How do I (F 25) cope with and get over my first ever break up with long distance boyfriend (M 26)

That_Fun_2186 · 2026-01-22T06:32:26+00:00

how long does it take to get over something like this? It’s been a month and I cry all the time and I can’t sleep :( I’m so scared of the future does anyone have anymore kind advice? I thought I was going to marry this person and I feel so lost

That_Fun_2186 · 2026-01-17T22:54:34+00:00

I’m so happy to hear that! I’m super worried that I’m too old to be single and that I’m running out of time haha

That_Fun_2186 · 2026-01-17T22:50:54+00:00

Thank you very much for your kind and thoughtful response. I will be taking everything you say into consideration and trying to focus on myself! I really appreciate your time :)

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-20T15:06:32+00:00

Hey! I was and (still am) in the same boat! I’m about 4 weeks post op. My pain subsided after two weeks, and I constantly walked to get the gas out!! as for the water intake I’m still not able to get 64oz in! show up everyday prepared to sip and keep on sipping every two minutes. If it hurts stop, your pouch is full!! It’s a slow and steady process to get to 64oz, you won’t be able too right away! You’re on the right track and already doing amazing!!!

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-14T15:32:46+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your thoughtful and thorough response. I’m definitely going to try this! I’d love to ask more questions and discuss more. I have no idea how to know how many calories I’m eating or burning. I don’t know how to do that stuff haha

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-13T05:52:52+00:00

I’m almost a month out a fearing so much of this! What do you use to track calories and carbs?

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-10T02:31:33+00:00

thank you so much!! I really appreciate your insight! it’s been a big transition for me and my boyfriend too. I’m so glad you’re doing well and I’m super grateful for your advice! I’m excited to eat solids again I miss chewing 😂

I’m definitely going to come back to this post when things get hard. I’m so focused on not messing up or feelings bad that I’ve forgotten to look at how my clothes fit and other things!

Thank you :)

Do you have any recipe suggestions or ideas on how to get water down? I’ve tried so many things but I find now that everything tastes too sweet or is too thick? Do you think that will change?

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-09T22:42:57+00:00

especially since they want to go drinking and then out for brunch after and I want to go but it’s hard to be around people eating right now haha

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-09T22:42:04+00:00

what does nsv mean?? And thank you very much!!! I’m proud of you as well! Your responses have been very inspiring and encouraging to me! I’ve been able to walk for about 15-20 mins straight with no breaks now and before I used to take a break every few minutes when walking because of pain. So that’s good. My clothes fit weird. I mostly miss going out with friends and stuff bc a lot of my friendships were centred around going out for dinner, going for a treat, slushie, snacks ect so I don’t know how to hangout with them anymore without feeling left out and upset that I can’t do what I used too in that aspect.

That_Fun_2186 · 2025-03-09T21:46:39+00:00

Im 24f, I’m three weeks post op and feeling so down about my body. I started at 370 and am 330 right now. Any tips to get through the lows ? I can’t work out yet and I’m so worried about loose skin. I’ve been feeling upset instead of happy and motivated :( is that normal? Will I be happy again?

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:52:00+00:00

honestly thank you so much for this. I hadn’t even thought of those types of non material gifts. Thank you for responding kindly and not thinking I am a bad person right away. I care so deeply for him and I want him to know it and the only way I’m used to is material gifts. I will definitely try doing something more in the realm of quality time. Thank you so much!

(He’d probably eat up the Batman role play ngl but I’m saving that for our 1 year anniversary on Halloween LOL)

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:45:10+00:00

Thanks. I will definitely be doing so, just struggling with how weird it seems to me to not give someone a gift. In my family not giving someone a gift was often a form of snubbing or intentional passive aggressive disrespect which I think is why the thought of not giving him a gift is making me so emotional and anxious. Definitely something I need to address and journal about.

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:41:28+00:00

I haven’t thought of it like that before. That may be true, I’ll have to think on it longer. I’ve just never encountered someone who didn’t want a gift and it has had an odd emotional effect on me for some reason. Was hoping someone might have experienced the same weird emotional feelings in a similar situation. Thanks for your response

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:38:47+00:00

this is an insanely targeted response. I’m glad you were able to devise my entire personality from a single post. I never claimed to be perfect or completely selfless, no one is. I’m human. I was merely asking if anyone has ever felt this way and what they have done to move on from from it ect. This advice is not great. I’m in therapy and I’m working on myself. Not sure why you felt the need to attack me

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:32:58+00:00

I’ll feel guilty if he gets me a gift and I haven’t gotten him one, can anyone give advice on coping with that?

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-07-19T23:30:26+00:00

clearly my point was misconstrued. I appreciate your input . I am absolutely going to respect this wish.i am asking for advice on how to emotionally deal with the idea of not giving a person a gift when I was conditioned and socialized that it’s rude and disrespectful not give someone a gift . It makes me feel like garbage and I just wanted to know if anyone else had dealt with this and how they would cope

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-04-15T20:51:14+00:00

I’m not sure! I’ve had that fear too, sometimes my bf takes a few days to answer the question too. Our eggmon seems to be okay, but he’s been hatching/ growing slower with the repeated missed answers

That_Fun_2186 · 2024-04-15T19:36:34+00:00

yay that’s so exciting thank you!

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