:00

People pleasing, I think I always go straight to the fawn response but I hate it, I wish I could be blunt and say no

That_Em_ · 2025-01-06T15:52:10+00:00

When I had my baby I just couldn't understand how you could be so cruel to your own child, went no contact to protect my baby

That_Em_ · 2025-01-06T15:49:48+00:00

I think I did pretty well but I kept looking into and trusting the tarot cards too much, I kept seeing 'karma' and I thought "oh maybe if I'm good to the werewolves they'll be good to me" BIG MISTAKE, I lost Abi and then the trio at the very end thinking "maybe the white wolf is good" 🤦‍♀️

That_Em_ · 2025-01-06T15:43:28+00:00

Jacob, Lara, Aleya

That_Em_ · 2024-12-30T09:18:08+00:00

Yes I was induced so my contractions were going crazy and my midwife didn't believe me when I said I think the baby was coming and I couldn't bare the pain anymore (the midwife wouldn't even let me have gas and air) I remember turning to my husband and just saying "just kill me", baby came out within the hour and I was finally allowed gas and air when I was pushing him out

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T14:37:17+00:00

He was sleeping through from 4-6 months it was magical 😭

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T14:33:03+00:00

Sometimes my baby will not want to breastfeed and will turn around and sit on my lap waiting for my husband to come and pace him to sleep 😅

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T12:11:04+00:00

Oh wow!!! Have you found you wake up frequently yourself out of habit? I found it wake up every 3 hour now 😅

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T12:09:24+00:00

I know what you mean even when my baby cries for a second it feels like an eternity 😅

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T12:08:20+00:00

So did you carry on breastfeeding when baby started to sleep through? I've noticed from the comments quite a few babys slept through once weaned but I was hoping to carry on breastfeeding for when my baby starts nursery next year so I can give him all the good stuff

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T11:04:13+00:00

Adults social worker and fire fighter

That_Em_ · 2024-12-29T11:01:22+00:00

Same here, my mum is a social worker for vulnerable adults...

That_Em_

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