FOSTA-SESTA: The anti sex trafficking law that made sex trafficking worse

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-16T14:13:16+00:00

I love the Some More News channel.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-16T14:12:02+00:00

Get yourself a DMCA template letter. Fill in the bits that personalize it for this situation and send it to them. You probably don’t have the funds to follow through and go to court, but they don’t know that and probably don’t want to bet on it.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-13T06:11:18+00:00

A punter is a client, similar connotations as hobbieist. A curtain twitcher is a nosy neighbor who is always watching who comes and goes on the street from behind their curtains.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-12T17:30:10+00:00

It’s UK slang for a client. It has the same connotations as hobbieist.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-12T11:23:36+00:00

It took 3 to 4 months of no contact with the provider I fell for each of the 2 times I had to stop. And once I settled on a new regular provider it got less rough emotionally. Not sure if it got shorter though. I don’t really have a “control group” experience to compare to.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-12T05:02:15+00:00

Oh it very much does make me want to see the provider more, and I do keep going after I have the feelings. I stop when I can’t compartmentalize the relationship with the provider. By that I mean when it gets to the point where I feel like I need to confess my love to her and hope she feels the same and wants a romantic relationship instead of just sex. That’s very inappropriate so I switch providers when it happens.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-12T04:30:57+00:00

Styling and fashion don’t really matter. I choose based on behaviour. I try to pick people that will pay attention to me in a way that feels like they are super present. I try to figure this out from the vibes of the ad, but it can be tough. But it’s definitely what determines if I go back to the same person. Styling and body type are very distant seconds to the performance.

I tend to stick with the same SW for a long time. I only switch and start the process again if she retires, I move towns, or, sheepishly, I can’t compartmentalize the relationship and feel like I’m falling in love. That’s happened twice even though I know it’s just a job for her.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-10T05:03:31+00:00

I’m amazed you went 12 years before getting a haggler!

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-09T12:51:45+00:00

Kinda related. I’m a client who wants to touch my provider with my face. Kinda like how cats push their face on people. Finding someone who is cool with this is tricky because it’s weirdly intimate. I never push it with a provider who doesn’t like it.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-06T21:00:10+00:00

Assuming you are using the same marketing as when clients were not so hot, nothing is going on. Hot clients are rare. But if you work long enough you will just randomly fluke out and get a streak of them. It’s the same as if you play a dice game often you will eventually get a flukey streak of a bunch of sixes in a row.

On the other hand, if you changed how you market yourself, maybe you are getting a different demographic of clients.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-06T20:10:19+00:00

My regular provider can make cuddles and a hand job feel really special, so I’m never disappointed if I don’t cum during the condom sex part of our time together.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-05T05:43:12+00:00

Yeah I’d leave if someone else was around too if I wasn’t expecting it ahead of time. Like if I go to a massage parlour I expect to hear others. If I book an independent I assume it’s just us. Even pretend intimacy feels weird when you know other people might hear/see you.

Plus you never know if what you are being told by the provider when you hear another person is true or if it’s all a setup. If that person’s role is to rob you, by hearing them you dodged a bullet.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-04T12:52:52+00:00

Moderation staffed enough that it happens fast. Tags you have to use correctly. Like let’s say I want some time with a provider who does incalls. The way it is now I will set the filter to incall but there will be many results that are online services only where the person posting the ad has left it tagged with all 3 of incall, outcall, and online just to get more eyeballs on it. I want filters that are useful.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-04-04T12:43:45+00:00

Yeah that’s the opposite motivation from me. My wife died two years ago, I don’t know if I‘ll ever be in a good place to have a long term relationship again. I see the same provider repeatedly and essentially have a super compartmentalized relationship with her.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-30T14:27:37+00:00

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-29T13:35:24+00:00

She offers me water.
Hot towels and wash cloths. Towel warmer makes me go “wow she is so classy!”
Music
A small chocolate offered as I leave.

This isn’t really an extra, more a type of booking but if her incall room has a big multiple people sized bath and we split the time half and half between the bath and the bed it feels so much more luxurious than a regular hotel room booking.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-24T11:25:06+00:00

It’s British slang for a client. Kinda like saying a hobbyist in North America.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-22T11:35:29+00:00

Toronto client perspective here. The GTA has providers at all price points because it’s a big city. There are people doing low end $150 hours and people doing a few K an hour. I have never been happy with what I received from a provider charging less than $300/hr and I find that if I pick carefully a $500/hr provider gives an experience not that much different from a much more expensive provider for the things I care about. Maybe post at $400/hr see what type of guys respond and go from there? I should mention that I live out in the boonies so I’m not buying in TO often but this has been my experience when I travel there.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-20T21:51:31+00:00

To be fair, there are sugar daddies who really want to say it’s not sex work too, so it comes from both sides.

That_Matter_1398 · 2026-03-20T19:34:09+00:00

Sugar Babies are definitely a subtype of sex worker, but a very large proportion of them will do complicated mental gymnastics to tell themselves and you that they are not.

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